OH NO!!! I've turned into my mother!

@SusanLee (1920)
United States
May 17, 2008 8:53pm CST
When did you realize you had turned into your mother? I was in my very early 20s. My children were probably three and four years old. I was heading down the hallway and glanced into the bathroom and caught my reflection in the mirror. I was looking into the face of my mother and it wasn't good. I was scowling, frowning, and looking very unapproacable. It was an eye opener. From that point on I made it a point to not let how I felt on the inside be reflected on the outside. I also realized that maybe all those times I thought mom didn't like me really had nothing to do with me after all. I gained a new appreciation for my mom and how she felt all those years in an unhappy marriage. Children can only go by what they see on our faces, then they pick up on other things.
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• United States
18 May 08
I knew I was alot like her but it really hit me recently. We lived with them temporarily while we built our house. And I saw first hand how she treated everyone around her and how it affected them. It was not nice and I realized much of it is exactly what I do, too. :( That was eye opening. Now I try VERY hard to be aware of when I am saying or doing something that she would say or do and change it. Sometimes I fail...but at least I am trying. I don't want to become an angry, bitter person. Here is a cute quote for you: "Mirror, mirror on the wall...I am my mother after all." anonymous
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
18 May 08
My daughter says I am looking more and more like my dad each day. I tell her Nope he is looking more like me each day. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
25 May 08
Why do we always seem to pick up the bad stuff? I noticed some gestures I've picked up from my parents too. I catch my self standing at the stove with one hand on my hip stirring a pot of what ever, my mom always had a hand on her hip when she cooked. I also catch myself rolling my shoulders and pulling at my shirt like my dad. I think these are good things though, it's like even when my parents pass away, they will definitely always be with me and in me.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
18 May 08
I am my fathers caregiver and have been for almost 5 years now. he lives with my wife and I. She works and I stay at home to take care of dad. recently I looked at some phots taken recently of dad and I and I realized I am starting to look just like him. I also realized how much I am turning into him as of late. I had never been like him till I started caring for him HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
25 May 08
As I get older I notice a lot of my family members starting to look like each other, things I didn't notice when we were younger.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
18 May 08
I don't think i have turned into my mother. Unfortunatley I have noticed over the last years that i am my father (God help me). Don't get me wrong he had some good qualities but he was HARDHEADED and STUBBORN. And if thought he was right he wouldn't change his mind if Jesus himself appeared in front of him to tell him he was wrong.I try hard to always know why i think i'm right and have the good sense to relize when i'm wrong, and ADMIT IT!
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
25 May 08
Do you think our parents ever learned that lesson as they got older? Now you try to be aware, do you think they tried to be aware? NAWWW
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
26 May 08
You meant that question as a joke, right?
• Philippines
18 May 08
I realized that I turned into my mother when I discovered that I have somehow got her talent for decorating and cooking...
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
25 May 08
Have you discovered any negative traits?