What do you do when your spouse is snoring?

@Emiese (994)
Sweden
May 18, 2008 4:24am CST
I have a problem that I am certain I share with many of you! My boyfriend snores! Not a little now and then but constantly the whole night. The only time he doesn't snore is when he is laying on his belly. Unfortunately that is his least favourite position so even if he lays down that way, as soon as he is falling asleep he moves over to his side or his back. I have tried poking and kicking but that doesn't work. Even if it does wake him up he still falls back asleep within seconds and at his second breath he is snoring. Of course when he snores he doesn't rest well so he wakes up tired, and I am even more tired.. Of course I now one can go to the doctors and get different remedies etc. But I'd thought I hear with you guys first! Have you got the same problems, how are you solving it? Does it work? What is your experience? Any working remedies that doesn't include going to the doctors office? I would gladly try anything!
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
18 May 08
Oh the joys of being single Sorry but that was the first thought that came to mind as I know exactly what it's like to have your whole night's sleep disturbed by someone snoring by your side. I have no remedies except.... have you also got a sofa maybe even in another room?
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
No, I have only got a one bed room apartment so then there is only the kitchen.. And either way, I'm not sure that it would be a long time solution that I'd let him sleep on the couch every night. Seems a bit rude, doesn't it.. As for being single, I remember those good days too!
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
18 May 08
Nooooooo You misunderstood I didn't mean that HE should sleep on the sofa, after all he is the guest. You have the problem so I intended that YOU sleep on the sofa
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
That is the worst suggestion ever! You of all people should know that I need to sleep well to be able to make all this money online that I am expecting too!
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@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
18 May 08
I can definitely sympathize with you. My husband snores a good part of the night too. I poke him and he usually stops and sometimes long enough for me to get back to sleep, but not always. Sometimes I'm poking him just about all night, it seems. Does he smoke? I know smoking can make it worse. My husband quit for a while when we first got married and he didn't snore at all, and I thought his friends were nuts because they said he snored real bad but I never heard it. He started smoking again several weeks later and ohmy, I knew they were telling the truth.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
No, "unfortunately" he doesn't smoke, so he can't quit and stop snoring as a side effect :) He was a smoker but stopped about a year ago, and the snoring has only gotten worse after that! Godd thought though! Thank you!
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@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
18 May 08
Oh wow, that is odd for sure. Is he backwards at everything? LOL ...
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Backwards about everything... hmm.. well, now when I think about it there might be a few more things that he does backwards. Unfortunately none of them stops him from snoring :))
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@ellie333 (21029)
18 May 08
I would try the pharmacy as they sell nasal strips that help with snoring but a work collegues husband didn't believe he snored even though she had been telling him for ages that he did so she videoed him snoring on her phone and put on YouTube so if you want a laugh, and of course in now believes her LOL, search for sleepless in Exmouth. Its hilarious but obviously not for her and you that have to put up with it. Good luck in finding a remedy. I hope you receive some good tips. Ellie :D
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Thank you! I'll check that out! I have the same problem though, my boyfriend doesn't think it is as bad. Sometimes when I kick him for snoring he goes "I wasn't snoring cause I wasn't even asleep", yeah right... That recording thing was not a bad idea I must say!!
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@ellie333 (21029)
18 May 08
Well now its been recorded he believes how bad it is and is more willing to get help to sort it so maybe recording your boyfriend will have the same effect because how can they know if they are asleep how bad it is for the partner. Ellie :D
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
You are absolutely right! Tonight i will prepare the phone next to the bed! Thank you!
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@tessah (6622)
• United States
19 May 08
oh its horrible!! i so know how you feel. my ex not only was a snorer.. but a drooler as well. and i dont mean the little bit of dribble cause yer sleeping with yer mouth open.. but the type ya ned to actually change the sheets and pillow cases because the bed is soaked like someone hosed it down! im sorry.. but i know of no remedies other than those nose strips someone else suggested, or maybe seeing a sleep therapist. he could also have a deviated septum that can be corrected as well. my solution was to get divorced rofl
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
Wow, well at least my boyfriend isn't drooling, so maybe it isn't bad enough to break up (yet!) :)
@tessah (6622)
• United States
19 May 08
LOL i didnt divorce him because he spewed saliva like mt vesuvius, having a dry bed without the snoring was just another perk !
@aplaza (631)
• Netherlands
18 May 08
I recall hearing about this once. The "solution" to keep the person who snores on their side is to sew a tennisball (maybe three at intervals) into the back of a t-shirt. If the person who snores tries to roll onto their back then it will be so uncomfortable they will automatically readjust their sleeping position. I don't know if it works but if you try it let us know!
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Awesome idea! I love it already! I think I might just invest in some golf balls or tennis balls soon! Thank you for your response!
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@aplaza (631)
• Netherlands
18 May 08
I'm pretty sure it was tennis not golf LOL.
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• United States
19 May 08
Both My Fiancee & I snore , But I wear Earplugs at night when bedtime hits. onething you might want to try is either the breathing strips or that new spray that cuts the snoring back a percentage , but not alot. If it gets worse & you can't solve it you might have to deal with his snoring like I do my fiancees I wear earplugs. If that doesn't work then try asking your DR & see what he & or she says to try. Hope This Helps Some :0)
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
Thank you a lot for caring! I guess it is both harder and easier when both of you snore. On one hand neither of you get any sleep unless you use ear plugs etc. But then it could be easier to help eachother out and support if you see a doctor or try remedies!
@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
19 May 08
I am a widow so do not have a hubby snoring problem but my son snores so loudly you can hear it from his bedroom to mine. When he remmebers to take his allergy med. then he does not snore. maybe your boyfriend has an allergy also that plugs up his nose and causes that very loud snoring. there are all sorts of allergy meds but for us we use the store brands of allergy meds.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
That is a really good idea, I haven't thought of allergies! It might be something like that, something "clogging" him up. I'll have him try some allergy meds, we have some too that aren't on prescription. Thank you!
• United States
18 May 08
Thankfully when my partner snores it isn't very loud so it is something that I can deal with. I'm usually a pretty heavy sleeper unless I'm having one of those nights where I can't sleep so I can ignore it. Maybe you'll have to start wearing ear plugs to bed. Or your boyfriend should probably just go to the doctor and get checked out. Heavy snoring can be a problem that can be treated or managed.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
Thank you for your advice! I have tried the ear plugs, but I really do not like it, since it makes me feel like I'm in a vacuum. Also it is no good getting used to sleeping with ear plugs. I have a friend who did that a lot, and now she cannot sleep without them, because every sound is to loud. She has gotten too used to having ear plugs! But then again, sometimes they are necessary!
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
18 May 08
Nothing else may work besides going to the doctor. You can try over the counter rememdies, you could wear earplugs or play soothing music to try to block out his sound, you could sleep in a separate room ... I can't stand when my mate snores .. espcially that kind of snoring where you begin to wonder if they are going to make it through the night. I used to wake him up and that would stop it for a little while. I, also, thought that if he would just let me fall asleep first, I wouldn't hear his snoring so much. You may need to see a doctor, even though you really don't want to .. especially if it's affecting his quality of sleep.
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
Thank you for your response! You have a good point there, I actually thinks it affects his sleep because he is constantly tired, so I don't believe he gets much rest this way. That is bad too because both of us get cranky from lack of sleep!
@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
18 May 08
My fiance snores bad. I can't stand it. I usually bump him or push him to wake him up and tell him to turn over or something. I especially hate when he is in my face snoring and blowing on me. it gets on my nerves, lol. usually if he rolls on his side he doesn't snore anymore, it's mostly when he's on his back. but when I wake him up he usually quits. but I always try to get to sleep first so I don't have to hear it.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
That is pretty bad, isn't it. Especially when he is that close. It seems like a brilliant idea to try to go to bed first, that's an easy thing to try!
@loolets2 (106)
• United States
18 May 08
Well if I love him I can ignore it. The only thing that really wakes me up is light.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Wow! How different you and I are! I can stand any light, since I keep my eyes closed when I sleep anyway :) But any sound just makes it hard for me to sleep! Interesting how different people are, isn't it!
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@Solace (19)
• United States
18 May 08
I definitely recommend getting some of those Breath Rite nasal strips. They're supposed to open the nasal passage and aid in breathing during the day and night. They should help. Also, you could fabricate some special pajamas with tennis balls or golf balls in the back and sides so it's too uncomfortable for him to roll back to that position! LOL
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
I have plenty responders recommending those nasal strips! Thank you, I will definitely look into that! Maybe that is not a very bad idea, sticky tape som golf balls on the back and side of his PJ:s. Haha, that idea sounds better the more I think about it. At least if I can't sleep comfortably without him snoring, than he shouldn't either, right! Hehe! Haha!
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@tonibabe (189)
18 May 08
im quite lucky my husband only snores when he is on his back he usually sleeps on his side so its ok but when he does snore i just elbow him and tell him to move! i have heard that nasal strips work but i dont know many others! hope you find something that works so you can get a good night sleep!! x
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Thank you for your response! You should be happy that all it takes is an elbow!
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
18 May 08
well, i usually just poke my hubby and he will wake up... and then i tell him to keep quiet... and then if he starts snoring again, i will just poke him again... it usually works for him and he will stop snoring after that... if it doesn't help with your hubby and he keeps snoring really bad, then i think you have to bring him to the doctor to check him up... just to make sure that he doesn't have any medical conditions that affect him and cause him to snore continuously... good luck and have a nice day...
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Thank you! I am not sure my boyfriend would like the idea about going to the doctor's, but at least I can say that I have asked several people for recommendations and many think that is a good idea :)
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@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
18 May 08
This sounds oh so familiar! There are not too many remedies that I know of other than rolling somebody over onto their side. Their is a patch out at the pharmacist that a person can put on their nose (it does something with the nostrils) it works like a charm. cheers,
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
I have heard of that too. Here there are two kinds, one that you put in your nostrils that pushes them open and a type of tape that you put on the top of your noose that is also suppose to lift the nostrils up or something. Of course they are insanely expensive, so I wonder if it works with scotch tape... :)
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@biobio55 (283)
• Indonesia
18 May 08
I shake his body. It usually helps but not always. If not, push him a little bit so he will change sleep position. If it still not working, wake him up. Another way, cover my ear and sleep earlier.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Shaking and pushing seems to be of no use since I have tried that. That only keeps me awake even more, having to push him every other minute. But your last sentence, going to sleep earlier, that is a good one! Sometimes when I can I do that, and then when I'm already well asleep when he comes to bed it is not as bad. I think that is what I can do to at least get some sleep. As for covering my ears, yes I can use earplugs etc, but somehow I also feels that it is not for me too. My boyfriend is the one that is snoring, I think he is the one that should "suffer" from it, not me by having to have uncomfortable ear plugs. But then again, when it gets to annoying and I really need my sleep I do get them out!
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@BUSSY1979 (1284)
• United States
18 May 08
my spouse does snore, but, not loudly. She doesn't do it often neither. But, I guess that if she did snore loudly, I would try different techniques to try and get her to quit snoring. Some of them that I'd try would be: turning her over on her side(I've always heard that if you do turn a person over on their side, they will quit snoring. Never have tried that before, but, it was just a superstition that I heard when growing up.) give them some kind of snoring medicine, or whatever that you can buy. I recently seen on commercial on t.v. that you can buy this strip thing that they can put over their noses to stop snoring. I don't know if it works or not, but it's worth a try though. Those are the ones that I have that I would do if my spouse snored real badly at nights. Although, she doesn't, so I don't have to try those. i wish you luck in curing your mate's snoring problem. you might want to try those two that I posted here. They might help, you never know till you try. Thanks for asking.
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@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
18 May 08
Thank you! Any advice is gladly taken, and I will try them if I can. As for the moving my boyfriend over, that will probably not work very well. He is taller and a lot heavier then me so even when I push him he normally doesn't notice it unless I take a good shot at him :) And as I believe I mentioned, he snores even on his side, so the only way is when he is on his belly. But thanks for the idea anyway, I'm gonna try it, maybe I'll get surprised!
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• United States
18 May 08
try sleeping in different rooms, or seperate the bed. you can also try nasal strips or seach on webmd snoring and they will tell you how snoring is caused!
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@may506 (18)
• Taiwan
18 May 08
Hello, my husband told you boyfriend Dahu,I would like very beginning is also pushing. Fight.Or pinch the nose But perhaps I was not used for a long time now he has a habit of his call I feel my sleep Even my 1-year-old babies are not accustomed to being awakened by the voice of his fight I would like to you than the first as he fell asleep The second is to slowly get used to ... Otherwise, on the third with ear plugs to sleep....
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@mayka123 (10546)
• India
19 May 08
People tend to snore more when they sleep on their back. Make your boy friend sleep on his side and every time he snores at night wake him up and make him sleep on this side. Try this for a few days and see if if makes any difference
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
19 May 08
Unfortunately he snores even on his side. The only side that helps is on his belly. But I try that all the time. It is my hope that some day he will be so used to me poking him that he will automatically always lay on his belly, but that is yet to be proven...
@mayka123 (10546)
• India
20 May 08
It should not happen that he gets so used to your poking that he will then continue to snore and sleep inspite of you poking his sides!!!hahahahaha
@Emiese (994)
• Sweden
20 May 08
Hmmm.. didn't think of that.. that would not be any good at all!