Is 15 Too Young for Belly Piercing?

United States
May 18, 2008 4:17pm CST
My daughter is upset with me because I said she has to wait until she is sixteen years old to have her belly pierced. She is not yet even 15-1/2. Many of her friends who are also fifteen have theirs done so she feels I'm being unfair. I would rather let her wait to make sure that this isn't an impulsive decision. Piercing does leave a scar forever and it could easily become infected if she isn't careful with it. So for these reasons I think she should wait. Last year she wanted the cartilage above her ear pierced. I told her to wait until her sporting season ended and she agreed. By the time it ended, she was no longer asking to have it done. What do you think? Is fifteen too young for belly piercing?
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• United States
18 May 08
for the love of....thats way to young. in my opinion that like hanging a sign on your kids that says "please abduct me". i think it make people look trashy myself. do not let her get it while you still have the control. make her wait till she can make such decisions on her own without your consent. then if anything happens it will be on her head...not yours.
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• United States
18 May 08
oh that would so be a grounding offense in my house if i ever ended up having a family. yes children should be allowed to make reasonable decisions, however what happens if she wants to start smoking underage "oh well thats not a good idea honey, this is why, but do it if you really want" then your responsible for starting her on a really bad addiction. good idea mom. and plus if she gets this thing...how long do you think its going to turn into a tongue piercing, then an eyebrow, then a full of lip piercing...then a tattoo. you are responsible for starting you child on a good path. letting them do whatever is not responsible at all. everyone has to experience a "no you may not". personally i think that any other kind of piercing other than the earlobes makes an otherwise pretty girl look skanky. im not saying your daughter is that would be way out of line. but your not doing her any good service by letting her do this. and i know a friend who has a tounge piercing is gonna yell at me for saying some of that...but then she waited to get hers till she was 18. and theres more to this comment but im gonna go out on a limb and say she going to post on this one as well. im sorry you disagree and its ultimately up to you...but it is my opinion
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• United States
18 May 08
*sighs* Ok time for me to step in 15 and 1/2 is WAY TO YOUNG!!! any compatant artist wouldn't do any one at the age of 15 or even 16 years of age in my opinion this is something that "children" need to wait until they are 18 to do. Being interested in the tattoo and piercing profession I've studied hard enough to know that even with parent permission S**t can still go wrong and even then I agree with palmer it does make todays teenagers look trashy. If this is something she truly wants then she can wait till she is 18. Its just like a tattoo once you get it its a permanent fixture on your body and once healed the holes will always be there even if the jewelry is not. In either case 15 and even 16 is way to young to be getting that sort of piercing done.
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• United States
19 May 08
I do think 15 is to young that is why the age for tattoo's and piercing's are set at 18 but I do not agree with Palmer on saying it trash to that fool extent.. I have tattoo's and only ear piercings 2 on each side.. my tattoo's are in places that can be covered or showen if wanted (no arm tat's) eh never would I do that... You can have such things but be tastfull about them as long as you are not like hanging out like sadly most of the kids to day are.. they look up to Spears and such.. You have to let a person express them self but at the right age once 18 they choose their own path and will pay for what they do. but yes 15 is too young I would say 17 min to let her get it.
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
19 May 08
I don't think 15 is too young. I was 19 when I got mine and it took a maybe one month worth of after care. Thats it. No different than getting an ear piercing. Mine was easier to take care of than a cartilage piercing (and a lot less painful too). It isn't permanent, she can take it out. It probably won't even leave a scar.
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• United States
19 May 08
Thanks for your input. Nineteen is quite a difference from fifteen.
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@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
19 May 08
When I was 15 people really weren't piercing their belly buttons. I did have multiple ear piercings at 15 and when I was 17 I did get my cartilage pierced.
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• United States
18 May 08
I think that coming up with an agreement that works for both of you is the best way to approach it. Sometimes kids just know what they want to do though. I had my tongue pierced when I was fifteen. I took it out a few years later. I came to the conclusion that it wasn't something I wanted or needed. The nice thing about piercings is that you can take them out at any point if you change your mind. I'd be happy she wasn't getting into other things that can have a more long term effect on someone. Give here some freedom, but keep the lines of communication open. When it's my way or the highway with kids, they tend to take the highway straight out of the way of consulting you about their life.
• United States
19 May 08
She gets plenty of freedom to do activities with her friends and we have a good relationship overall. We talk about many things together and she is a good person. She is not the rebellious type and I know she will one day appreciate that I sometimes told her no because I love her.
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• United States
19 May 08
It is good that you and your daughter talk, Of course not every situation is the same. Having just graduated with a B.A. in psychology, and having focused a bit on adolescence and adulthood, I can tell you that 15/16 is the age that many kids, are becoming adults in their own eyes. An challenge that many teens and parents encounter is how much freedom of choice and direction a teen should take over in their life. There are many kids that experience feeling that they are good, old enough and mature enough to make decisions on their own. When a good kid, has decided they want something harmless, especially when their "adult" mindset kicks in, they experience frustration, anger, and sometimes a sense of hopelessness (like they can never make their own decisions) In todays age, a belly piercing is fashionable. A 15 going on 16 year-old, that has been "good" may start leaving you out parts of their life, as they think you are being unreasonable. From her perspective, it's normal to have piercing, (we live in the post Brittney era) and her friends have one and it's "no big deal" to her. I want you to know that I am not responding because I think you are wrong, or that I am right. The reason I write is because I might provide some perspective and insight. I have never had kids, let alone teenagers, so I don't claim to know how that even is, but I am young (24) and not far removed from youth culture, and still remember what that age was like for me. I have always been a "good" kid. I had a piercing in high school, have taken it out and am going for my masters in education. I think I turned out just right ;D Good luck with everything. I know for a fact that it is great to have a mom that seems to care as much as you!
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• Canada
18 May 08
You really are doing the right thing not letting her get her navel pierced at fiteen years old. It's way too young to have such an intimate piercings. As far as i'm concerned, there is a reason that piercers won't pierce someone that young without parental concent. And the navel piercing is a little racy for someone so young.
• United States
19 May 08
Thank you, I agree! :)
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@marsha32 (6693)
• United States
18 May 08
I told my daughter she couldn't get any wild piercings until she was 18 and no longer in my home...didn't matter to her, she started piercing herself as well as her friends. It became a huge battle between us until someone said to pick my battles and things could be a lot worse than the piercings. She started hers about the time she turned 16, she will be 17 next month. She has an eyebrow pierced, her belly button, one side of her lower lip, her upper lip right in the middle, and she's added more holes to her ears as well as keeps gauging up the original hole (which I think is totally disgusting!) She was super careful to care for her piercings to avoid any infection, she had no trouble with that. Marsha
• United States
19 May 08
Wow, that's a difficult situation for you to be in. It's true we have to choose our battles but I would take away all my daughter's enjoyment for a long time if she went behind my back. So far she hasn't shown any serious rebellion and doesn't seem to be the rebellious type. I'm glad to hear that your daughter took good care of herself to avoid infection. Piercing with friends or by oneself is so much more dangerous in my opinion.
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@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
18 May 08
That is too funny we were just talking about this last night. A girl that is 14 got her belly button pierced yesterday and she showed it to a friend of ours while my daughter was their. After the girl left my daughter asked our friend if she would let her daughter do that. She said not until she is 18 then she can do what she wants. My daughter laughed and said that is exactly what my mom says too. My oldest daughter is now 23 and she wanted her belly button done at 15 too. I said no then on her 18th birthday I gave her a gift certificate to have it done. She was excited but yes I made her wait until she was 18.
• United States
19 May 08
I'm wishing now I told her 18 instead of 16. lol I'm hoping she changes her mind by then. I admire you for making your daughter wait. I think that's a good idea because by 18 they are more mature and know what they really want...at least more so then 15. Thanks for commenting.
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@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
19 May 08
Yes, for my daughter, 15 is too young. My age limit does not have to be your age limit. We all have the right to do what we think is right for our kids. My rule is 13 for ears. Everything else must wait until my kid is of legal age. When my kid is 18 and able to do a piercing or tatoo, good for them. I won't sanction it. My opinion, only. I dont agree or disagree with another parent's view point. Parenting is difficult. Go with your gut.
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• United States
30 May 08
Thank you for your input, I agree with you. Thankfully she has accepted my decision and hasn't brought it up again.
• New Zealand
19 May 08
Eekks!!Why does she want to inflict pain on herself for no reason.Just because her stupid friends have got it done??.And look how stupid are their parents too to let their child go through this. You really handeled the situation brilliantly the first time.Isnt there any way you can let her wait to get it done.?? Why not make her read the effects it shall have on the health.Try showing her a scar photo so maybe them she may thimk twice. Tell her,that her silly friends arent going to be with her for ever but THE SCAR WILL!! Talk to her about this and many more things that children are up too now adays.Show her whats wrong and right.Talk to her in a friendly manner.She is young and she will in future have many more requests which may be harmfull for her.Wont it be wonderful if she is porepared from before.She will handle the situation on her own merit then!!!At times she may not even ask you!!So start talking to her NOW!!! All the very best to both of you!!
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• United States
19 May 08
Thank you for your well wishes. I'm fortunate that my daughter and I have pretty good communication with each other. But I was feeling pretty stupid earlier because she was telling me her friends mom said "tell your mom to stop being old fashioned" or something like that. But I prefer to be old fashioned and raise her the way I was raised. I didn't like my parents being old fashioned when I was a teenager either, but I'm glad for it now. I think there are too many parents out there who for some reason seem to be afraid to say no to their kids because they never do. lol
@maliki2 (255)
• United States
19 May 08
I hate piercings of all sorts. I would never let my kid get one at that age. My wife has hers and I think it looks like crap. I did when she was younger and I still do. But at 15 that is a bit much. So yes I think it is to young.
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• United States
19 May 08
Thanks. I wish my ex has as much common sense as you seem to have. He was going to take her to get it done and pay for it too. So I called him and let's just say he isn't taking her anymore. lol
• United States
25 May 08
I think it really depends on the parents and the young adult we have to let our offspring express them self not to over the top but let them make some desicions them self a belly button piercing is not a perament thing I dont see the harm of it if you dont trust her enough to do this how can you trust her to drive a car in less then a year so no I dont not think she is to young for this considering that at 16 she not only has her won life in her hands but all those around her
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• United States
19 May 08
well i really at first disagreed until my daughter was 18 then i gave in and said 16 she can get it at first she pierced it herself behind my back and i was furious and made her take it out in front of me but i told her when shes 16 she can get it done professionally done but i didnt want her to do it on her own cause more chances of infection
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@ameeluv (388)
• Saint Lucia
19 May 08
well I am 18 and im still not allowed to pierce it.. so .. but i think 16 is a really good age..
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
19 May 08
Yes, I think 15 and even 16 is too young to have a belly piercing. But then I don't like piercings at all. (I don't even have my ears pierced.) When my son was a teen and wanted his ears pierced, I made him wait until he was 18 and he was fine with that. He had his ears pierced, then a few years later had his nose pierced and had a tatoo. But not as long as he was a minor and I was paying for everything...including doctor bills for when there was infection.
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19 May 08
Yes 15 is far too young, I think belly piercing should only be for over 18s. The after-care is for a long time and you need to be sensible and mature to do it properly. I would tell her to wait until she is 16, and hopefully she'll change her mind by then. I cannot understand how anyone would feel comfortable piercing a 15 year olds belly button (they're still growing at that age!).
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@twallace (2675)
• United States
19 May 08
I'm don't care for the belly piercing but you have to remember she's going through that stage where friends are a big influence on here. She might want it today and could care less about it tomorrow. I have my ears pierced(since i was a baby) and my nose(since 1990)i did no my own not because of anyone else. Just give her time she might not want it; just find ways to bring up the subject with her to ask if she still wants it or not. Then you have to also look at it this way she's not asking for a Tatoo.
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• United States
19 May 08
I think 15 is too young you have to see if its just a phase shes going through or if she really wants it. Most of the time its a phase because all her friends have it done. See if she really wants it first then make your decision.
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@samfbg (6)
19 May 08
Three of my friend's had theirs done recently. Two of them were 14 and one of them was stil 13! I thought they must have just said they were going shopping and got it done while they were out but apparently all three of their mothers was there. My Mum would never let me, particularly at that age. She's quite happy i don't want it done =]
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@newtondak (3950)
• United States
19 May 08
Personally, I think any age is too young for belly piercing - but especially teens. If, once they're no longer a minor, they wish to do something like that, that's their decision, but not before.
@sdj3rd (65)
• Philippines
19 May 08
i think 15 is too young, maybe 18,is the right age for someone t undergo a process like that, and what does a belly pierce do her any good? you should explain it to her very well so that she would understand your point.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
19 May 08
Except for ears, I think any body piercing is stupid and gross at any age. I mean, why do you want holes all over your body? Why do you want metal hanging off your body? Why do you want a metal something hanging in your navel and snagging on pants waistbands and underwear? Why do you want that safety pin piercing your forehead? It is just so stupid and in my opinion, demeaning. But as stated,,,,just my opinion. My DIL got her babies ears pierced at 6 months - good grief, that was so unnecessary! She had so many problems with them they have since closed up. What was the point!?!?!
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