Do you give rights to your parents - when it comes to your career??

@padu19 (1441)
India
May 19, 2008 8:19am CST
hey friends, Our parents bring us up right from our birth.They make all decisions when we are young. But then we enter the teenage when we regret to follow their advice. When it comes to academics, till our schooling is done our parents take decisions. But then when it comes to college academics or career we take our own decisions. Have you ever left the decision to your parents and ha sit ever gone wrong?? Have you ever regretted for your parents influence over any of your decisions???
7 responses
@evansw (43)
• Indonesia
20 May 08
No. I took my own decision. And I don't think this is the most important thing. I believe, responsibility is the key, whether or not you allow your parents to take the decision for yourself. If you took the right decision, even if it's against your parents, as long as it's not a crime, you've gotta live it. Parents simply want the kids to succeed, and at this point, you should satisfy your parents, at least financially. Then, parents won't care what you did, as long as it's not a crime. If you allow your parents to take the decision for you, you have to carry out the responsibility with all your heart to meet the expectation of your parents. Again, it's not the way that the parents want, it's the result (money, self-esteem, pride). As for the way, the parents simply think it's the best. So, if you think you're right and your parents are wrong, then prove it well. They won't mind to know they're wrong, as long as you're really right. If you have difficulties with decision-making, you can ask for a deal: I'll do mine for 5 years, and if it doesn't work, I'll do yours. I hope this can e a good tips.
@padu19 (1441)
• India
20 May 08
That was a good reply!!!!
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
20 May 08
It doesn't necessarily need that one has to contradict his parents to decide on his own; more explicitly, it can also happens that your parents put forward few proposals to you, or perhaps you do so, and you can make a decision mutually, it doesn't mean that when we are grown up adults, our parents have become senile, thats very wrong..
@padu19 (1441)
• India
20 May 08
Not everyone seems to be that matured to follow his/her parents' advice abruptly...And besides, they need not always right or always wrong.. When it comes to your career, your interest also matters, wherein our parents shouldn't compel us to choose some other uninterested path..
• United States
19 May 08
I do not regret anything that I am doing right now for my career. I am doing what I like to do and I am not going to choose a career that my mother picks out for me. I want to do a career where I am happy doing it, and where I know that it's what I want to do for the rest of my life. I think that when it comes to that we should follow what we need to do so that we are not unhappy in our career.
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
20 May 08
It's truly a great experience to follow our heart...
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
19 May 08
I use to love taking advice from my parents until I reach in my 20's. When I reach 27 years of age my father gave me advice and I went total against it and now it has been detriment for me. You cannot be too old for Parents advice. Remember they have the experience and some of the things that we are going thro they have already been there.
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
20 May 08
ya.. that is very true.. Their experience helps us a lot.. But sometimes they lack in exposure which we may be having...
@INGA832 (1114)
• Russian Federation
19 May 08
I made decisions connected with my future by myself. I decided to study foreign languages and didn't regret it. But any way my mum gives me good piece of advice and I didn't regret it when I followed it.
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
20 May 08
hmm..Good about that.....
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
19 May 08
well naw not really cause my parents really werent that involed in my decisions like if they were to get in my schooling it was Do this and Do it now !! you know like very demanding like and when i did it the feedback wasnt that well like "ehh ok whats next " so i was done with that when my 9th grade year started i didnt tell them about nothing absolutley nothing that happend in High School so call it harsh but it made me who i am today
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@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
19 May 08
I think that our parents only want what is best for us. They think they know this no matter what our age. Even today my father still thinks he knows better than I what I should do with my career and how I should make decisions regarding my job, my employer, and my next steps. I listen and nod my head. Then I do what is best for me. It is simply a matter of showing respect for their need to be heard. Our parents are not always in touch with todays demanding market environment and thus their direction, while interesting is not always in line with what is best for us. Additionally, their views of us as individuals may not always be realistic or even in line with out own interests. So while our parents do indeed have our best interests at heart, they don't always "get" that they may not coincide with out interests. I am fortunate. I was born with a rebel spirit. My parents never had that much influence over me. I did what I chose sometimes to my own regret but what a life I have led.
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