Hubby not helping

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My husband and I bought a new home in Virginia and moved from Maryland. Right before our move my mother was diagnosed with cancer and was quite debilitated. My son moved up from southern VA to help me with my mom. She died 3 weeks later and, as I was sole executor, I had so much to do. My son stayed at her place until everything was moved from there to our new house in Virginia. Then he moved here to help me with the overwhelming task of sifting through, not only my mom's things, but our things as well because everything was in boxes. My husband intensely disliked the fact that my son was here and didn't raise a finger to help me. He did not help me with moving my mom's things, either. He pretty much became a hermit. He treated me like a criminal simply because my son was here. My son will do anything to help anyone but my husband simply did not want him here. He was actually going to leave me because my son was here. It wasn't until I ended up in the emergency room because I couldn't take the pressure (I'm living with fibromyalgia and lupus as well) and the strain and tried to kill myself. THEN he started acting a little better... not much, but some. My son has since moved into his own place and my husband treats him with respect. Does anyone else have a spouse who acts like this with your own family? Things are very much better between my husband and me but I can never forget the pain he put me through last year. I would love opinions, please!