Do you approve every myLot friend request?

United States
May 19, 2008 1:56pm CST
If I get a friend request I always check out their profile page first, I even check out their website, if one is listed. If they are a certain age I won't approve them. If I request a friend I go by the same criteria. What's your litmus test to approve or deny myLot friends?
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@rhane7315 (5678)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
i just approve them by the number of post that they have. it means that they are an active member here lol
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• United States
2 Jun 08
That's part of my criteria too, I want an active member to discuss stuff with too.
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
19 May 08
Yes I do! I can't see any reason not to. Why turn down a friend? Can you have too many friends? Some myLotters periodically go through the friends list and prune out those inactive friends. I can't understand why anyone would bother? A friend can come back to myLot and be active anytime. Why be critical of age? Age is just a number that's in constant Change. A friend in need is a Friend indeed! Would all those who have too many friends please Stand Up!
• United States
19 May 08
You make a good point, my age request stops at 18, that's my criteria. Too many friends is never too many, you're right about that.
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• United States
19 May 08
i don't approve everybody,but most. i guess it depends on their profile.if i see a lot of arguements,or topics i don't agree with,i may turn them down. one had a bunch of "women this,women that" gripes and...ah..didn't think was in my best interest
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• United States
19 May 08
Good call, I come from a legal background so I do a lot of research before I do anything. Some might think that's too much and those would be the ones I wouldn't approve.
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• India
1 Jun 08
Yes I do accept every friend request . some time I visit profile and some time don't , but I accept every request .... Thanks !!!
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@meiteoh (421)
• Switzerland
1 Jun 08
Is there a reason as to why I shouldn't? If the quality of their post is a problem, well, I'd like to think that it doesn't really affect my discussions...does it? Also, I don't reply to every single discussion they make, and most of my friends are pretty selective people as well (or so I like to think). So I don't see a problem with accepting friendship requests; in fact, I welcome them. No harm in making more "friends".
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@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
19 May 08
I don't approve every request I get but I do approve most of them. I don't think age is a factor or what their myspace pic looks like. (I've heard that one too) For me it is what kind of responses have I seen them giving, what kind of questions have I seen them posting. What kind of person are they coming across as being. I think everyone has something to share and learn but I want to have people on my friends list that I am going to enjoy getting comments from. I want to enjoy reading their discussions. Because I get all of this in my email. :) If I haven't seen them around much or don't recognize the name I will go look at their profile and see what discussions they have participated in and read a little of what they have said. That gives me an idea of what they are like and if I want to include them in that list of people that I see a lot of.
• United States
19 May 08
I bookmarked your website, I'll check it out later. My age limit is 18, I don't want to be involved in some of those discussions, they may not interest me since we would both be at a different age and station in life.
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• United States
19 May 08
See I think I understand that for the most part. Mostly you might not have much in common but every now and then I meet an amazing teenager. Someone who I never would have guessed their age if they didn't tell me. And often I meet people my own age who are immature and ill tempered. So I don't make the age thing a priority issue. That's why I look at the discussions. I want to see WHO they are. If they respond well and ask good questions that make me think or entertain me, then I will gladly add them as a friend. I would have missed some very wonderful writers and philosophers if I limited myself to the adult world. lol
• United States
19 May 08
True, point taken. I just don't want to seem like a letcher because I'm older.
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• India
1 Jun 08
Currently..M quite new here N my Friends List too seems to be very empty:( So currently..I jz accept all the friend requests that i am receivin:)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Hey I'm on there, its bound to grow now. :)
• India
2 Jun 08
Haha Okie buddy..It ll be gr8 then..Your presence in my friends list:)
• United States
20 May 08
With me it depends on what we have in common, age, etc. Doesn't make sense to have someone as a friend I don't have anything to talk about with
• United States
20 May 08
I use to live in Tulsa, Jenks to be exact. It does depend on age for me too, common interest are a plus. I might like someone with a different view but I won't know until I find out. Its almost a guessing game.
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• United States
20 May 08
I've been to Jenks a few times. My ex husband aunt and uncle lived there before they moved to OKC
@ellie333 (21030)
19 May 08
I always look at the person who has requested profile first and then look to see what discussions they have started and commented on to see if I could relate and answer to any of these myself. I also look to see if they have responded to any of my discussions or me theirs also else I wonder why I have suddenly received this request. I generally approve but there have been one or two I haven't. Youngsters don't bother me as long as they are over eighteen because sometimes I can relate to them through my own daughters who are 21 and 17. Ellie :D
• United States
20 May 08
My kids are younger so my conversations are geared towards "what do you think?" instead of "here's what I know."
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@ellie333 (21030)
20 May 08
I do have a four year old son too so I am a very mixed case scenario. LOL. Ellie :D
• Philippines
19 May 08
whenever i receive a mylot friend request, and the username or avatar doesn't ring a bell or look familiar at all, i check them out first. i even go to a few of their discussions and other posts just to read what and how they write stuff. sometimes i even check out the friends in their list. just trying to find out if we have common friends (especially if they are new members of mylot without much posts to their name). i have approved all friend requests i received except for 1. that exception happened because he doesn't have friends in his list and not a single post to his name. and that was several months back. i check his number of posts every now and then, but just remained 0 over time. so i never got around to approving this 1 friend request. i guess when approving a friend request, i would want to at least see that the member has participated in mylot discussions. that would be at the bare minimum.
• United States
19 May 08
That's a good rule to go by. I want to make friends but we all need to be cautious.
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• Philippines
19 May 08
yes, i met quite a lot of nice people here who are amongst the friends in my list. some are fun, funny and witty. others are serious and deep. either way, i enjoy meeting a wide array of personalities here. and you are quite right. it wouldn't hurt to exercise caution. :)
@setroc (854)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
i always approve it, theres nothing to lose anyway if you do, i dont realy know those who sent me the request and i usualy dont hear nothing from them other than the request but so what, hey you like checking out other peoples website, can you check out mine? please? and if you think its interesting, then join, they are going to pay in july, and thats just what, days away, the link is in my profile, ill try to add you as friend so you would check it out
• United States
6 Jun 08
I will, thanks.
@pkc3000 (1268)
• India
2 Jun 08
hey gitfiddleplayer Approve or deny of friends request depends upon lots of things. Before accepting friends request I first check their profile, certainly age, from where they belongs and many other criteria. pkc3000
• United States
2 Jun 08
I don't think there is anything wrong with being selective, I'm sure people do it to me.
• United States
2 Jun 08
I approve all friend request. It doesn't hurt anything, and if they say something that isn't right or make me made I just delete them. But I give everyone a chance.
• United States
2 Jun 08
Cool, that's one criteria I don't use. I may have to, hope I never do though. Thanks, mom!
@nanajanet (4437)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I approve most but if I see they are just here for junk, I delete them. I like having a lot because it helps me find discussions that I may not have found, otherwise.
• United States
2 Jun 08
That's true, I seen some conversations that really made me think and even helped spawn a new discussion.
@Gmdem13 (156)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I do not approve ever mylot request. im not here to add everyone that i dont know... im here to meet and talk about discussions i am comfortable talking about with people who have the same views, as well as people with other views. i dont not add anyone until i look through there disscussions and decide whether i can trust this person to have a civilized conversation i can deal with without feeling uncomfortable in the meantime.
• United States
2 Jun 08
Good for you. There is nothing wrong with being honest about what you want, I check profiles too and webpages. If they put that info on there they obviously want you to look at it. The more info about a person the better you can make a decision.
@ameeluv (388)
• Saint Lucia
2 Jun 08
I approve all my friends.. I mean if they added you i think they have intentions of being good.. why seclude myself from the communnity and be a meanie??
• United States
2 Jun 08
I don't think its being a meanie, it just being cautious.
@Timothy31 (649)
• United States
2 Jun 08
So far yes i have added everyone thats requested to be added. I have only had a few so far in the few days i've been on here. I may get more selective as time goes on though.
• United States
2 Jun 08
I'm on there, cool, thanks!
@venticius (156)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I pretty much add everyone who adds me. This is only my second day, but I don't think that I have room to be picky :p... I guess if my friend requests get out of hand one day I will have to start being selective. Until then, I'll still accept pretty much anyone. Is there anything wrong with that???
• United States
2 Jun 08
Welcome to myLot. Nothing wrong with accepting friends when you've been here such a short time, best of luck.
2 Jun 08
I accept every single friend request cause i think i don't need to think either this person is good or not. Sometime I just don't like to think too much.
• United States
2 Jun 08
Welcome to myLot. Well, don't think too much about mine then.
@subha12 (18472)
• India
2 Jun 08
yes, generally all. till date i have not denied any friend request. i even do not see at the profile. but sometimes its good when new friends reply to my discussion.
• United States
2 Jun 08
That's the name of the game.