Relationship with daughter

@mayka123 (11068)
India
May 20, 2008 1:56am CST
I have always tried to be a friend to my daughter. Shared all my thoughts with her and have been more a friend than a daughter to her. All her friends envy her and when they see us interacting with each other they again ask her whether I am her mom or a friend. I really like it when people think I am her friend. I wish I shared the same relationship with my mom! What do you have to say about your relationship with your mom or daughter???
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
20 May 08
Hi dear its saying that daughters are best friend to mother, and when u have less age differnce i mean 30-22 yrs then u r morwe like sisters than mother and daughters and its really good, it give confidence to daughter and both can share things keep it up
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
20 May 08
What kind of relationship did you share with your mother? Was she your friend?
@mayka123 (11068)
• India
20 May 08
Yes its true when you are your daughters best friend it is easier for her to share things with you. And sometimes the age difference does not matter
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
20 May 08
Hi we were quite close with mom but as u know that as we are male and i spent 6 yrs from age 10-16 in hostel so after that i was not that open to mom as friend, hope u understand what i wanted to say. daughters are more close to mothers as compare to boys take care
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
20 May 08
I didn't have a great relationship with my mother especially when I was a teenager. Our opinions always clashed. I now understand what my mother said then but I still don't think it was right.....more so, the way she said it. I actually had a wonderful relationship with my dad and he was my friend. I have two sons and I bond very well with my older son (who is 7.5 years old) and we have a wonderful relationship.
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
21 May 08
Actually it is not what we say but the way we say it that makes all the difference. We dont realize the tone when we talk to the children.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
21 May 08
Yes, you are right...and I now know how to talk to my kids because of that.
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
21 May 08
Just hope your relationship with your son gets better and better and better. Bi and take care
@subha12 (18453)
• India
20 May 08
its really nice to hear. ideally all mothers should have this healthy relationship with daughters. most of the times they do not have this. so there are oproblems. its also good the generation gap can be evaded.
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
21 May 08
Yes there are lot of problems when there is a communication gap between parents and children. Its not only because of the age difference but also because firstly nowadays both the parents are working and when they come home it is either the childrens studies, house work or the television set that occupies most of their time that they hardly get any time to sit and talk to their children.
• India
20 May 08
well friend i think you are very lucky to have a daughter like that.Infact i personally think that girls are more attached to their moms as they grow up.I also wish that some day when my daughter grows up she would also be of such understanding nature. all the best have a nice day.....
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
21 May 08
Do you have a daughter now and if so how old is she? I think that if we understand our daughters well and have a good relationship with them the same will be case with out daughter-in-laws also and families will be much more happier
@selby70 (283)
20 May 08
Yes I have the same relationship with my daughter that you have with yours, my friend does not have that with her daughter infact they always seem to be jealous of each other and cant stand each other, I find that hard to understand I could never be jealous of my daughter I wish only the best for her. I was okay with my own mum but not as close as myself and my daughter.
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@mayka123 (11068)
• India
20 May 08
I know a lot of people who think that if they behave like friends with their daughters the children will become disobedient and will not respect them which I feel is not true!
@dpk262006 (56591)
• Delhi, India
26 Nov 08
You are adopting the right approach. You mingling up with your daughter and sharing her joys and sorrows and narrating your own experiences would have given her lot of self-confidence and she would be mature enough to understand the intricacies of life. When our kids become teenagers and turn sixteen, they should be treated as our friends. If we treat them as friends, hopefully they will not shy away from us to discuss their opinions and problems. I follow the same approach and give them ample opportunity to express themselves and share their problems and doubts with me. Good Post!!I
@Sreekala (24210)
• India
26 Nov 08
Hi Mayka, I have seen many such kind of relationship and I think it is really good. In case of daughters they really need a healthy relationship with their mother so that they can discuss each and everything, otherwise we won't understand when they face any problem. It is possible only when the mother is ready to treat her daughter as her friend. For that she should be broad minded and have an understanding nature. I really appreciate your nature and happy to know about your healthy relation with your daughter. For me, my mother passed away before two years. I was attached to her but I could not treated her like a friend, as you explained. Secondly, as you know, unfortunately I don't have a daughter. Enjoy your life with your daughter. All the best to both of you.