How firm are you in your decisions?

@BYOLA2871 (4373)
South Africa
May 20, 2008 12:00pm CST
Some weekends ago a friend and his girlfriend came to my place around 8:30pm asking me to go for an outing with them as it was the girlfriend’s birthday. I was already on the computer busy with my various sites where I earn some extra money. I tried to politely turn down the offer because I don’t just allow myself to be drawn into what I have not planned for unless it is important e tried to persuade me for more then 30 minutes but I was adamant, they eventually left but my friend later told me I was a spoil sport as they did not enjoy the nite, right now he does not talk to me. Or called my number. Not that am bothered about this, I was just wondering if I should have been a little more flexible in my decision that night. What do you think and how flexible are you when you take a stand on any issue?
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3 responses
@checapricorn (16069)
• United States
21 May 08
When I am not informed then my mind is set to what I want to work and finished, I will tend to act and decide like you. As much as I can, I want to make things planned out and organize though, I know there are really occasions that we can't avoid! Maybe they just need to be more open and respect your decisions. and learn from that experience that, informing you ahead of time or giving a call before is a must sometimes!
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
22 May 08
thanks to you for this response and this is exactly what i told my good friend but it seems he just has something else in mind
• United States
22 May 08
Maybe they wanted to surprise you!LOL! and failed to realize you have set a particular schedule for the day!
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
20 May 08
I am pretty firm on my decisions but I am also willing to compromise on some things. It all depends on what it is that I am making a decision on. I have stood firm on alot fo things and will not change my mind about it at all but there have also been times when I have tried to compromise to please someone else and also make myself somewhat happy about the decision also.
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
21 May 08
i agree that there is a need for compromise but this will really have to do with the circumstances and not on frivolities like you rightly said ,i also do make concessions too when i feel there is a need to do so.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
20 May 08
I'm pretty flexible, I'll change my plans unless what I am doing at the time can't wait until later. Although if you tried to politely turn down your friend's offer and he was insistent, I don't think it's your fault they didn't have any fun! I don't think anyone should feel obligated to do something at the last minute; if they had scheduled a date with you earlier and you decided at the last minute not to go, that's different. So I guess I'd have to take your side in this matter.
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
21 May 08
thank you for at least making my mind be at rest as someone else told me that i was a spoiler and that i should have gone with them even when i had things to do .well,i tried to make him see that when he came in unscheduled he should not expect a yes for an answer as we never had such plans and at that late hour too.