How would you react when you kid refuse to do what you asked him to do?

@Bebs08 (10690)
United States
May 20, 2008 9:26pm CST
Oh!!! that's challenging for a parent. As far as I know, most parents do not want their kids to disobey them. But kids are not always obedient to parents. there are times that they refuse to do what parents want them to do. If you are a parent in this situation, what would you do? are you going to scold you kid? or force him to do what you want him to do, or just ignore him anyway, he is still young maybe later he will realize it?
4 responses
@salonga (27986)
• Philippines
28 May 08
Oh indeed you are very right, it is very challenging and in fact very disappointing to us parents when our kids would disobey us! As far as my experience is concerned, I do not take disobedience sitting down. Not only because my ego was hurt because I was disobeyed but more of a concern over the child's character. What could have caused my child to become disobedient when all my life I have taught him to be obedient. I have learned really that the Bible is true in saying the foolishness is bound in the heart of a child. So, it is up for us parents to discipline them. So when my child would disobey although our normal reaction is to get angry what I usually do is not harsh scolding, but rather repeat my command using Please and if still he will not obey then I will call him and talk to him and tell him I have to spank him because he disobeyed. Of course if he would say Sorry and start to obey, he saves himself from my rod. But if he insists to disobey I would ask for reasons to see if he has points that I should consider. But if his reasons are not valid, then the rod of correction will certainly fall upon him. After the spanking, I will tell him, I still love him but I have to do that because he disobeyed and I always make it a point to discuss further why a child should obey and remind him of Ephesians 6:1 - "Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right."
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
29 Sep 08
wow!!! very good way of training the child to be obedient. The kids would gladly obey if all parents would treat their kids like you do. hahaha with text in the Bible they will surely follow you. good!!
@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
24 May 08
Hi there Bebs! Yeah, you're right. That's one of the most challenging part especially for teenagers. Well, my son is just five years old and whenever he doesn't want to do what I am telling him to, I just ignore him. Sometimes though, when it is really important I talk to him about it in a nice way telling him what will happen if he don't do that.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
28 May 08
Well, that's good!! at least he would realize how important it is to obey. thanks for sharing.
• United States
21 May 08
I try to use natural consequences with my kids. Last night my 7 year old didn't want to do her homework or clean her room. Fine, but you have to be in bed by 8 and your homework MUST be done before school. She had to get up early and was tired because she didn't go to bed, she stayed up with her DS. She wasn't able to watch her morning show because she had to do homework, and she still hasn't cleaned her room. She knows that she's not allowed to do anything until her chores are done. After school today she isn't allowed outside until her room is clean. My 3 year old is another story. I'm still trying to figure out what works for him. He isn't old enough for natural consequences. If he leaves a toy out in the living room, I may lock his door (not with him in it) until he figures out that the toy he was playing with needs to be put away. I guess I ignore a lot with him.
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
21 May 08
hahaha!! you have a unique style. I like that!! it's cool. I really like the discussion in this site because we would learn different way from people. thanks for sharing this.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
21 May 08
i have four children and i know there moods. we have our chores and they know the schedule of their chores. but sometimes if i have extra chores for them and they are not in the mood i understand that or if they are busy but if they are not doing anything then i will really get angry and sometimes i cut allowances or tv viewing. lol.so they know that if they dont follow i will do something that would make them angry too. now if they do something that would make me happy i make sure that there is also a reward. my teens are easy to talk with because they are all teens now. i started giving them chores as early as five but we started on simple chores only
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
21 May 08
Oh!! that's a good idea too. Kids would love to do things when when they are rewarded. I hope it will not make some children do things only when reward is given. thanks for sharing.