What will you do if you fall in love with a married man?

@cutie143 (215)
Philippines
May 21, 2008 8:36am CST
Im in a relationship n very much in love with myboyfriend. But one time while i was shopping, I met a guy who happens to be my ex-boyfriend. We had a conversation about our current life experiences and there I found out that he is already married. From then on, we have constant communication and I didnt notice i fell in love with him. What will I do?
4 responses
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
29 May 08
Just for the record, I'm a woman. There are many countries and even in Bibical times a man was allowed more than 1 wife. Today many places have laws about this. They say now that morally it is not right. Well, i wonder. If you look around you , you can see that many men have relationships outside the marriage. I don't think men were designed to have only 1 wife. Or so it seems. The cults today were the men have many wifes. The laws of Moses even has stipulations about that. Such as a man could not marry his stepdaughter, etc. Surely the cults today are breaking that law. I myself have a married lover. I knew about the marriage before we even got started. I accepted everything that way. I do not expect anything to change. Don't even want it too. So untill i meet some one who is free i guess that will do for now. I still consider myself open for something new.
@cutie143 (215)
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
I think we have the same predicament. What makes you go into a relationship even though you're aware that your lover is already married? Maybe, you find this man as your father figure.Are your parents still alive? Are they aware of your situation?
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
1 Jun 08
LOL! Cutie! LOL! I'm 52 and i call him my secret lover. Thats exactly what he will remain. I dont even tell my friends him name. I respect the fact that this man told the truth about his situation. He could have lied like my youngest daughter's father did. At first i bulked but then i thought "if i dont, somebody will". Ya know? He is 10 yrs. my jr. so not really a father figure. I figure better he have affar with me rather than someone who would try upset his family. I dont wan him for keeps, just to barrow. I really dont wan be tird down with a bunch of crap that usually goes along with a relation ship. If i happen to met someone who is available and compatible, well, ok im still free and available. Perfect exceuse to break up with the married man. I don't have to go without some lovins. Somthing they say is important to keep doing with age. So put simply he is my secret love. Quik to dispose of if nesessary. Yet just a phone call away.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I might also add im not in love with my secret lover I just love him as a person but not "in love". I wish you luck on that. I was however very much in love with my daughters father. But he lied about his shitualtion for yrs.
• Philippines
28 May 08
Well, you can not do anything about that love you felt for your ex-boyfriend. In the first place he is already your ex- that means you are no longer in a relationship with him. Secondly, he is already married. It is a sin to continue loving a man who is already married and what is the use of that feelings of yours now that he is already married? Just get rid of that feeling and focus your attention to your present boy friend. Good luck and cheers!!!
@cutie143 (215)
• Philippines
29 May 08
thanks a lot for your comment. Im already doing it. Its hard but im trying coz i know its a sin falling in love with this kind of man.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Avoid him please! try to control the feelings you have for him, he is a married man and think about his family.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
9 Jun 08
i think at this moment only, you should move out from it. it can ruin his marriage as well as family. now see, you had to leave him oncve for whatever may be the reason. but this time its really bad.