I'm Sick...Go Away!!
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
May 21, 2008 11:12am CST
Most everyone gets sick at some time or another and most of the time they just want to be left alone and work on getting well. The last thing they want is company. I know when I’m sick I’m like that…I just want to be left alone to either get well or die quietly. I have gotten to the point that I will lock my door and refuse to answer it. Some ppl though just don’t care if someone is sick…they insist on visiting. Even when you ask them not to come they still do.
Recently a couple of my Mom’s siblings decided to come and visit…one of their kids is about to graduate and they wanted to come and collect their expected money gift. Well, my Mom called them and told them that everyone…my Grandma, my Mom, by youngest Brother, his g/f and my Stepdad…were all sick and since they all live in the same house it wasn’t really a good time to come and visit. Well, the siblings insisted and showed up anyways. I told my Mom that she should let them know that if they had any thoughts of visiting me they could forget it b/c my house was off limits and locked b/c I’ve been starting to get what they have. Thankfully mine seems to be clearing up but I’m staying home away from everyone.
Do you ever have ppl insisting on visiting when you’re sick? Do you think it’s rude to visit ppl when you know their sick and not up to company? Have you ever had anyone drop in on you while your sick and feel obligated to entertain them?
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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31 responses
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
21 May 08
yea,i have some friends that don't get a clue i'm feeling like crap.i usually tell them point blank,ok you can come over,but i'm sick,so if you catch it i don't want to hear the wailing-you were warned LOL.
i guess they mean well,but i don't know why they'd wanna expose themselves to the flu..
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
21 May 08
Yes, or what to constantly call on the phone to check up on me. Now don't get me wrong I'm glad they care. But have you have 2 or 3 ppl calling 3 or 4 times a day and even late into the evening, well you get the idea.
It wouldn't be so bad but it never fails that they call when I'm either stuck in the bathroom or trying to sleep or in the tub try to soak out the sickness in some hot water,(or just trying to help the old aching muscles and bones). Just trying to feel better, you know?
They all know each other, why don't they call each other and say, hey have you checked on so and so today?
I know what's it's like, so this is what I do. If no one has then I call. I see if they need anything and if they are better. I say if they need me call I I hang up. I don't keep them on the phone, because I know they do not feel good and the last thing they want is to hold onto a phone and try to hold up a conversation. If they want to they will call.
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@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
21 May 08
Yes. I think it is rude. Its like they just don't care. Actually I don't have anybody visiting me when I'm well so I doubt anyone would be here if I'm sick, lol. I'm like you I like to be left alone if I'm sick. I have known some people though that love the attention when they are sick. To each his own I guess.
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@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
21 May 08
I hope you get well soon dear! That is rude for someone to show up when they know that you are sick.Its common sense that people normally like to be left a lone because they arent up to company. Espically when they just want to collect gifts. I would make them wait.
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@thebeaddoodler (4262)
• Lubbock, Texas
21 May 08
I don't want to be bothered when I'm sick. Some people are frightened by illness and when they're sick, they really NEED someone there with them, not to visit, but to be available if they need help. They need the comfort of knowing they're not alone, even if the illness isn't serious.
Big difference in somebody just dropping by and insisting on staying a hour when you're so sick you can't hold your head up. That's inconsiderate. I'm generally a person who doesn't want to hurt someone's feelings, but when I'm sick, I can be as rude as the person who insists on visiting even though they know I'm sick.
Another thing about having visitors when you're sick, what if you're contagious? They're going to get whatever you have and just keep spreading it all over the community!
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@GardenGerty (157463)
• United States
21 May 08
I do not remember people coming when I am sick, I have a vague recollection that it has happened. If you tell them that it is not good, for whatever reason, they had better not come!!! I lock my door, I hide, I refuse to answer the door or phone.
@rowantree (1186)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I think it's incredibly rude to visit someone's home when they or another family member are sick.
I had just arrived home from a hysterectomy when my husband's friend decided it'd be a good time to visit...and visit into the very late hours of the night too.
My mother-in-law followed suit and even came up into my bedroom where I was resting and SAT on my legs! We don't get along, so you can imagine how fun that visit was.
Sometimes it feels like a tv sitcom, doesn't it? With all the people coming in and out of your own house?
@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
23 May 08
My biggest issue is not people coming to see me when I'm sick, it is them bringing sickness in to me. I have chronic pancreatitis, and my resistance to sickness is very low.I beg people not to come when they are sick. At Christmas my niece brought her children here sick, it took me over two months to bounce back from that visit. I love all my family and friends, but if I am sick and know someone is coming, or if anyone in my house is sick, I call the person, and tell them not to come. If my children are sick, I won't let them visit their friends. To me this is just common courtesy.
@J_Dawgs (217)
• United States
22 May 08
I am only going to answer this because I have been sick horribly for the past 4 days lol. NO I absolutely HATE it when people come by when I say I am sick and I want to be left alone! YES, I have had people like that and I just want to SHOOT them when they show up for not listening! I think it is VERY rude for someone to show up when they 'know' you are sick and don't feel well and do not want any company around.
Personally if I had my own choices when it came to being sick I would get the meds I needed for getting better, food and liquids, then just hole up in my room till im better lol. If I don't come out in so many days send in the search party lol.
~*~J_Dawgs~*~
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
23 Jun 08
We don't know any body where we live. Tragic, but true, so we don't have many visitors at all. just the usual house inspection every 3 months, the delivery people and posty, the ones trying to get you to join their church and the door to door sales men. Ok, so not really visitors, but that's pretty much our 'social life'! lol. Family is a non issue as well. They live about 2 hours away and are too busy to take time to come and see us.
We've all had the flu over the past couple of weeks, and I can tell you now, anyone daft enough to visit would be taking a little bit of the flu with them, so I think that would be a good reason to stay away!
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
27 Jul 08
If I was home sick I just wouldn't answer the door if someone came to visit. Besides I have everyone phone me before coming over so I would know if they were coming and then after telling them on the phone not to come over, and they still do, I just don't answer the door. When I am sick I want to be left alone, just like you. I don't want any company and I certainly don't want to have to do any entertaining or visiting. I am a big baby when I am sick and I am miserable and I don't think anyone would want to be around me when I am sick, so I don't usually have that problem.
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
21 May 08
I'm not the best company to be around when i'm sick. I just dont like to be bothered. I much perfer a phone call than a visit. So with that in mind i dont like to bother people when they are sick, i'll call and see how they are doing if my company is wanted then i'll visit.Only my family and close friends seem to break the rules and because they do i dont even try to entertain them, thank goodness they dont take it personal.. otherwise i'd be friendless.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
21 May 08
well, if i know that my friend is sick and he/she had told me specifically that he/she doesn't want to be disturbed, then i will definitely won't come to their house and visit them... i think it is a bit rude to do that and we have to respect them and give them time to rest and recover... i wouldn't like to be disturbed as well when i am sick... take care and have a nice day...
@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
22 May 08
That was very rude for them to show up when they were told it wasn't a good time to visit. When I'm sick, I stay home and in bed or the recliner in the living room and want no company whatsoever. I even tell my daughter to not even think of having her friends over. If I have to, I'll lock my door and pretend I'm sleeping. I also won't answer the phone if I'm really sick.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
21 May 08
Normally I don't get sick too often, but when I do I'm like you, just leave me alone. I do not go visit anyone when I know they are sick, and I'm one to call ahead if I am going to stop in or go visit someone. I think it's rude not to call first. If someone told me they were sick, I would simply tell them that they could give me a call if they needed anything and to get plenty of rest, we could visit some other time. As for them showing up anyway, that's just rude, and I would have greeted them at the door, I would not have invited them in, and they could get mad or whatever.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
22 May 08
It is more than rude in my view. But I do not live with an extended family and visitors know they are not welcome to "drop in" at our homes. No matter, I would never, ever feel obligated to entertain anyone who cam uninvited. I don't even feel obligated to open the door to them. Glad you are feeling better.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
21 May 08
I think its very rude to intrude on somebody who is ill
and not feeling up to visiting. The pastor of my church
did this to me when I was much younger. I was in the
hospital ill with hepatitis and very nauseated. He
insisted on visiting with me and on jiggling my bed.
He even sat down on the corner of it. the long and
short of that episode was that I had to grab the
kidney basin and throw up right in front of the poor
Pastor.
@jessieBee (1046)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 May 08
Hi twoey,
I too when I'm sick don't like to be bothered. I lock my front door and put up a sign stating. "Don't bother me not in the mood for talking". But some how the stupid ones still bother me any way.
