Would You Tell?

@leeesa (885)
United States
May 21, 2008 6:44pm CST
This is purely hypothetical. Let's say you're dating someone that you REALLY like and you found out that they had an issue with something that applied to you, would you tell them? For example, let's say they told you that they would never date someone who hated football, and you absolutely despised football. Would you pretend to like it just so they would continue seeing you? Could you keep up the charade indefinitely?
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10 responses
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
22 May 08
I wouldn't outright lie to them and say I loved football. But I think I would see it as a character building thing I could do by trying to be tolerant of something because it mattered to someone I care about. That makes for good relationships when partners are will to try something simply because it makes the other person happy.
@leeesa (885)
• United States
22 May 08
I never actually responded to this question myself and I relate the most to your answer. Relationships are about compromise, not becoming someone you're not to please the other person. To me, trust and honesty are the foundation of a good relationship, and while change is inevitable, a person should never sacrifice who they really are.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
22 May 08
Thanks for the best response.
@Antianara (608)
• Australia
23 May 08
I wouldn't hide it, I'd just tell them.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
22 May 08
I'd have to be honest about it, as it would come out sooner or later anyway. I'm not so sure though that I'd want to be with anyone who'd never date someone over a small preference.....if it was a big thing like political or religious views, I can understand someone being discerning, but not if it's something insignificant.
@My2Cents (291)
• Canada
22 May 08
Well, if a man wouldn't like me because of football..lol - well then they aren't worth liking. I am worth more than that - so yeah, I would tell. Actually, I think I would tell even in harder circumstances. Solid relationships are built on honesty. If, after revealing whatever it is makes a man dislike me to the point of not wanting to work things out - he isn't that into me.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
22 May 08
I did things like that as a teenager. I would pretend to like music that my crush liked, even though I hated it. I'd pretend to like sports. I even learned everything there was to know about baseball just to impress some boy. Didn't turn out all bad, those professional baseball players are hot!! As I grew up I learned to let guys like me for who I am, and if they don't like that, then we're not meant to be together. I think it's best if everyone respects their differences. My husband likes hard rock music and loves watching wrestling. I like hip hop and hate wrestling. We still get along fine. I find something else to do while he's watching wrestling, and we have found a radio station that plays a mixture of different music so we don't fight over that. We respect our differences and still love each other.
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
22 May 08
No, I wouldn't be able to lie. It just goes against my character and I would be too unhappy (even if it was something small like liking football.) If a person has a certain criteria for someone they want to date and I don't fit it, well then I guess we would make better friends!
@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
22 May 08
It's not good to have a lie in a dating relationship. Sooner or later the truth will come out and the disappointment may be bigger than it would have been it you would be straightforward about it from the get go.
@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
21 May 08
Oh I would so tell them. I'm not into games or pretending to be something I am not. I certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't want to be with me. And I'm not going to pretend forever that I am one way when I am not. If the person was really as great as I believed then they would change their mind about it or accept it. If they didn't then we were not meant to be.
• United States
21 May 08
my daughters father loooooves baseball and i cant stand it, however when he wacthed his baseball i would go into the other room, or just hang with the girls. i let him know i did not like and if he couldnt handle being with me because i didnt like well them im so sorry i am not going to change, do invite me, do tell me just wacth it for a minute or any of the above its not going to work..he gav up eventually. im its just sports i am sure that we are not the only women who dont like sports all together or indivualy. if she does not like who you are well its up to you what will happen next...
• Canada
21 May 08
No, I would be myself. Maybe try to convince them that my love for whatever is good and they should try it. If they try it and don't like, so what? You should have your own interests anyway. You don't have to like everything the other person likes. It's called being an individual as well as a couple.