what will you do when you are cheated?

China
May 22, 2008 1:49am CST
Have you ever been cheated or berayed by your friends? What will you do when you are cheated?Will you forgive him or her?Would you like to share your answer here?
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12 responses
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
22 May 08
Hi, I have been cheated a lot of times by my friends. I find out that some of my friends do not tell the truth and they always hide a lot of things. One day, I found out that they are doing some discussions without my notice and they never let me know what they are doing. I become sad because I never know what they are doing and they are hiding a lot of thing without my knowledge. Sometimes, I will ask myself, "Are they really my friends or they are just acting in front of me?". So, until now, I just act like I don't know that they are lying and hiding something, because I don't want to ruin the "friendship" between us. Hopefully someday they will tell the truth and be honest.
• China
23 May 08
I hope you will jion them .You can try to have talks with them ,and ask them why they treat you like that.If they regard you as friend they wil tell the truth.Maybe there are some mistakes between you.Good luck to you .I really hope you will get on well with your friends soon
@sdas86 (6076)
• Malaysia
23 May 08
Hi, Thanks. I will try to ask them.
• China
23 May 08
you're welcome.I hope you and your friends will be all right soon.
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I think I have been cheated by a few friends along the way. Sometimes, they think that I really don't know about it even though I know. It simply shows what kind of friendship they recognize towards us. In my case, I'd still be friends with them but, would be more cautious than before and wouldn't fully grant them my trust since they are capable of cheating me after all the first time.
• China
2 Jul 08
yes,If we don't want to be hurt again,we should be more cautious when we are with them.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
Sadly, we don't consider them friends anymore but just individuals that we know
@ryshawneo (405)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Luckily, I haven't experience such thing in my life.. well, if that happens i do not know what to do, i do not know if i'll forgive or not.. it reminded me of a korean drama and, it's kinda situation there, the king was betrayed by his trusted comrade and a friend by trying to assassinate his queen, the king was actually wanted to forgive that man, who was found guilty, but he can't because it's a king's duty to put sentenced to all who betrayed the king! It's a sad sad scene, the king even cried in front of that friend turned traitor!
• China
23 May 08
You are really so lucky.I hope you will never experience it.Good luck to you!tanks for sharing
• India
22 May 08
if some one cheat u what u must do? i will tell u friend one thing atleast u can do is u can cheat him back. take revenge by cheatingg himm every actoin has equal and opposite response i didnt say this but sir isaac newton told this bye take care kisssssssss
• China
23 May 08
This is the most interesting answer i have ever seen.Thanks for sharing.
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
22 May 08
I've been cheated once and I forgave her for doing that to me. I don't continue the friendship with her since I don't like having friends who are cheater. Friendship for me is such a sacred relationship that you should not let cheating part of it so I always tell my new friends that I can't tolerate cheating. So far I just have one experience about that.
• China
22 May 08
yes,forgive her but don't continue the friendship may be the best way to solve this problem.And thanks for your comment
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
22 May 08
It depends on the betrayal. As you grow old, definition of betrayal may be relative. If she or he betrays me and it involved hurting my loved ones, then, that's when friendship is at stake. :P
• China
22 May 08
yeah,to me betrayal means dishonest to me ,and do something bad behind me.This definition may be a little childish,isn't it?:) But I think be friends to those who are dishonest is also at stake.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
22 May 08
If my boyfriend cheated on me I wouldn't want to forgive him because there'll be a big chance that he'll do it again in the future. However, as a Catholic, I need to believe in the goodness inside every one of us, so it's also possible that he'll reform his bad ways and I'll learn to trust him again. It actually depends on why he cheated and how it was done. Sometimes there are circumstances beyond his control which we need to take into consideration as well.
• China
22 May 08
yeah, you may be right.thanks for sharing.
• India
22 May 08
Whe you were knowingly cheated by your best friend, I think you should not consider that friend as a friend. You can forgive your friend but no more business with her/ him. If she/he was a real friend they can tell you their situation and then discuss with you the matter openely. In my opinion no cheating is possible between friends.
• China
22 May 08
i agree with you.Cheating should be abandoned between friends.Honest is the most important thing between friends.and thanks for sharing
• India
3 Jul 08
NINE times out of ten I will break friendship.I will ot experiment after cheated once.Habits die hard and his habit of Cheating will continue even if I forgive him.With one I will continue if I know reasons why he cheated and only if I find him reasonable. I also feel Cheating/Betraying and beaking promise are not same. So before loosing a friend think twice ,they are hard to get.
22 May 08
good cheating now days are getting common within friends only for lovers and most of them cheat due to jelousy nature well i was cheated once i donot know why it still a mystry.
@ayrin03 (318)
• Philippines
22 May 08
maybe i will be angry that time but i will let him/her to say his/her side..and then it's time to decide if he/she sill stay in life or not..remember you can choose whom you want to stay in your life..but if that happens once maybe i can forgive him/her but if it is twice maybe get out of my way! just imagine you're stupid in that situation..
• India
22 May 08
If my fren cheats on me i will let her/him go.If at all i feel there is a chance for a fresh freindship (if at all) than i will confront my fren and try to make up n see if anything good happens.In anyway, id sare my feeling that i am hurt for cheating me and that we can never be freind again.I dont like to hold grudges so the question of forgiveness is simple