who am i to you?

@roanne05 (1292)
Oman
May 22, 2008 5:21am CST
what would you do if you are in this situation? you had a friend that become so sweet to you, gain a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. the relationhsip did not work-out so back to the old time friendship. but sometimes he still sends you sweet messages. tells you that he misses you, ask you to eat on time so you would not get thin...things like that! when you ask what you are to him, he would say someone special. but he is only good in sending sweet sms. so what would you do?what would you feel?
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15 responses
• India
22 May 08
The boy loves you. His love for you can only be measured by you and you only. Love is a feeling you need to feel to believe. i am talking about the honesty with which he is talking with you should matter the most to you. People have their opinion if they are put into those situations. Feel free to ask, but believe only your heart when you decide anything about him. Believe in your heart.
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
22 May 08
i really don't know what to believe!hay..life!
@Blinda (26)
• China
22 May 08
I agree with you!
• United States
22 May 08
I would feel greatful to have such a sweet guy care for me. I am sure that sometimes I would feel like I want to be back with him. But then I would remember why we broke up in the first place. Maybe I would see that why we broke up could be fixed, or maybe it couldn't. It's hard to be in situations like this especially when you are single. If you are single you are weak and fall for the sweet messages. Do you want to be back with this man? Would be what I would ask myself. If you do then maybe try it again, and take it slower this time (not saying the first time was quick). If his messages are sending you mixed signals tell him it's either we are friends or lovers one or the other. I wish you the best of luck in love and life! Hope it all works out for the best!
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
25 May 08
thanks guys...i am really greatfull..i guess we will remain special freinds!
@yourkl (585)
• China
22 May 08
I will feel nothing. Beacuse i know a guy like me along. haha. In fact i will say nothing to he , may be a long time later, he will give up.
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
22 May 08
that is it, its is happening for almost a year..he never forgets to sms me. he says he miss me...you can never know what a guy thinks...
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
22 May 08
i think that person can't forget you that's why he still sends sweet sms and still cares for you a lot.....maybe he still loves you... ...if i am in that situation, i think i would be happy coz someone really loves me and cares for me....
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
22 May 08
i don't know...well what i am sure of is that i am special to him that is it...how special? that he only knows!
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
22 May 08
It could mean that you have a very special friend. A friend is someone to go out with from time to time and enjoy moments together. I have learned that just because a relationship as boyfriend girlfriend ends doesn't mean that your friendship has to. I have friends that I used to date and we do share a very special friendship. We can talk about anything because we know each other that well. I miss them when I haven't seen them for a while and we are always happy to get moments together even if it is just grabbing a quick meal out. Just be happy that you have a friend that cares that much for you.
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
22 May 08
i really don't know my dear! one time i ask him what if i already have a new boyfriend..what would he feel.. his response was "pitty me then"...
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
22 May 08
I guess that the guy's just being nice to you, could've felt guilty or was sorry of what he's done to you. Sometimes we tend to interpret things the wrong way, so it's good of you to ask what you are to him. And to think that you're still friends after all what happened, is a good thing. If ever, he must be just taking time to express the his true feelings for you. But don't expect too much from it, so you won't get disappointed if ever things won't get back from what you thought it would be..
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
22 May 08
i don't think he is guilty or anything for that. i already ask him not only once, but a couple of times.. what he always sayd that i am special that is it..as simple as that. i even ask him why is he still sms me..he said that it is because he miss me. hahaha! weird!
• Philippines
24 May 08
Been in that situation.I said that I love him but he turned away.Even if it's obvious that he likes me,he still kept on denying it and continued being a geek.Well,not my loss.There are still a lot out there and I've found the one for me!
@MsCYPRAH (398)
23 May 08
It sounds as though this guy is being rather ambiguous in his thoughts. He clearly likes you a lot, perhaps even loves you, but cannot commit to you so he prefers to keep you as a 'friend' while treating you as a potential lover. But that only keeps people in limbo. I suppose it depends on how you feel about it. If you are not too happy with this ambiguous approach, then you have to ask him to be clearer in his actions, to either be a friend or lover but not both. Otherwise, that is all you will get from him, if you ignore his actions. He really cannot have it both ways, otherwise it will keep you feeling confused too while stopping you from seeking someone else in your life. So I would be rather firm and challenge him on that behaviour and see what he really wants because no one can put up with such ambiguity for too long. If he insists on having it both ways, then I would give him a wide berth for a while until he makes up his mind what he really wants simply because that kind of situation isn't healthy.
@cross10 (506)
• Indonesia
23 May 08
well its almost the same like what my friend now had, but in this time, my friends is the boy sending such sms, but not those sweet things. Well sometimes people are good in sms not in direct conversation, well just wait, whether that boy going to give up or not, if not then i think he do loves you, then just give it a try, maybe not a bad thing to do
@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
23 May 08
I know how puzzled you are since I've been in almost the same situation as you were now. It's very bugling to evaluate how or what does this guy is up to. If i were to see or interpret what are the meaning of his actions, it must mean that he still likes you a lot. Something like you're such a very special person to him but he won't commit with you since you've already have a relationship before that does not work. He misses you may mean that he miss you as to the times of your relationship was and it can be he miss you as his friend. MAybe he told you this because he feels that you became different to him. Oh those invitations also prove that you really mean something to him. Or maybe you too are treating one another as more than friends but less than a lover. What do you think?
@sexylc (501)
• United States
22 May 08
I think the man he likes you but he can't express hes honest feelings to you.maybe because he get imbarrased or something bothering his mind.Anyway its obvious that he likes you so much.Or its kind a motto that action speak lauder than words.
• Philippines
22 May 08
I think what is unachievable in love is achievable in friendship.
• United States
22 May 08
when that happen you feel very diffent and It hard for that person to become your best friend because there is some of the thing you will not be able to tdiscuss with her. just like a problem in your relaionship eith another girl. you might still have the feeling to send sms but along the way these litle conversation will fade away.
• Canada
22 May 08
HI roanne05. I think we are ment to love lots of people in our life time. There is no limit. He loves you. It may not mean he wants to marry you but he stills loves you. We all need to love more. I wish there were more people in the world like him. You are very lucky to have found a very commpassionate loving friend. Are you sure he is not your soul mate...snicker. Pay it forward myfriend and spread your love. Dont be afraid to tell your love ones they are loved and need to eat on time! Better yet make a basket of muffins and toss a few my way!†
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
22 May 08
I believe that love shouldn't be restricted as the feeling and emotions felt between a couple, love is vast and huge in itself; love dwells in motherhood, love echoes in the fight and squabbling amongst siblings, love is felt from the scolding of an angry father, love also resides in friendship..I can really admit, that I really love my Best Friend, I sense nothing wrong in that..