My Stepson and new baby girl
By christymac
@christymac (150)
United States
May 22, 2008 10:10am CST
I have been married almost two years. My husband has full custody of his Son and he gets to visit his Mom every other weekend. She is not involved in his life otherwise and never attempts to be apart of his life in any way.
My stepson is 7 years old, I love him and I consider him my own and always treat him as such. We have a new baby and he loves her, he always plays with her and brags about her. We don't see any jealousy there at all, which is great. However, when he talks to her he calls me Christy and not Mom. I never want to tell him he has to call me Mom, I want it to be his choice. But at the same time I don't want him teaching my daughter to call me Christy either.
I have asked him to refer to me as mom when he speaks to her but he says he forgets. What should I do?
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3 responses
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
22 May 08
Sounds like you need to sit down with your husband and let him know what is going on and that it in a way bothers you andthen both of you sit down with your step son and explain it to him. Sometimes it takes both parents beingon the same side for the child to realise that you are serious about it and he will take it more seriously too and try harder to correct himself.
I hope all works out.
@christymac (150)
• United States
22 May 08
You're right. My husband and I have talked about it some. And he refers to me as Mom around the house to try and encourage our son. Hopefully it will catch on soon.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
22 May 08
Since he's only 7 and the baby is still young you don't have to make an issue of this right now. When the baby starts to talk she will call you mom because that's what you will have taught her to do...."say mamma...say mamma" LOL! She will know that you are mom and that dad is dad. Maybe by then your stepson will feel comfortable calling you mom but, if not, your daughter will ask about it when she's old enough.
@christymac (150)
• United States
22 May 08
I know it will all work it self out in time.
I just want to be the Mom he doesn't have. His birth mother hasn't even taken the time to call him on his Birthday for the last three years.
@tanniebabe78 (2934)
• United States
22 May 08
I feel bad for the children whose mom isn't there for them. I never could understand growing that life and then not caring about it in the end. Granted there are times I really wish I could just walk away, but its not my son's fault that I am occasionally aggravated to that point. I stay though because there is no place I would rather be than here with him.
I understand your concern about your daughter not referring to you as mom, but its not really an issue. As others have stated, it is what you teach them that they learn. Not to underestimate the power of a sibling though! I remember my stepbrothers getting me into trouble for telling me to repeat something they said. Looking back its funny, but the spankings weren't.
All I can suggest is to correct that when he says it as she gets older. Good luck and congratulations on the new baby. They sure are fun aren't they?
