How much love do you need?

for my friends - little note for my friends
@aaidjs (1149)
Croatia (Hrvatska)
May 22, 2008 4:51pm CST
I am grandma.i am old and i have to live with my children and i am lonely! It is stupid to be and feel lonely with my big family but i steel feel like a lonely star on big dark sky!! When i was younger i never had that feeling but now when i think more about the end of my life i feel so lonely! I start to think that i need more love in my life! Whole day i only cook,clean, wait for children came home,look at bills and work with my dad!My hubby is now far away and i need him so much! What you think is it normal that,in my ages,to feel such strong need for love and romantic! I am afraid of my feelings! Why now? Whole my marriage time i was alone with my children and my hubby was far away!! I was thinking that i am very strong army wife!! Am I????? Am i stupid old women? Have you any idea what i have to do to stop feel like lonely old women? Thank for you time Your friend Silvana
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@p1kef1sh (45642)
22 May 08
Hello Silvana. Gosh I know what it is like to be away from your loved ones, even when you are surrounded by your family. It seems to me that you have been the most important person in your family. Wife and mother, two beautiful and wonderful roles. You should be proud of your achievements. There is nothing odd about wanting love and romance at your age. You are only two years older than me. We "oldies" still know how to have a good time and love and be loved. For now though. Don't feel alone here. There are a lot of us here that you can come and talk to. I shall invite you onto my friends list. I hope that you will say yes. Take good care.
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@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 May 08
Hello, Thanks for your understanding and support! I will try to spend more time on MyLot with my friends! Warm Regards From Croatia
@p1kef1sh (45642)
23 May 08
Thank you for accepting my friends request. There are many good people on myLot and from personal experience I can tell you that they are always there. I hope that today is a better one for you. Keep smiling.
@drannhh (15211)
• United States
23 May 08
This is a very unusual post and doesn't sound like the aaidjs I know. You are certainly not a stupid woman, nor do I think of you as old, but even though I know you are a good cook and interested in a healthy diet, I am wondering if after such a long winter, you might be short on a happy nutrient from your food or behind in sunshine. It is usual to miss your husband when he is far away! Your friends on myLot will try to cheer you up. Maybe tomorrow the sun will come out bright and you will feel your usual self again.
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@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 May 08
Hello my Dear ,Dear Friend! You know me,I am full of energy but this days and nights i act as a spoiled young girl! I really don't know whats was happening with me! Maybe i have to start with gardening and some other outside activities! I know that i have very nice family and friends but i still cant stop this strong feel of loneliness! Thanks ones again, Love you your friend Silvana
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@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
23 May 08
I am an old woman but you cannot surelybe that old as your hubby is in the war and you have children.hi and hugs from a really old woman to a young woman who misses her hubby a lot. this war is the worst and I hope all the time' that they finally can send our young men and women home. YOu are not a stupid old woman but a lonely young woman and I hope all us mylotters say hello and wish you the very best. come cry on our shoulders and let us comfort us as only mylotters can.You are a strong woman.spend time with your kids and try to live one day at a time. write here often and let us be your friend.
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 May 08
Hello, Thank You very much for you support! Have a nice evening! Regards Silvana
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@pyewacket (44037)
• United States
22 May 08
Hi aaidjis Goodness, I was looking at your profile page and your the same age as I am..52 and in no way do I consider myself old...LOL No, you're not a stupid old woman, nor should you be afraid of your feelings. I'm sorry to hear your hubby is away now, but he'll be coming back eventually and think of all the good times you can have then I live alone myself, save for my two cats..up until almost two years ago, my mother of whom I lived with passed away..so yes, I'm alone but I'm never lonely as I have so many things to keep me busy, in fact, I have too many things to do.. I think one of the great things to do for yourself is to find something that will make you feel better some hobby that will fill your time, and give you sense of accomplishment just for yourself..do you paint? Draw? Do crafts? Write? Do you like to photograph? Then take your camera out and take a pleasant walk and photograph the beauty of the world around you..in other words stop and smell the roses and take a good look at the beauty of the world--whenever I do this I feel at my most peaceful, blissful self, like I've filled my soul Even if you don't do any of these things..maybe you could consider starting something....think of it as a "me" time to spend doing something you might love to do, and it might be something in the back of your mind that you always wanted to do...well now you have the chance to do it...Never think for the moment that you're ever too old to learn something new...heck, I only taught myself computers four years ago..something I never thought I'd do...now in many cases I'M actually teaching people how to work their computers. I also do crafts...I had NEVER ever done crafts in my life but started ten years ago..again self-taught. The point I'm making is that one can learn to do something new and that will make them feel good no matter what age.
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@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 May 08
Hello, Thank you very much for your very nice and supporting words! I know that i am acting like a spoiled child but i cant help myself! I need my hubby and his superior mind! Now we cant be in touch and i am so lonely! Have nice evening Regards from Croatia
• Regina, Saskatchewan
22 May 08
Dear Silvana, I have never been an army wife and can't possibly imagine what you have gone through during the course of your life. I have however, had to raise my children their entire lives on my own. So I know what lonliness is. I have checked your profile and you are younger than I am so you are certainly NOT old. lol But you are tired, and your heart is aching for the closeness and comfort of your husband. I hope and pray that he comes home to you soon. In the meantime, take comfort from your friends here on mylot. Spend as much time with us as you can, and I promise you, we will fill your emptiness a bit, make you laugh, make you cry and give your life purpose. We have a loving community here and a dear friend of yours has now brought you to our attention and we will care for you and love you as one of our own. I PROMISE! I have put in a friends request - I hope you approve and I look forward to getting to know you better and helping you to relax and find comfort in the friendships you have here. Many hugs, and remember you are in my prayers.
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@winterose (39921)
• Canada
22 May 08
I think you feelings are very normal, you husband is away and you need somebody to just love you for you not what you do for them. here on mylot we can do just that for you, we can love you for you, the perfect human being that you are. I am going to ask for a connection right now.
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 May 08
i am a single mom of four children and i also feel lonely. i have my children who makes me happy and makes me smile when i am lonely and still there is something missing. i well understand how you feel for i know you will understand what i feel. sometimes we need a hug specially when we feel really low. a hug that is not complete even our children are around. lucky for you who have a husband but the not so good part is he is not around. i dont have any husband. we left him 7 years ago. i have no bf for i work hard and try to devide my time on being a mother and being a father to my children and also the chores. i can say that i am a strong woman too but sometimes strong woman ca neasily cry on some simple things like longing for a hug. i dont know how to stop this lonely feeling silvana but i spend more time with my children and find some quality time for myself as well like having a massage for example.
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
23 May 08
My dear Silvana, first and foremost, you are NOT a stupid old women!! The feelings and thoughts you are having are perfectly normal. If anything, you are stronger than most because many people, out of fear of these feelings, would just supress them and try to pretend they are not there. Facing your feelings and your fears while trying to learn and grow from them makes you a very wise person. You will get through this time in your life and you will know exactly how to do so because you are not afraid to ask these tough questions of yourself. I hope that turning to your friends here at myLot might helps you out a bit. I also think that mummymo's advice to you is excellent. Again, only you will know what it is that will make you feel pampered and I hope you find healing in doing it. ((((hugs))))
@mikeysmom (2092)
• United States
23 May 08
i feel bad for you that you are lonley. i guess we all need some type of companionship. if you are unhappy perhaps you should tell your husband and tell him you are lonely. are you certain he has been faithful to you all these years that he is away from you? perhaps it is time to exam your life and see if you want to make some changes and adjustments. good luck to you.
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
23 May 08
You are not lonely. You are bored with your routine. You need to find yourself an activity to have some fun. Just because you are an housewife... does not mean that you have to stay home 24/7. Use your imagination... get creative... and get yourself a new life. Don't waste your time looking for love. Look for friendship and companionship. It is a lot easier.
@mummymo (23709)
23 May 08
Silvana sweetheart your post really touched me. I went back to your profile just to find a little more! I do not think you are a stupid old woman in any way shape or form. I think you are a woman who has obviously been through a lot of pain and had to spend long periods of time away from your husband and being the main support for all your family. You have done a fantastic job I am sure and now as you are in your prime you deserve to find life easier and more comfortable! I bet your children really appreciate everything you have done for them and I think you should be proud of yourself, very proud indeed. Would you be able to pamper yourself? It doesn't have to mean hairdressers, facials, makeup, manicures and new clothes (although that would be very nice indeed) it could just be doing something which you enjoy - a museum visit, a trip to a different town, coffee with friends - anything really that you would enjoy. I do hope that you feel better about yourself very , very soon! xxxx