Should you just leave your husband who womanize?

@salonga (27954)
Philippines
May 23, 2008 2:27am CST
Hey wives, do you have some tips to help my sister in law whose husband is a womanizer. My sister in law has practically exerted every effort to stop his husband but to no avail. Now, she is thinking of just leaving him? Do you think this is right?
5 responses
@mayka123 (10806)
• India
23 May 08
I think you should give the husband one chance to change and if he is not ready to improve then your sister in law should leave him. No sense in staying with a womanizer and waiting for some dreadly disease!!
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@salonga (27954)
• Philippines
23 May 08
She has actually given him countless chance to change, but maybe she should really give the last chance this time around. Thank you for your comments!
@mayka123 (10806)
• India
23 May 08
If she has given him a lot of chances to change and he is not ready to change himself I think she should think of her own life. No sense in living in misery.
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@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
23 May 08
I've been in the same situation before..If she has exerted all efforts and ideas on how to help his husband get over his womanizing, then it's time to let go while she still have respect for herself..Her husband doesn't give her respect anymore and before she falls into self-pity and lose her self-respect, leave. Her husband might not love her anymore that's why he does that. It will be hard to start living her life alone at first but that would change as soon as she picks up the pieces.. I think leaving her husband would somehow make the husband realize that she doesn't want to tolerate it anymore..That would be her ultimatum. And if that doesnt scare him, he will never change his ways. So leave and no matter what other people will say, whether it is right or wrong, she's the one suffering and not them..If she really loves her husband tell him that she's leaving for now until the time that he's changed, then she MIGHT come back..
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@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
hey..thanks for the BR!!
@Swaana (1208)
• India
24 May 08
If everything else have not worked out, and if he is not able to tell why he is acting so and why he is not ready to be in good terms with his wife (your sil), then it is better to take him to counselling. If he is not ready to do that, then it is not worth waiting for the relationship to work out better. If she have a job at hand, and if she is financially independent, then she could just leave him and start living on her own.
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@janaraji (154)
• India
23 May 08
dig and find out the reasons why he is a womanizer throgh third party - or directly ask him the reason ( she may ask in private. consuling plays a vittal role. leaving him based on these investigation. may be the fault on the other side also!!! god bless all!!! dubai jana
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Sometimes, I wondered what would I do if that happened to me. I have friends who let go of their husband because of womanizing. It that would happen to me and i hope not, I won't let go of him. It's like giving him away to the other woman and make things easier for them to continue their immoral activities. I would rather make them live in hell everyday until they separate. Besides, I don't want my children to deprived of a father. Maybe I can say this as I don't have any experience in dealing with this kind of situation.
@salonga (27954)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
And I hope and pray you will not suffer that situation. I believe it's really one kind of hell and one of the worst things a woman could suffer. Thanks for sharing and have a nice day!