Friends first - do you respond to your friends discussions first?

May 23, 2008 4:30am CST
This has probably been said before, but I would like to post a little reminder to the newer members here. Friends requests are a two way steet people. It is only polite to respond to friends discussions, especially if you have requested them as a friend. I have recently accepted at least a dozen new friends here, and responded to their discussions, but I have yet to see anyone of them respond to any of my discussions. I know it isn't always easy to keep track of friends discussions and we are all pressed for time on occasions here, but I have always made a special point of responding to my friends discussions first when I log into MyLot and would hope that my friends would do the same. Most of my friends are lovely people, and they mean a great deal to me here in MyLot land, so this posting is more directed at my newer friends - please remember to check out your friends discussions and respond to them. Do you always make a point of responding to your friends discussions first?
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
30 May 08
I spend 98% of my time here reading and responding to my friends discussions and believe me mate, that's a lot of reading.... I can't answer every single post of course but I try and answer all I can and maybe that's why I'm 5~6 days behind. I've also added a few new friends lately who are also newer members and sadly we don't have much in common, so even though I add friends I may not turn the alert on. I do notice when my long term friends don't respond to my discussions, even though I don't post many and I try not to let it bother me...we can't please all the people all the time I guess.
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
26 May 08
I do because I get notifications from my friends. Those are the ones I respond to first, except I do check to see any posts in the cat/science/history catagories.
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• United States
25 May 08
i always respond to my friends posts first.In fact there are times where there posts are the only posts I respond to.And it is easy to keep track of recent posts if you have the notification on.I get emailed whenever Any of my friends start a discussion.I don't keep track of who responds and who doesn't to mine. I just post and wait and see who will respond.
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@burnty (11)
• United States
23 May 08
ofcourse your friends like it if you do that ;)
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@INGA832 (1114)
• Russian Federation
23 May 08
I always respond to my friends' discussions first, at least I try to. I just try to support my friends.
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
23 May 08
I turn all notifications on and that is what I do first. But I dont respond to all discussion as some I just dont have anything new to add or I just dont have any info on the subject at all. But I do try and respond to friends first of course. Most days I only respond to friends disscussions.
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23 May 08
Thanks Minnie, how are you today hun.
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• United States
23 May 08
Not so well my son has been up since 3 am sick. So yeah not such a good day yet.
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23 May 08
Give him a hug from me hun and take a hug for yourself too
@anniepa (27236)
• United States
24 May 08
I certainly always try to respond to as many of my friends' discussions as I can but I have several hundred friends so it's hard to answer every one. I always look at my friends' posts first. I think what you're doing here is a good idea, giving newer members a piece of advice. Annie
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25 May 08
Thanks Annie, I appreciate it is never easy to get to all our friends discussions but I value all my friends here
• Singapore
23 May 08
Sure I do! After I log on to myLot, I will first clear my email notifications from friends. After that, I will do the rest. Cheers!
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25 May 08
Thanks Qizard, nice to see you here again hun
@gemini_rose (16193)
23 May 08
The first thing that I do is go to my emails and begin answering all my friends discussions, it is the main thing for me and I always feel bad if I have not got enough time to get through them all. Sometimes there are that many of them it is just impossible! Occasionally though I notice other discussions at the bottom of the page and I get sidetracked and answer some of them, just like I am doing now!!
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23 May 08
Time is often an issue for me too hun, and I feel guilty too when I can't respond to all my friends.
• Indonesia
23 May 08
I would always put my friends in priority when I come to respond myLotters' discussions. at least, that way I can let my friends know that I'm still here in myLot. I think many people would also hope that they friends will often (even if not always) come to their discussion to respond. if not, I wonder why they ever came to request becoming friends ... well unless if they only wanted to have access to "send message" feature.
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23 May 08
You make a good point hun, why request a friend if you are not going to make any effort to respond to their discussions.
@GreenMoo (11842)
23 May 08
I have some of my friends on 'notify' for new discussions and some not. Those discussions which appear in my inbox are always the first that I reply to. Whilst I don't respond to discussions which I really know nothing about, I make an effort to reply to most of them, and it's nice to see them return the favour. I have to say that if I was responding to someone's dicsussions and noticed that they were never responding to mine then I'd not put in so much effort next time. However, I only ask to be notified of friend's discussions when they look interesting, so I tend to enjoy doing so anyway. If I don't have someone's discussions on notify then I often don't get to them, just through lack of time.
23 May 08
Thanks hun. Yes I always make an effort to respond to friends, and like you find that if others don't seem to make an effort then I am less inclined to bother. Have a good day hun :-)
• India
17 Jun 08
Hi friend, usually i respond to friends discussion first then go to no responses and new user discussions. I like to clear doubts of newbies and respond to such such discussions.
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• United States
28 May 08
It's so funny and ironic, that you would post this. Just this minute (five days after you posted it), I was thinking the exact same thoughts, that I should be more polite and respond to my friends discussions, as well. Since they are polite and respond to mine. It's so true. How can we expect others to do, what we ourselves, will not? I'm not trying to repeat what you said, but you said it so well. I have been here a year and am still struggling to balance all the parts of MyLot, from adding friends and posting new discussions to responding to friends and updating my own discussions. Sometimes I get around to only two of those things a day. So, I will definitely try to be more consistent about responding to friends at their own discussion. As you say, it's a two way street. Even us veterans on MyLot need a reminder occasionally. Thanks! P.S. I will try your idea about responding to friends at first login. That would help my brain wake up and get me limber for the gymnastics routine that is my day. Be well. Bye!
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@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
24 May 08
Well, I am known to check out a lot of my friends discussions when I come here, but I also check out other discussions and such which interest me as well. For me, yes, it is important to keep up with friends and try to get to know them better, and learn more of who they are. For me, I also like to sometimes check out the New discussions and the new user discussions to learn about some of the New people coming in here as well. I always like to encourage all to give this site a chance, and enjoy. And just because I may not answer all of my friends discussions all of the time, due to time constraint, and my interests do vary maybe from some of theirs, I do have some Great friends here I can count on in all respects as well.
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• United States
24 May 08
I always respond to my friends discussions first before I move on to other topics. Alot of my friends do respond back and it's nice to know that the few friends I have do this in return. I know that when I first started I would start a bunch of discussions and didn't respond where as now I'm going back and slowly responding to those replies I got from people so please for those that did respond please be paitent I will get to your reply as soon as I can. I think it's only right and fair if we do this for eachother.
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@abekah (10)
23 May 08
yes because friends can be sometimes helptive and then also can teaches you the bad way to go but you know, all this will depend on you because you need not to give all your hears to friends but rather take the chanse of listing to the right friends who will always give you good advise to carry on to life because you knows that life is about wall in which you need to fight for it so you need to be very careful about the type of friends you move with. so friend stay bless to bring more discussion.
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@mummymo (23707)
23 May 08
Honey I cannot remember the last time I got a chance to respond to a yet to be friends discussion as I usually struggle to clear my inbox of all the notifications from my friends posts! lol I always try to answer as many posts as possible but as you say it isn't always easy! xxx
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@rx4life (1933)
• United States
23 May 08
I do respond to my friends first but of late I have had difficulties with getting notified that a discussion has been started...I've checked my notification status...and worried that since I have been off the site for awhile that perhaps people have chosen to delete me...but then I get a new friend's request from the person..so...in answer to your post...I agree it is a two way street ...and when I have time I go searching for my friends discussions...but many of them aren't posting...only replying!!
• United States
23 May 08
To be honest with you, I do not persay I have friends here on mylot. I come in and read the discussions and respond to the one's that interest me the most. I really do not frequent here a lot since I am really a busy person, with work, ChaCha guide and Home Based Business. Once in a while I pop in but, nothing that drags me here everyday. So to answer your question no! Now if i was a regular visitor here, and had numerous friends friends, then my response would have to be yes, out of respect, and I would hope they would do the same for me. But, a question arises out of this...What if there is a topic they write about that does not interest you, what do you do in that case?
@youless (91498)
• Guangzhou, China
23 May 08
Of course. Friends are important to me. And I like to do something make them happy. And therefore I love to respond my friends' discussions at first. I love China
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