I felt so helpless....

United States
May 23, 2008 4:30pm CST
Yesterday, I was about to take a shower when our old faucet finally give up, I turned it on for the shower and I can't turned it off anymore.. It was flowing like a river and I felt so helpless, I do know anything about plumbing and I was calling my husband to inform him, Unfortunately, he was still in a very important meeting and it took him like 30 minutes to come home, gosh..I don't know what to do and I just close the door so that I will not hear the water! I started to think, I have to learn how to do this..anyway, do you know anything about plumbing? have you experienced anything happen inside your house and only your partner or anyone in the family can fix it?
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@anawar (2404)
• United States
24 May 08
When I lived in an apartment, I asked my partner to change the fixtures in the bathroom tub. When the old fixtures refused to budge, I pleaded with him to stop. I do know a bit about plumbing. Of course he didn't listen and he broke the faucet and water gushed out into the tub. There was not shut off valve for individual apartments so the water ran all night long. I was so afraid I would get in trouble for it. The next morning, everything got fixed by the maintenance man and I never let my bf touch another plumbing problem again!
• United States
24 May 08
hehehe...that is quite funny and scary experience too anawar! I can imagine it running all night, I will be scared too! It's really hard when no one know how to fix it, I wish to learn but I don't like it either!LOL!
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• United States
25 May 08
I see..wow! Smart dad..LOL, I never learned it before and I have some regrets now..LOL
@anawar (2404)
• United States
24 May 08
The only thing to learn here is not to trust a dumb man. lol. I learned by trial and error, starting with clearng out the kitchen sink drain by unscrewing the 'elbow' in the piping under the sink. My dad showed me years ago_
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@kg_gurl (220)
• United States
24 May 08
This post of yours really got me thinking. I don't know one thing about plumbing and the apartment I'm currently living in has maintenance personnel so I really haven't worried about it. But now I'm thinking of finding another place by my own and you really made me think that I have to learn this stuff. I think I have to learn not only about plumbing but also maintenence of my car and house. Hmmm, thanks for the heads up. ~
• United States
24 May 08
Hi kg_gurl, Great that you have someone to call to in case like this, anyway, this experience made me realize also to learn things by myself, it is very hard to be dependent. But, my problem is, I have no interest about plumbing..LOL, at least this time, I know the bacic thing to do if ever things will happen again.
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• United States
27 May 08
I agree Kg, we have to start learning..Happy posting!
@kg_gurl (220)
• United States
27 May 08
I know but when I move to a new apartment I will not have someone to call. Now that you've started this post I gues I also have to learn like you. I also don't know anything about plumbing and i agree that it's difficult to be dependent on someone else for simple household needs. I guess we'll have to learn these to to be independent. ~
• United States
24 May 08
Was it the actual faucet? or was it the handle?. the handle and you couldnt turn it to turn it off. a pair of plyers wo9uld have done the job... But yes there are plenty of things that you should learn hoe to do in your house hold incase of an emergency that way you dont have to wait on anyone and possible risk someones or your own life waiting.
• United States
24 May 08
My husband found out it is the pipe connecting the faucet/nipple! Wow, I can tell you have that knowledge about it Mikeswifey, since at first that was my husband's response to the problem, he got a plyers and tried to twist it to turn it off! Good for you! LOL, how did you learn that? I am also trying to learn things really, it's hard to be dependent especially in cases like this!
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@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
24 May 08
hi,wow..it was a helpless day for you...i dont know about plumbing but i remember i experience the same way too, what i did i put a piece of clothes to the faucet..
• United States
24 May 08
really? I didn't think that way marketing since it might clog the bathtub and tends to stop the water from flowing...I tried to fetch the water and use it to water my plants but for 30 minutes, I was tried doing it...Anyway, I am glad that it was ok now, we change the pipes,nipples, it's really old! but, I was thinking I really need to learn this!
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@Jody20 (887)
• Netherlands
24 May 08
I know how to turn off water, gas and electricity. I know something about plumbing, i have to be because i don't have a partner and my family doesn,t live close by.
• United States
24 May 08
wow! I appreciate that skill JOdy, you learn that by your own or you really study for it? I am just curios since I also want to enhance what I have observed when my husband fix it, but I know when it will not be put into action, it will just fade away from my memories!
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@Jody20 (887)
• Netherlands
3 Jun 08
Yes, i learned that by my own. I have a bad habbit, that i want to know everything and the need to know how to fix something when it's broken.
• Indonesia
24 May 08
i dont think about plumbing...but my partner, samily always help me...so do anything make happy for somme one
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• United States
24 May 08
We are in the same boat and I guess we need to learn it!LOL!
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@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 08
yeah, i just understand about your feeling. its just really annoying when we were in the middle of doing something and suddenly its getting stuck cause we need any helping from anyone or our partner however, as long as i can, i tried my best to handle it when my partner wasn't home
• United States
3 Jun 08
I agree plumwish, I was like crazy walking back and forth and do know what to do and how to stop the water@ At least now, I have learned from my husband while I was observing him fixing it.
• United States
25 May 08
i can fix most things,but a couple of our sinks for some god unknown reason have no shut off valves underneath (they're really old sinks).so,if i can't,i shut off the main til someone comes home to help.
• United States
25 May 08
wow! How I wish I have that skill too scarlet, your husband taught you? I am trying to learn things now!
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• United States
26 May 08
wow! That's great, I am also trying to read stuff about it, I wish I will learn fast and It is truly wonderful to learn in case of emergency!
• United States
26 May 08
my father did.he figured it was best i learn it for myself.a lot of fixtures are threaded,so it's not much more than turning off the water,unscrewing the old and putting the new on.
@Jellytang (698)
• China
24 May 08
Maybe you should change your faucet.....LOL
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• United States
24 May 08
We just did..It was old already..LOL, thanks for sharing!
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
24 May 08
Hi dear sad to hear about this, but i am sure its not worse , what if u had soap all over ur body and it broke down and u cant turn it ON??? so in ur case u have to face water loss but atleast ur bath was done. and other thing if u have some tools at home like plier etc then u atleast can turn it off with them and later ur hubby or plumber can fix it Take care
• United States
28 May 08
I am sure I will laugh every time I will recall it and I will imagine my face during that incident..ANyway, happy posting!
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
26 May 08
Well, all i can say now that, it all well that Ends Well. But i am sure its nice event in ur memory which u will enjoy when u will recall it after few years Take care
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
29 May 08
thats nice have happy memories Take care
@ellie333 (21016)
24 May 08
Oh dear poor you I can imagine how you felt. I haven't got a partner so have to be somewhat practical so I would have just turned the stopcock off and then called someone to help. I don't know anything about plumbing myself though. I hope it is all sorted now. Ellie:D
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• United States
24 May 08
Thanks ellie, finally, we were able to fix it and change everything that we need too. I was observing a lot when he fixed it and gosh, I don't know if I can do it alone..LOL
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@gemini_rose (16264)
23 May 08
I am no good at plumbing no, my hubby is though as he took a course on it and so he is the hero in our house. Luckily we have only had little disasters, the last one being that the radiator started to leak and would not stop and so my hubby figured out what was wrong with it and fixed it!! I think it is worth having some of these kinds of skills though, life would be so much easier if we could just learn it all from home and then we would not have to rely on others to come and help us out!!
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• United States
25 May 08
I agree gemini or maybe if it will be a great timing that my husband will be always around every time something is wrong in the house, that would be better!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
23 May 08
hell there! sorry to hear about the bad news, i guess you havent tried shutting off the main water valve coz you didnt mention it. anyway if that thing happens again that is all you have to do same thing if there is a shortage in electricity must shut off the main electric circuit. i always tried to know some of the household stuff and be able to do the "handy jobs" just in case my husband is not around, i have experienced that before but i always know what to turn off so it dont mess - dont worry we all need to learn and grow so i guess by now you would want to learn stuff in regards of handiness LOL. i am just asking my husband to teach me electrical wiring soon as well as car engine so i know what to do if he is not around, i hate the feeling of being helpless and i want to make my self prepared in case something happen. i know it is not easy but at least i can try. i am very lucky that my husband is a very handy man, he knows a lot of stuff and he always tries to fix things on his own, he is also knowledgeable of science and medicine so most of the time he do all the checking to me haha! anyway, i hope you are feeling much better now and that you are no longer helpless, at least you can look back at it and says to your hubby... "look i can make a river in our home" LOL takecare!
• United States
25 May 08
I agree..LOL, that's great jair..It is really nice we we will learn these stuff to make us more confident and independent when things go wrong..Like what happen to me, I was like a child walking back and forth and I do kno what to do..LOL, I actually ask him where to shut it off and he asked me to just wait for him...I found out that it is located in our front yard and it's like 24 inches deep!LOL!
• United States
28 May 08
you got it, maybe they were drunk when they work on that! I even can't believe it, my husband also complains a lot about this house but he bought it so, we just need to smile and work on it!LOL!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
27 May 08
yeah there is always a place to learn and grow, it is a great teacher though "experience" LOL... hahaha 24 inches ei? that is quite a main valve to turn off, im sure my husband will say the same thing coz he will be afraid that i will end up hurting myself in the end. why on earth will they place such important thing that deep, they must be living underneath so they decided to do the same to yours OR maybe they are drunk LOL anyway, im glad it is over now and all is well and fixed. good night!
• China
29 May 08
After reading your article,I think I should do one thing as follows: Just to learn more about the facilities so as one day I can solve the problems that trouble my love.
• United States
29 May 08
wow! That is very sweet yiranmengyi!
• United States
29 May 08
Go yiran, you will melt her heart!Stay in Love!
• China
29 May 08
Thank you!That's exactly what I want to do!
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
25 May 08
No I haven't but I will try and fix it myself if I don't break it first...lol But most of the time I can get the job done and if not it waits until the hubby gets home and than he can work on it for a bit normally he knows more about it than I do anyway!! :)
• United States
25 May 08
yea, I did all the waiting too last time and it was sad for me to hear the water flowing and I do not know how to stop it, so I just close the door to escape from the sound!LOL!
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
27 May 08
As my husband understands that I know only a little about plumbing, so he had told me before if there is any faucet licking or couldn’t turn off any faucet, what I have to do is to turn off the nearest valve in the water supply line to cut off the water of the part concerned. Then the other faucet could still be used if they are not sharing the common control valve. He would then get the thing repaired when he comes back. You are right checapricorn, we have to learn how to tackle the problems of plumbing, lighting, cooking gas supply, first aids and other household problems as well, so we won’t get panic at the very moment when we encounter such difficulty.
• United States
27 May 08
Correct lkbooi, That was not introduced to me by myhusband where to shut the valves off and I was observing him a lot and asking questions when he fixed it, It's very nice to learn these things in case of emergency!
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Hi there Che! I haven't experienced anything like that thankfully. I don't know anything about plumbing at all. I should, though. I will ask my husband or cousin to show me what should be done when something like that happens.
• United States
27 May 08
It's very hard nanayangel when it happens and we are alone, not unless we can call someone right away to help us if our partner can't do it on time for some reasons!
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
26 May 08
Hello checapricorn, I am not good at fixing things. I always make things worse. The only one who can repair things at home is definitely my husband. I even need his help to just change the bulb. I rather not to try to touch anything damaged in the house as I always make thing from bad to worse...
• United States
26 May 08
LOL, I can see myself to you g28life, and it is really very hard when things will occur and our partner is not around!
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
27 May 08
My dad can fix it when hes not at work...but when he goes to work hes gone for two weeks. Otherwise I hire someone or call my friends dad to help me out. I do know theres valves in the closet that i can turn off the water from running into the bathttub and under the sink are the valves for the sink taps. I have to find out where the valve for the propane is for the furnace...I think it might be the one on the tank outside.
• United States
27 May 08
That's good saundyl that you can call your dad's friend to do it for you! I can't do that since all of my friends are working that time, at least now I know where is the valves located!
@Elixiress (3878)
25 May 08
No I don't know anything about plumbing. All I know is where the tap is to turn all the water off in the house.
• United States
25 May 08
same here Elixiress! I feel like I need to learn this time!