When someone doesnt give up

@TerryZ (22146)
United States
May 23, 2008 4:40pm CST
Since yesterday I have had someone requesting my friendship. I declined them yesterday about 7 times. Now today its starting up again. What part of that dont they understand? Do you have any suggestions for me. Right now Im just leaving it so they cant ask me anymore. Sorry people if you cant through to request my friendship. I dont want any trouble here. Ive had trouble before as you all know. And if this continues I will leave mylot. I dont want this person as a friend cannot be trusted. Im here to have a good time. So if your reading this leave me alone!
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39 responses
• United States
23 May 08
Terry non, I had that happen some time ago, and I knew it was a person that had been banned, I finally just gave up as you are doing and left it up there, eventually they got bored and left me alone, and I think left mylot again cause I have not seen that particular nick around any longer. Another problem I have is with young Asian men with whom I have nothing in common with and do not want to have them in my list, sometimes they are persistent. I have added them long enough to type off a PM telling them I have no interest, and then delete them.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
Wow! Well Im ignoring this person.
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
23 May 08
Good for you Nana. I refuse to add any of the twits for even that long because anything I have to say to them I can not say in a PM anyway so it is just not worth it for me. BTW: sorry about venting to you yesterday... was in a state I tell ya.
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• United States
24 May 08
Raz darlin when did you vent on me yesterday??
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• Lubbock, Texas
24 May 08
I agree with most here. Theres' no block button, so just leave it pending. I have one pending. I keep checking with her posts and discussions. She presents herself like an airhead, and that's not what I'm here for. If her discussions pick up and she has something substantial to say, I'll approve, if not she'll stay in the pending list.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
I do agree we need a block button bad.
@setroc (853)
• Philippines
24 May 08
wow youre that picky huh? well i guess i can never be your friend, i have almost always have nothing substantial to say haha
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
23 May 08
You will not leave just like I won't because guess what and that is all I am saying to you Sweetie you can guess So you will just sit tight here with me ok And you will just leave it there now as you say they can't request again I am having the same prob starting today so Sweetie we are together Love you Hugs xxxxxx
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
Okay gabs well everything was good today then that person from yesterday started again. Yea Im just leaving it there. Ihope your okay too. LOve you.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
23 May 08
Sweetie it is the same Person so I will see how it goes Hugs
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@syeryn (574)
• United States
24 May 08
Being new here, I just can't see why some people would want to stir trouble for you. I have only a small handful in my friends list. I have only requested to be a friend to someone once and that was after I responded to a few of their discussions. I like what they write about so I asked to be included on their list. They accepted and I was very happy for that. A block or ignore button would be a great asset to myLot it seems. I'm sorry for your trouble and hope they get bored quickly and leave you alone so you can enjoy this site as you deserve to do.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
yes Im just leaving it pending maybe forever!LOL
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• Indonesia
24 May 08
From now on i don't have a guts to ask you to be my friend...
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
Well chic fujigirl Im not talking about you.LOL
@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
23 May 08
Welcome to my world Terry. It is rather frustrating isn't it? I really thing there needs to be a block option just because of these people. The last person that was being a thorn in my side finally got the hint (at least for now) when I told him to bug off in one of the scared bears discussions. This was after about 2 months of me denying requests from him.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
There really does. Check out my discussion on Mollys new eating habits. And she wants to be my friend.LOL Ya right.
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@polachicago (19143)
• United States
23 May 08
Maybe he or she is an angel coming to you with heaven music to play.... I am with you. No more trouble. Once again, I think that people are confused with Mylot and social networking site. HUGS
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
Youve got that right!
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
23 May 08
this is happening to my sister but not in this site in another friend gaining site. some of her friends during college days that she was not even close with are very noisy about it. they even send messages to my sisters friends and asking what is wrong why does my sister dont accept their request. just like you my sister is really pissed of with that kind of attitude. why dont they just read between the lines. it is more painful to say it right to their faces. my sister just ignore it. maybe they will stop bugging her if she ignores it. because if she accepts it the bugging will not end it will be just the start.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
I know some people just love trouble. They like to reck a good thing going.
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@luvstochat (6916)
• United States
23 May 08
Some people just can't take a hint! I think you are doing the right thing by just igorning the request now because if you say no again they will most likely just ask you again. Sorry you are having trouble with someoone. Its to bad that mylot does not have something where the person can't ask more than once like a block or something.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
Yes I know.
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
23 May 08
wow! I never thought someone will be that persistent! I have not tried that but for me better to ignore it and hopefully like yahoo, there is a way to block the person from your list so that his/her request will never reach you!
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
Im just going to ignore this person. Hopefully they can get their jollies off some where else.
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• United States
23 May 08
I have had a few people try again and again to get me to confirm their request for friendship. I ignore them for a while and eventually deny them. What triggers my decision to deny is what discussions they start or comment on. I agree with Wolfie about the ignore/block button. It would be beneficial to everyone on MyLot as well.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
I agree too. Thats what Im doing ignoring.
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@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
23 May 08
That's one of the good things about Yuwie! You can block people and it seems that this option is desperately needed here on Mylot, I hope that Mylot take note although I won't hold my breath, we shouldn't be hounded, there is such as thing as privacy and being able to block people should be an option on here, it works well on Yuwie and it stops the nastiness, the trolls and the stalkers, we should be able to enjoy these sites not have mindless idiots who's only enjoyment is to hound and harrass others. I would drop a line to HQ sweetie and if you want me to I will to as well and I will explain to them that it works well on other social networks, this is not on!!!
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
That sounds good my friend. thanks
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• United States
24 May 08
This is only the second social networking site I have visited and I saw this same kind of thing on the other one and I don't really understand it, maybe someone here can explain it to me. You say this person cannot be trusted..Trusted with what? What motivates some people to exclude others from their friends list? What motivates some people to insist that they be included on other peoples friends list? I'm not sure if I am missing some valid point to any of it but just in case I thought I'd ask you all.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
Hi Lambchoper I cant really get into. But this so called person has left nasty replys to my discussions. And for someone to ask that many times they want trouble.
• United States
24 May 08
Hmmm, interesting. Passive aggressive. Oh well, I guess it's up to the individual how they handle their friends list. But, I probably would have handled the requests a little differently than you did. I would have excepted the request and been done with it. When handed passive aggressive hand it back.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 May 08
No because then you get banned. Try it sometime.
@mummymo (23709)
23 May 08
Honey other people can still put in friendship requests even if you have one sitting there - I have 4 waiting at the moment as they have not posted or responded to anything since they put in a request several weeks ago - I think that is the best way to deal with someone who just keeps putting a request in and will not take a hint! I do hope they are reading this and I also hope they will now leave you alone! Please do not let them drive you away as you have many, many friends here! Hugs xxx
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
23 May 08
Your right mummymo I can just leave it there forever.LOL
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@mummymo (23709)
23 May 08
Perfect plan! xxx
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@mummymo (23709)
25 May 08
Thank you for the Best Response Terry - I appreciate it! xxx
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
25 May 08
If I were you, I would report it to the Mylot administration. That sounds like harrassment to me. You do not have to accept anyone as a friend that you do not choose to. There have been many times when people have requsted my friendship and I have had to deny them. Sometimes I feel really bad, but I do have standards when choosing friends on here. As a matter of fact, you just reminded me that there is a guy that I need to delete from my friend's list. He responded to one of my discussions and contradicted me about my beliefs and I had to go behind him and correct what he said. With friends, I do not want to have to do this. At the very least, you should just leave that person on your request list, so they don't keep harrassing you.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
26 May 08
Oh this person is an idiot and still have it on pending. All they want to do is fight with me. So then I will banned.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
26 May 08
Don't allow them to get to you. If you have to, just ignore them. It is not worth it to argue.
@setroc (853)
• Philippines
24 May 08
never hapend to me before, im new here, but i always acept frends invite, but like in most sites that im in, after acepting it, i hear nothing from them anymore
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
Consider yourself lucky then. But give it awhile you havent been on here that long.LOL Enjoy mylotting! And welcome
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@setroc (853)
• Philippines
24 May 08
i wont mind having someone following me like a dog, lol, but that never happened to me before, i dont think itll happen here
• United States
24 May 08
Sorry this is happening to you, terry. I wish there was a way to block friend requests. Hopefully this perosn will give up and leave you alone!
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• United States
24 May 08
Oh- one other tip, terry. Why not just leave their friend request as Pending? Don't accept or deny it. Just let it sit there.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
Thats what Im doing. I will leave it pending till the cows come home.LOL Thanks
@lieanat (1140)
• Malaysia
24 May 08
hi, TerryZ, please dont leave myLot just for that person. Ignore it and don't reply to his/her request anymore. Or, I suggest you to report that user to mylot administrator. And request to ban the person. Hope this help you.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
Yes it does help Im just leaving it on pending. And will for a long time thats all. NO they will not make me leave. Thankyou
@lieanat (1140)
• Malaysia
24 May 08
You're welcome. And glad to hear you say you will not leave us here! Yeah!
@Gollywog (1093)
24 May 08
The problem is your such a sweetie! who could resist that baby puppy? Well just ignore these people they will give up, they will find someone else to bother?
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
24 May 08
thanks Gollywog Im just very hurt this person has said something to me in one of my posts that wasnt so nice. Why are these people so cruel?
@Gollywog (1093)
24 May 08
I cheked out that B***h? How nasty can some one be!!!! No wonder she has only 14 friends and her star is a BIG 1 He He Thats what bullies get no FRIENDS! Billy-No-Mates. I dont have cats because I love my dogs but I would never comment like that, my dogs and my two sons dogs are on my bed together in the mornings to wake me. If they wanted to eat on my bed they could. Keep smiling.
@blackbriar (9126)
• United States
29 May 08
Sounds like someone is really trying to start trouble for you again, Terry. I would just leave it as a request so the person can't keep asking. Maybe contact mylot about it but may not do any good.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
29 May 08
Well so far so good blackbriar but your right they want trouble.