Update On My Mom 5-23-08

For All Of My Wonderful Friends!! - Thank you!!!!
@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
May 23, 2008 9:14pm CST
Sorry for not being on here yesterday!! I've been through hell and am back again... I'm so exhausted and can't go to bed and I'll tell you why in a moment but first this is what went on. Dad had his surgery to have cancer removed from his face on Wednesday. Yesterday he woke up sick as a dog and unable to drive so I offered to pick him up and take him to see mom with me. He agreed. What a mistake. He was so sick and coughing his head off the whole way there. I almost turned around and took him back home but I didn't. We could stay for about an hour before dad just couldn't stand it anymore so we left. Mom was in ok spirits, not good but not bad either however, she was put back on the ventilator because when she deep sleeps, she forgets to breathe for too long of a period. BUT the way it was explained to me, it was set on 6 but she's doing 12 which is twice as much as the ventilator is doing!! Which is a GOOD thing but still it put a damper on my day because she's back on it again. Anyway got dad home and did some chores around his house and got ready to leave and asked him in different ways to see if he wanted me to come back and finally got the scary truth out of him, he didn't feel comfortable being alone because he couldn't catch his breath!! He has a heart condition, diabetes and HAD lung cancer so you can only imagine my fear!! I called his neighbor and asked for him to sit with dad till I got back because I had to go home and feed my fur babies and bring my dogs with me to dads for the night. I got back, dad had gone to bed after taking some cough medicine and his pain killers and said he was feeling better. I told him that I was on the couch if he needed anything (like I'd hear him if he did holler!) needless to say, I didn't get much sleep last night because I was so afraid he'd have a heart attack which will take him because 1. He’s had so many before that he has just a little bit of his heart working 2. Because he only has one valve left to his heart, all the others are all blocked!! I was petrified all night long!! When he woke up this morning he said he felt much better than he did yesterday. Whew!! What a relief!! So I cleaned his house quite a bit and then went home to get my chores done and get a shower to go see my mom. Saw mom and she's doing great!! She's still hooked up to the ventilator but it's only on a pressure sort of thing just in case she forgets to breathe but she's doing all the breathing on her own!! She's in such high spirits and smiling the whole time!! It was truly wonderful to see her in such a way!! She even tried to write a few times and some of it was legible but mostly not but good thing I can read lips!! LOL That's the up side of being legally deaf, huh? hee hee!! Well, hubby and I were going to bed early tonight because we're both just plain exhausted, he just got back from seeing his step dad an hour and a half away BUT we just got a phone call from my best friend, whom I next to never get to see because of my husband being in the Army which means moving here and there and yonder.... now that he's retired, we opted to live in NC instead of our home state which is VA, anyway, my best friend is on her way back from Myrtle Beach and is in NC now and wants directions to our house!! WHOA!! WHAT?! You've got to be kidding!! I had no idea she even went to Myrtle Beach and here she's coming to see us!! Oh my gosh!! So hubby and I are freaked out so we rush around to quick clean our house so it won't look like a pig lives here, although she'd understand knowing our situation but still, she's never been here before so we want it to look as nice as we can get it but too tired to do an all out cleaning job so we did the best we could and now she's probably about a half hour out. SOOOOO that said, I might not be on here for the next few days. I promise though that I'll keep you all updated on mom's progress when I get back. I'm excited to see my best friend!! Awesome!! I can't wait to take her to see mom and dad too!! They're going to be shocked silly and so happy to see her!! How cool is that?! Again, thank you from the top to the bottom of my heart for all your thoughts, prayers and support!! I couldn't have done it without you!! Love you guys!!!!
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I am sure that you have other updates on this, I am finally going through my mail and starting with the oldest, so forgive me since I don't know the latest..I will pray for you and your family...
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• United States
3 Sep 08
I am so sorry, I know what it is like to have a loved one have one thing after another and the constant testings and doctor appointments.I will continue to pray for you..
24 May 08
Have a wonderful time with your best friend - its just what you need. Good to hear your mum is doing a bit better. Hope your dad is ok now too. You really have been through tough times recently. Keep smiling and keep your chin up,as we brits say!!. Much love to you.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 May 08
You Brits have it correct!! Keep smiling and keep your chin up... yup a true and good statement!! Thanks so much for your kind words!! Dad is feeling better today although he was sick again last night. He's still not up to par to see mom today but it's best that he stays home so he can get better. I'll be up at his house later on today to check in on him. Much love back to you!!
25 May 08
Hi,hope you had a good time with your friend. You're right your dad needs to stay at home to get well again,i'm sure he will be soon. How are you coping though? I know its hard,but you need to take care of yourself, even if only for a few minuites a day you need some time to unwind,and gather your thoughts. I know when my Dad was very ill I was able to go swimming for 30mins once a week and its the one thing that kept me sane. Be kind to yourself. Much love and hugs.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
24 May 08
The cat came back and all kinds of great things are happening. I'm worried to hear about your dad though. So he gets added to my prayer list. Cats, get some sleep ok? And enjoy your time with your girlfriend. What a treat that will be for you. Hugs and much love sweets.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 May 08
Yeah I'm back for a moment to say thanks to everybody! lol Great things are happening but set backs and back to great leaps and bounds again. I guess it's to be expected but when dad went down, it scared the hell out of me! I've always believed that when I lose one I'll lose the other soon after. I hope to be proved wrong because I don't think I can handle that. I pray God doesn't think I'm THAT strong!! Thanks for adding my dad to your prayer list!! And I got some great sleep last night! The electric went out and came back on and out again and I went to sleep without a care in the world!! LOL Well, yes cares but I fell asleep and got a good nights rest... finally!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
24 May 08
I'm glad to hear you are getting some rest. Please make sure your dad does too. Having a spouse ill and all the travelling is very hard on the older folks too, and can wear them down and make them ill as well - as I"m sure you know. Thinking of you everyday sweets. Hugs
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@mummymo (23707)
24 May 08
Oh Wow this roller coaster you are on shows no sign of slowing down yet honey and I have to say that although it seems to be a bit of a white knuckle ride you are going to end up elated at the end! I am so pleased that you are getting the chance to spend time with your friend - enjoy catching up and we'll see you when you get the chance to get back and see us! Hugs xxx
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 May 08
Yes exactly right, a white knuckle ride with ups and downs and twists and turns.... ahhhhhh!!!! lol Gotta laugh for it sure beats crying!! Besides, I don't want a headache lol Thanks for your understanding but I don't want to forget my online friends either!! Love you too much!! Hugs to you mummymo!!
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
1 Jun 08
Gosh! You sound like you will be exhausted if you are not already. It's great that things are going better. Your Mum's continuing to get better must be a good thing for your Dad. I glad you are sounding happier and getting to see your friend. Take care of yourself too won't you?
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
28 May 08
I am glad she is doing well, and that your dad is ok. Maybe seeing this friend is what you need. I know it was a surprise and might have not had the best timing in your mind. Enjoy them, and let them help you. You deserve it. Have a good time.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
25 May 08
I do hope that it has all calmed down for you a bit now and that your Dad is feeling better and hope your Mum is still doing ok Love and Hugs
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