Do you think that an obese woman is un-date-able?

Don't worry you will be date-able. You just won't have as many dates or as much choice than you would if you were slimmer. There are actually men who are called "chubby chasers". These are men that prefer overweight women. I saw that on a documentary once. What was really weird was that one of the girls was dumped by her boyfriend because she wasn't fat enough! Yup that right folks he dumped her because he'd found another woman who was fatter!

it's not about just the date or being datable it's about loving yourself. you have to show other people that you love yourself by looking over your own health. as they say, you cant really love other people if you cant even love yourself. and if you lose weight, you dont really become a different person unless you change your personality and attitude. only your appearance. so there's nothing wrong if you try to lose weight. after all, it's not for your mom. it's for yourself.

Hello Sweets We live in a world with the majority being very shallow...I do hope that someone will come along that can see the wonderful person I know you are but honestly those people are few and far between... If you are heavy and healthy and happy then why change? Certainly not to get a mate! But Doll if you are not all three then time to do something about it.Do a small thing each day and it will add up... I think your mother is (unfortunately) right..doesn't say much for our society does it? Big Hugs xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

I don't think that she is right as I was once finished by a guy and he went out with another girl and said that he prefers the other girl because "she had more to hold onto" I am a size 6 while she was a size 16 (UK sizes). So there will be someone out there for you. However many guys find skinny girls attractive as most models are skinny and they think that that is the type of girl they should be going out with so their friends don't mock them, but if they were true friends they would not mock the guy for going out with anyone whatever shape or size.

I don't know what "really really" overweight means. In this day and age it could mean you weigh 120 lbs and wear a size 12. I am not small. I was once small and then there was a shot in the dark that took away so much including my ability to control my weight through exercise. I learned a great deal over the past several years, including that there are many people in the world who are cruel and nasty. There are also many that see into our souls and us for who we are. No you are not un-date-able. But you have to start with how you see yourself. If you don't like you and see yourself as a powerful and attractive woman than noone else will either. No matter your size you have to seek inside of yourself for your core being and that has to shine through. When I finally got there, to who I am I became fine with the outside. I would still like to lose weight but that is a health issue as diabetes runs in my family. For now I do what I can. I eat properly. I exercise within the limits of my disability. Last year I lost all total 27 lbs (more but then I fell and had to have more surgery so gained some back). This year I will start again now that I am out of recovery. In the mean time if Cosmo calls and wants to feature me as a Fearless Female ..... well they will simply need a fold out!

My gosh no !! There are many men out there who like bigger girls and most dont care . I think it has to do with how your self esteem is too. No matter what you weigh you only deserve the best and nothing less.

I barely disagree. I am overweight but my physical appearance was not important. Honestly, I want to lose weight too. True guy can see you beautiful even if your overweight. That's what we call attraction. have patience. Stay beautiful as u are.

i don't think so. the physical appearance is like a bridge for a relationship. once we reach the "other side", we don't relatively need the bridge. there are many other factors like personality, which is more important for the relationship. it's ok to be overweight. but it's very good if you can practice an exercise, not only to get your weight decreased, but also to be healthier.

If you want the right man, it doesn't matter if you weight 150 pounds or 300 pounds. Yes, it is said to say that if you just want to date, no long term then weight may be an issue. But for a relationship that means anything and that could be a marriage or just long term, sharing your life, then the guy will look past your weight. I have never been a barbie, and never want to be, and my husband and I were friends is high school and dated alittle. After we graduated we started dating and now we are married and have a little boy. He didn't care that I wasn't little or small, or that I am a heavy girl. He loved me for me. That is all that really matters.