Gentlemen Prefer Blondes

United States
May 24, 2008 10:27am CST
If your significant other woke up one day with a wild hair and said to you they didn't like your hair color and wanted you to change it, would you be willing to do that for them? Even if you are a man, would you be willing to go blonde, red, brunette or any other color to satisfy the desires of your mate? How far would you go to meet their desires? Would you get it cut, punked out, shaved, dyed? What would you do if someone asked you to change your hair?
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
25 May 08
i don't know if i would be willing to do that. it is just lucky for us women that we could go and buy a wig to change things up. i don't know if i would even ask my honey to change is outer look to make me "happy". i love him as he is and if he wanted to grow his hair out or anything like that i would support him. I just dyed my hair dark brown last nite and he loves it. I think we just support each other and not try and change each other
• United States
25 May 08
I think thats a very fair answer. Support one another without changing one another.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
25 May 08
thanks, i think that is something that will work for both parties involved
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
25 May 08
I'd buy a bunch of wigs! NOBODY messes with this girl's hair - not even me! LOL
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• United States
25 May 08
I don't think I'd ever buy a wig. Not unless I lost my hair to chemo or something like that.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
25 May 08
I used to wear them a lot in the seventies - can't really remember why, and yes they itched something fierce! LOL
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@Antianara (608)
• Australia
25 May 08
I've already had this discussion with my guy. he doesn't want me to change and I told him I'd tell someone where they could shove it and they wanted me to change for them.
• United States
25 May 08
My boyfriend is always wanting me to change my hair back to strawberry blonde, but I won't do it. I just want to go back to blonde. No more red!
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• Australia
25 May 08
just tell him it's your hair and your decision.
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@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
24 May 08
no way, specially i love my black hair, nevver in my life to have any color of my hair being black till i die:)
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• United States
25 May 08
Wouldn't you say that in your culture, its less likely for women to dye their hair?
• Kuwait
25 May 08
yup, it is natural black & shiny, we are the kind of woman being natural.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
24 May 08
Unless I thought my hair would look attractive styled according to his whims, my response would be 'negative', meaning no way.
• United States
25 May 08
How would you know, unless you actually went ahead and did it?
@anawar (2406)
• United States
29 May 08
OH, I have tried some very drastic hair styles and had too much fun with them.
@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
25 May 08
Hi KB, I would hope that my other half would love me as I am but I know that we are all pressured to do things to fit in and conform to certain likes/dislikes. I remember cutting off all my hair when I split with a two timing nasty piece of work and then a couple of weeks later cut it even shorter and went peroxide blonde - I loved coming out of the salon and getting wolf whistles! I think I would say to my other half that I don't mind trying something new - always good for the soul - but only if I am happy with the idea of a change. Thanks for sharing that thought with us.
• United States
25 May 08
Isn't it nice to look better than an ex expected? LOL! Makes them think twice.
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• United States
25 May 08
My husband likes it when i tint my hair with a bit of red. My hair is naturally very dark brown so adding in the bit of red adds in some demention. I like the color so its usually not a problem for me to just add in a bit of something new. However if he wanted me to cut it off or do something elaborate to change my hair i wouldent do it. I wouldent shave it off, cut it off or dye it an obnoxious color. Its just not me.
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• United States
25 May 08
I can see where adding a bit of red would make it prettier and not so flat looking. I think anytime you add highlights you are adding a bit of "spark".
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@athinapie (1151)
• Philippines
25 May 08
I don't think that it is reasonable and fair to change one's hair color just to please somebody else. If somebody asked me to change my hair color or style I wouldn't do anything about it! If you love me, accept me for who I am and for who I'm not. If you can't deal with that then it's your loss. That should be the attitude.
• United States
25 May 08
I think thats a very healthy attitude and I wouldn't want someone to not like me because I didn't adhere to what they wanted from me.
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@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
25 May 08
my son has suggested sevral times that i get a whitener put in my hair and I think I like the idea as I was greyhaired but its not really a bright white and I think with my blue green eyes it would look sort' of nice. when I wash my hair and its soaking wet it looks 'more like a pale ash blond than white hair. goodness' knows at myage I can wear white hair and look fine.But had he asked me any other of those choices it would have been now way Jose. no punk, no shave or dyed some wild color. My hair was always a very light brown almost blonde and in high school the girls would call it dishwater blonde, very 'uncharitably too.
• United States
25 May 08
I've seen some women who have layered their hair, the top being white and the bottom dark and I thought it looked really nice. Really fashionable for someone with grey or white hair.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 May 08
I wouldn't my answer would be that they like/love me the way I am or they can go and find the perfect Person, this is me and I will not change for anyone apart for myself I used to wear certain Clothes that I was not comfortable in at all that the EX Husband wanted me to wear and I hated it, when I said no I will wear what I want to wear he got mad, but I stood my ground on that one
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• United States
25 May 08
On a daily basis I would wear only what I wanted to wear. Now, however, if it came to bedroom time, I might take a few suggestions.
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@mummymo (23707)
24 May 08
If I fancied the colour then I might but only cos I wanted to! I have had my hair almost every conceivable colour and style at some point in the past and I am not averse to trying something new but I don't think I would do something I wasn't keen on just because my other half or someone else wanted me to! xxx
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• United States
25 May 08
I think I feel the same way that you do. I have had my hair all colors of the spectrum too, but only at my own desire, not at the desire of another.
@INGA832 (1114)
• Russian Federation
24 May 08
I would change nothing in myself. People should take me as I am. I will make a change only if it is my own desicion.
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• United States
25 May 08
I agree people should accept who you are and not try to change you.
@judy43 (299)
• United States
24 May 08
Say no. My hair my way
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• United States
25 May 08
Simply said, but I agree.
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
24 May 08
I would only change myself because I want to. Not for anybody else. I had long hair for 42 years... similar to Mel in my avatar. And just about everyone I have come in contact with... thought I should have an hair cut. Do I care what people think or want? Nope. It helps me judge people by being different. If someone is going to judge me for my long hair... I know immediately that this person does not have an open mind about things and sees everything black and white. In which case that person does not fit into my world.
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• India
24 May 08
If my significant other tells me to change my hair of any other part of me, I would just look at him in an odd way and say, "WHAAAAAAT? You been drinking? You leave my (part of the body he wants me to change) alone!" So, you got your answer. It is NO WAY! :) Cheers and happy mylotting!
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• United States
25 May 08
I wouldn't change my looks to suit anyone elses tastes either, love me for who I am, or don't love me.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
24 May 08
I do not think a person should change themselves to pleased another. So no I would not cut, punked out, shaved or dyed my hair for him. I would do these because I wanted to do it.
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• United States
26 May 08
I agree. Like me for who I am, or don't like me, but don't me to change to meet your expectations.
• Canada
24 May 08
I would never do that for anyone other than myself. My fiancee knew who he was getting when we met, and if he wasn't satisfied with that person then he had no business starting a relationship with me. If he were to even ask such a question I would tell him as much too. I remember after I had our last baby I cut my hair really short ( a bob kind of cut) and he hated it, and told me not to cut it that short anymore. I smiled sweetly at him and told him that it is my hair and if this is the way I chose to keep it cut and manageable he would have to deal, and if he couldn't love me for the person I am inside that nothing I did on the outside would ever matter, the relationship would fail anyways. Then I asked him if he would rather the kids and I moved out so he could go find the woman he wanted with long hair etc. His jaw just dropped and we are good!
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• United States
25 May 08
That seems a bit outrageous
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• Canada
25 May 08
which one seems a bit outrageous, the fact that I got my hair cut so short, the fact that I believe he knew what he was getting into when he met me, or the fact that I told him that if he didn't love me for the person I was on the inside, then the relationship would fail and suggest I could move out? There are things that have to be understood here, I am a very open and honest person, I was a single mom before we got together, and I had had my share of bull crap I was single and celibate for 3 years to take the time to figure out what I wanted from life, from a partner, and all my cards have been on the table since the day we met. I was not in need of a knight in shining armor, nor did I want one...I was doing fine raising my kids, paying my bills and taking care of what needed taking care of. What I wanted was someone to walk beside me, take my hand and be my equal from the inside out. It doesn't hurt to remind them once in a while about what they are doing in the relationship and why they are with you. I have open communication with my hubby, alot of people may think the way you think....that is why there is such a high divorce rate. I am not afraid to say what is on my mind, to anyone in my life. Sometimes it needs to be done with tact and grace, others it just comes out as it is, as it should. I make no appologies for that no matter how outrageous it may be...I am okay with me!
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• United States
26 May 08
I feel the same way, if you didn't like my appearance when you started dating me, why didn't you date someone you found more attractive?
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
25 May 08
I am medium blond, but many people like when I make my hair light blond. I made my next promise to myself to go back to my natural color.... How many times I promise it to myself? at least 10 times a year....
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• United States
25 May 08
I wish I could get my hair to go back blonde. I dyed it blonde for years and then decided to go dark, now I can't get it to go back for anything.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
25 May 08
Black needs to grow, before you can dye on any color. My daughter did it long time ago, it took her over one year and many cuts to go back....
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• United States
27 May 08
It always is so hard to get your hair lighter. Just go to a beauty shop and little by little they will help you out . I know they love putting in high lights first.
@ellie333 (21029)
25 May 08
I would expect anyone who was with me as a partner to accept me for me and that would include the colour of my hair. Yes if they said your roots need doing darling fair enough as I am not as brunette these days quite a fair amount of grey, but anything else no way, I dress for me not any man which includes how I colour or style my hair. Ellie :D
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• United States
25 May 08
Me either Ellie. Accept me for who I am and what I look like, or not at all.
• United States
25 May 08
It would depend on the reasons for him wanting me to do so. My husband and I go to a lot of conventions -as his work requires him to, and they can have pretty funky people with funky hairstyles, and sometimes for fun we change our hair color or style to be funky and weird too. However, if it was a "I like blondes more, you should dye your hair" I'd be pretty upset.
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• United States
25 May 08
What you describe sounds like alot of fun and there is a good reason behind it, but just to change for someone's whim is a whole different story.
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