The No Long, No Time see statement...

@cream97 (29178)
United States
May 26, 2008 2:45pm CST
My sister-in-law once told me, no long, no time see comment.. When she would come over to visit, I would hardly be at the house.. So, when she finally caught me at the house, she made this statement to her son, as we all saw each other. I smiled but I was somewhat offended. My mother-in-law told me that my sister-in-law told her that I was trying to avoid her when she comes over, that is why I hardly be at the house. But the truth is, I was at church a lot... She was not the reason.. My mother-in-law told me that... I am trying to figure out if my sister-in-law really said this or if my mother-in-law is just making this up..
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5 responses
• United States
26 May 08
We say long time no see. It is not something that is offensive though. I think you overthink some things.
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@cream97 (29178)
• United States
26 May 08
The reason why she said it, is because I am hardly at the house when she comes over.. It bothers her to not see me when she comes over.. If it is just a statement, then how come she did not make it to my husband? He has been gone many times when she would come over to visit.. Plus there have been times where she would visit and I would be there and not my husband.. Her other sister would not be there either..
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
27 May 08
Hi cream97! I think if it would be better if you will just clarify things to your sister in law. It wouldn't be good for you or her if you will both listen to your mother in law with "she says this and she says that kind of thing". Your mil, basing on her attitude, she might just be stirring up some trouble for you and your sil. Take Care and God Bless! Celebrate life!
@cream97 (29178)
• United States
27 May 08
Yes, I believe that you are truly right! Remember the discussion about the long hair vs who has the longest hair? Well in this sense, what I have digged up about my mil is that she was trying to make me jealous of her daughter.. For what though? She is trying to get me and her oldest daughter to have issues with one another, I don't know why she does this.. That is also what she is trying to do in this discussion as well.. Don't you see the pattern? It is quite obvious.. My mil wants me to have odds with her oldest daughter..
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
28 May 08
Hi cream97! Yes, i do remember the long hair discussion and obviously, I could see the pattern. It is plain obvious that the she does not want you to get along with your sil because if that happens she will know that the two of you will bond together and she will be left out again. Oh, I really hope and pray that both you and your sil will find a way to make your mil find some "enlightenment" so to speak. Take Care and God Bless!
@cream97 (29178)
• United States
28 May 08
Yes, I believe that is what it is.. My sil brought some clothes over the house to me for my son.. My sil's son is taller than my son.. So she let me have a lot of his clothes.. Well my mil acted very strange that time.. She saw me take the clothes off of her bed and put it in the room that I was sleeping in.. I have no clue why she want me to have something against her daughter.. It does not make sense, Faith210. I pray that this will change. Because my mil is causing issues between two innocent women... I plan to clear all of this up with my sil very soon. I have already talked to her once, but I plan to do it again..
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@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Jun 08
the best thing to solve that problem is to ask directly your sister in law about it. second hand gossips could be that bad, and it could ruin your relationship with your in laws. so i think it's better if the three of you will sit together and talk about the issue at square.
@cream97 (29178)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Yes, I will do this. I believe that I asked my sil about it, and she acted like she did not know what I was saying.. When I see her, I will get all this out in the open. I should never believe my mil..
@Remmie7 (168)
• United States
27 May 08
Your mother-in-law should let you and your sister-in-law deal with what ever is between you and the sil. There is always trouble when a 3rd party is into the mix. You never know maybe the mil said something to her daughter that would make her daughter feel like she had to say something to you to offend you. And of course if this is true the mil is wrong for that. It's like she (mil) is very inmature to try and get you two bumping heads.
@cream97 (29178)
• United States
27 May 08
It is so.. My mil does things like this... I don't know why she wants me to have an issue with her daughter so much.. It isn't like she is pretty or anything.. Why the competition? Only my dumb mil can answer this..
@jer31558 (3684)
• United States
26 May 08
If you are talking about long time no see, I have never looked at that as a reason for offense, but if they made other statements as well, I can see how one would be offended.
@cream97 (29178)
• United States
26 May 08
Thank you for getting it!
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