Do other people cut in and try to finish your sentences?

United States
May 26, 2008 10:17pm CST
This is one of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to talking with other people. You stop for a second to collect your thoughts and think about what you want to say. And, they jump in with a "helpful" suggestion on what they think you are trying to say. Sometimes they hit the mark. Sometimes not. Personally, I like finishing my own sentence. Not like I'm taking tons of time to finish up what I have to say. Can't people wait a minute? Does that ever happen to you? Do you ever lose your train of thought and then have to think for a minute? And, then the other person starts filling in the blanks for you and ends up jumping to the wrong conclusion?
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
27 May 08
I have a sister who does this to me all the time. I drives me crazy. She is the oldest child in our family and I tease her about feeling the need to control everything just like she did when we were growing up. Thank goodness I don't live near her so I only deal with it on rare family gatherings. Otherwise, we would need to have a serious talk about it.
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• Canada
28 May 08
I hate it. In school, when I'm telling a story, someone always has to interrupt and finish it. But then when I try to do it back to them, they start to yell. It's also one of my pet peeves.
• United States
28 May 08
I hear you! I think I used to be the annoying big sister with this habit. Thank heavens, I've grown out of it and live nowhere near anyone that the habit would offend. Or, at least, I think I have grown out of it. If I suffer from butt-in-itus, my spouse just doesn't tell me and my kid is too young to know it should be annoying!
27 May 08
My husband does this to me quite frequently, particularly when we are relating a story or anecdote to friends. If I start he will always chime in with some additional details, usually in the wrong place. In response I have started doing the same thing to him. And then making a point of apologising and letting him finish. I think it is a rude habit, probably ok between family, but when other people feel it is ok to interrupt that crosses a line with me.
• United States
28 May 08
Mine does that all the time, too.
@o2bnocn (2895)
• United States
27 May 08
My mom is the worst at this. Sometimes I am not even pausing and she will do it. She loves to interrupt people. Everyone gets aggravated with her. Then when we tell her about it her excuse is "well I would forget what I had to say". So then I tell her "Well other people forget to". She just acts like she is the only one that ever forgets anything. Oh and you better not interrupt her, I did once and she got mad and told me very sternly "I was talking". So occasionally I will say back to her "I was talking" when she interrupts me. Although she does it so much you just kind of learn to deal with it. My two cousins have also complained about it. She is the absolute worst when it comes to that and it gets on my nerves so bad. You can't even finish your story or what you were saying and she will start talking about something that it made her think about her or she will try and finish what you are saying like you were talking about. It gets on my nerves so bad. I have told her over and over, but I don't think it will ever change.
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• United States
28 May 08
Moms can be the worst about that! I know!
• United States
27 May 08
I can't stand it!!!! Lose my train of thought??? Why are there such people, are they that in that much of a hurry that they can't wait for me to end the sentence. Did you ever notice that these types of people are hyper? I just love it when they do finish for me and they're way out in left field and I can correct them. If you notice, they don't quite like it.I find them trying to change the subject.
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• United States
28 May 08
And, those people never think of our feelings, either!
@judy43 (299)
• United States
27 May 08
Yes that has happened several times and it is quite aggravating because like you say I only take a few seconds to finish what I was saying
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@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I myself might be guilty of that. I noticed that my brother was becoming silent and I realized that I was not letting him talk at all and I was jumping in and taking his sentence away from him. That was an eye-opener.
@heleni0 (322)
27 May 08
Eugh, yes! It happens to me all the time and it drives me up the wall! Just shut up and let me speak! and of course then I immediately forget what I was saying/going to say so the entire conversation is now over. Common courtesy seems to be severely lacking.
• United States
28 May 08
I've found that what we might consider common is not so common in others.
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
27 May 08
I freaking hate when people do this!!!! I always correct them and tell them, "I can finish my own sentences, thanks." It's so rude. It's like they have to control the conversation and don't want other people talking or something. Ugh. I want to slap them LOL I am passionate about this issue!!
• United States
28 May 08
I have to do that to strangers, too.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
29 May 08
Yeah they have and I totally hate that.I am the same way. I like to finish my own sentences that I started not have someone finish them for me. I think that it is very rude for someone to do that.
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
28 May 08
That's never really bothered me. Maybe it's because I've been dealing with it my whole life. My best friend from childhood always did it, and in fact, the last time I saw her, we could still finish each other's sentences right on. My little sister and my husband both do it sometimes, too, but as they are usually correct, it doesn't bother me at all. I know that I'm pretty bad about doing it, too. Like I said, it was something I grew up with. And now, my husband frequently gives me that look, that means he needs help communicating something, so I finish his sentences a lot. Like, for instance, if a doctor asks him what is wrong, he usually says "Well...I...ummm" and then I tell the doctor what really is wrong. lol Things like that happen a lot!
@akeya7 (1)
• United States
27 May 08
I hate that! It's my story--I want to tell it. Don't help out, don't cut me off. Now that I've said this, I have to make sure I am not doing this to others.
• Canada
27 May 08
If somebody does that to me, I always stop and correct them, if they are not on the mark. If they are right on the mark I correct them anyway, rephrasing what I wanted to say into my own words, not theirs, and if they say "that's what I meant" or "I said the same thing," I tell them I started the sentence, and I was determined to be te one who would finish it.