What attitude do you have? pessimistic or optimistic?

@wendylb (203)
Philippines
May 27, 2008 4:26am CST
Dont you know that attitude affects how we handle stress and it also affects the way stress handles us. Whe ou are an optimist you are able to cope more effectively with stress. Wen optimist people do become ill, they tend to recover more quickly. And people with pessimist, they are likely to deny the problem, distance themselves from the stressful event, focus on stressful feelings, or allow the stressor to interser with achieving a goal. When you are that person who belongs to people with a more pessimistic attitude, you tend to have POORER health compared to people with optimistic attitudes. Take care!
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@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
27 May 08
I am neither. I am a pragmatic person. I view things usually with a degree of logic rather than emotion. Both optimistic and pessimistic views tend to require an emotional response.
@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
28 May 08
Good that your neutral and your practical in dealing things. Your not emotionally driven in terms of decision making to things that needs decision. At least in practicality, for example you are to choose a person your going to married and it takes decision whether to select the one you really love but that person or the one you don't love but can make you happy. Of course to me i would chose the one that can make my family happy rather than the one that i loved but could not make me happy. hehehe anyway just making sample. Take care and God bless!
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@amnher (292)
• Philippines
27 May 08
I have a passimistic attitude. Im kinda critical at some points cause I want to be sure about something and not to end up in missery... I really think first it thouroughly and see all the possible options...
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@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
28 May 08
So your type of a person who wanted to be sure with your decision leading to sure direction.And i hope you magnify all the positive aspects and filter out all of the negative ones in your decision making. Have a nice day!
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• Philippines
28 May 08
Needless to say, i am a pessimist and have been for almost half of my life. Why? because everything that i think of becomes the opposite in reality. So to make things right, i think of negative thoughts to make positive outcomes in reality. Do you get what I'm saying? that's just me(^^,)
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@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
Optimism can be learned as like other internpersonal skills. You may begin by writing your setbacks ans practicing aguing with your less optimistic thoughts until a more realistic vision of what has happend and waht is likely to haapen in the future wmerges. Good day!
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
Thanks for the advice! I'll try to learn how to be optimistic someday. I hope i can. I don't want to live my life like this. Always negative. Always let down. Thanks(^^,)
30 May 08
i'm a pessimist and i agree with you about the health thing...honestly, i get stressed a lot because my tendency is to think negatively about a situation first before seeing good in it.
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@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
I also overstressed over thinking negatively over a situation especially problems that comes my way. I thought everything hard to overcome even those minor problems tends to become major because of my pessimism. That's why I am discovering ways how to overcome this weaknesses of mine And with the help from Above, i know i will be lead into optimism. Thanks for sharing. Take care!
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• China
28 May 08
A pessimistist I think I am.It's no use crying out of the spilt milk.Towards the same thing,the last choice we can make is our attitudes.As what is said by wendylb,pessimistic attitude contribues to good health and wealth,why not make it the preference?
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@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
Hehehe.. yes why not make "Be Optimistic" a preference instead of 'crying out milk'. Milk is getting expensive now a days and better save it. What we need to spilt out is our negative attitude. happy myloting!
@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
28 May 08
optimistic and as well as pessimistic.I'm optimistic yeah,coz I can definitely handle and cope up with stress and all those negative prana that I encounter but there are times that I tend to be pessimistic coz you know if I'm already fed up,I don't care anymore...deny it,don't think about it...etc. smiles
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@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
We sometimes gone into over feed with trials that sometimes turned us to be pessimistic. We very fast react negatively. I agree with you because i also like that i dont care anymore when things looks so imposible to settle. But, I thank the Lord, that i can lay all kinds of burdens within me. That hope always make me smiles too.. Have nice day to you!
• India
28 May 08
your attitude have impacts on your health, longevity, stress level and well being. If you are optimistic you experience more good events in life. Our view towards the world has a major role in the stress level that we feel.
@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
21 Jun 08
How you thinks or see life affects how you live,.So live healthy by thinking optimistically. Good Day!
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
27 May 08
I'm usually optimistic. I believe that there is some bit of good that can come out of a bad situation. Unfortunately, my hubby is the opposite, and it often causes problems between us. He doesn't understand why I don't get more upset than I do, and I get frustrated because to him every little thing is a major problem! It's amazing we've lasted so long (married 20 years this month)!
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@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
28 May 08
Wow, congratulation's that you reached your being together as husband and wife to 20 years. Optimism and pessimism really can affect how well you live and even how long you live. With the relationship you had with you husband, good that you have opposite attitude. You looks situations(maybe problems, trials and etc..) as "minor" but your husband looks it as "major". With this take always a refresher course on your positive thinking. Always put into actions all your positive thinking. Don't be poisoned by his negative emotion but rather poisoned him with your positive attitude. By this you reduced his stress, improve his sense of we'll being and even improve his health. When something bad occurs, don't blame yourself or any of you but rather help each one. You are the positive thinker and i think you are in the potential position to restore your relation happiness. Take care and God bless to both of you!
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
29 May 08
I am a pessimist who wants to an optimist, meaning im in the process of correcting the not so my good outlook about life. I know coz as a person i can be a center peoples lives and i can have an impact to other people's lives as well. When you are in the center theres this phenomenon called the ripple effect and honestly i dont want to have this negative ripple effect on other people, as much as I would want it, i wanted it to be a positive effect like what Barnabas showed us in the way he lived his life. There are many negative things about life than can make the positive in us, so lets just carry them out handle the negatives with care and surely theres the positive result that will somehow be a postive for the people around us and specially the people we care about. Have a nice day and take care.
@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
thanks te, Anyway you have rippled your positive attitude to us already that blessed us much.. Continue to be a blessing! God Bless and take care always.. Love you.. ehemm!
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
24 Jul 08
Char lang! Love you too wendysang!
• United States
11 Jul 08
often i am optimistic even when it's not realistic. but i can be a pessimist when i've been burned a lot.
@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
when i burned out a lot, I have the tendency of becoming more pessimistic with my action. to the point my others would noticed it. When am overdosed to it, I just keep myself rested in bed that i may have no damage on my friends behalf. I love them and I don't want them see me angry with them. Thanks to you and take care!
• United States
23 Jul 08
when a lot of people do you wrong it takes time to process it and get back into being human and having an objective view on things and giving people the benefit of the doubt. you take care as well.
@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
for me i have an optimistic attitude in life in general. hehehhe i want everything to be happy and perfect. It's like i dont give up that easily nor give up hope. If there's still a chance i will take it. Just to make it better... and i don't like having problems.. it gives me terrible headaches hehhe also my simple philosophy in life when things get rough, you can cry but must do something... instead of turning things worst... be optimistic and make a positive result out of the bad one. like when i was in sophomore year, me n my 1st bf broke up. it hurt but instead of crying for it over the years... i told to myself be optimistic that he might be a real jerk n he don't deserve me. With that being optimistic i turned things around instead of making things worst like hate him so much try to get revenge.. what i did was love my self more... like make myself prettier inside n out. =)
@wendylb (203)
• Philippines
23 Jul 08
Thanks to you Mae. Your word gives encouragement to me. Am a type of person that turns loneliness into more lonely. Yours is opposite, you turn your loneliness to happiness. I learned that in doing something helpful to make you stand from being down is essential than that dwelling on things negatively. I too got my first broke up during my high school and that i thought i can no longer find a replacement for him. For now, I may not having boyfriend but i enjoy having many friends and enjoy serving my dear families. Thanks for sharing. Take care always!
• Australia
5 Oct 10
I used to be a pessimist until I met someone who changed my attitude. Even since then, my life has changed dramatically. Everyday seems better and things that seemed so strenuous no longer seem so. There is really only one way to change your attitude, and that is to simply DO IT! You just have to force yourself to think differently.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
5 Oct 10
Well optimistic attitude is best to relieve stress and it balances the pressure and stress on mind