..if someone from your past had hurt you,do you consider him/her as your friend?

May 27, 2008 10:19am CST
im in a dilemma now of deciding if i will consider a past friend of mine..as a friend now.. he had hurt me a lot.. to the point that i nearly lost the real me... i'd decided to hide of from myself... instead of being girly,smarty,and naive type..i act the opposite way just to show to him that i really change.
5 responses
@unuzzz (1274)
• Indonesia
27 May 08
hi bblovellecute i think it depends on what your heart said i did that way, i just followed my heart i also once experienced something bad with my friends not one, not two, but i got a big matters with three friends all at once i was very sad that time, and i consider that time that it was the end of the friendship but not as i expected, i built the friendship again from the scratch with one of them at first i was afraid, i was afraid that they'll hurt me again but apparently not, we made it.. i had everything reset, and hopefully the bad experience won't happen again and slowly, i began to settle and started up again with the other one, and looks like everything worked out, ^^ i just follow what my heart, i felt that they're worthed to be friends, especially the first one .. ^^ but not with the third person i felt that she's mean, and i'm not going to maintain her as friend i did this because my heart said so and i'm not regret for what i've done ^^ just follow your heart if you want to make friend again, why don't you give him the second chance ? at first i was also afraid, but everything resulted nice ^^ hope you'll get your problems solved bblovellecute good luck and cheer out .. !!
• India
27 May 08
i think that really depends on how yur fren has hurt you in what waysi was hurt badly by my ex-flat mate and hav enever consideerd her as my fren till today but in some other cases, the damage is repairable n we learn to forget n get freindly again.I guess its good to forget the past and re-start your friendship ie if you dont want to loose the fren
• Philippines
27 May 08
I had this friend whom i fell for and has hurt me in so many ways. We're still in touch and he's still my friend. I guess, no matter how a friend may hurt you, it could never add up to being able to lose him/her forever.If he/she is truly a friend and worthwhile to keep.(^^,)
@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
27 May 08
First, ask yourself if you are still hurting. Perhaps, the pain would still linger but you'll know if you are over it. As they say, hate the sin but not the person and who knows, he could have changed over the years and the best way to show that you have changed and moved on is to be able to face him casually as if nothing bad had happened.
• Philippines
27 May 08
sure. it started everything in friendship right? show to that friend of yours what you've really got then he'll fall off and regret everything! :D