Family members who love to "show off"...

United States
May 27, 2008 10:56pm CST
Do you all just hate it when you have family members that want to "show off" all of the time? They are always buying new cars, having big fancy parties, and spending money that they really, possibly, do not have. They have to have all of the finer things in life, and they have to compete with the Smiths and the Jones' next door. I have these cousins who always have to make a big deal out of everything and it just irks me every single time they do "show off". They are always buying new things, they are always throwing big parties, and they are always making themselves look better than everyone else. "Who are you trying to impress?", "Are you trying to make me feel bad, is that why you are doing this?", or "Oh, so you think that you are better than everyone by doing this?" For the record, I do not have much money, most of my money is in savings, and whatever I do have, I make due with. I hate parties, I like the car that I have, I do not like to compete with anyone around my neighborhood because there is no point in it, and I could care less if I have more or less than anyone else.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
11 Sep 08
Not just family members but even in my workplace I see this happening all the time. I don't really have lots of relatives that are acting like this; perhaps one or two only. And I just stay away from them practically because they give off bad vibes. However, there are loads of people thinking that the people that they show off to, the people would crumble and be jealous. But usually, people aren't jealous at all but the show-offs got into thinking that they can show off materialistically in one way or another and acting that they are not having the first class notion. And sort of irritates. I respect someone whom is a high class and self-declaring, rather than someone just pretending to be humble but showing off deep inside. There are lots of twisted minds, it's just so sad. Luckily not all of my family members are like this and I'm thankful for that. There are only some bad apples only, rather than all. Good discussion here.
• United States
12 Sep 08
Thanks, yes people showing off in general is ridiculous.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
12 Sep 08
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
hi rogue. that's a pretty annoying situation. annoying family members. i'm lucky i don't have relatives like that. because i just hate show offs. they get into my nerves. if i have relatives like that i would probably be aloof to them but still civil. i mean, what do they gain from showing off right? and the sad thing is, they are showing off to their own relatives to whom they actually should be sensitive. you know what i think? these show off people has.. what do you call that attention deficiency syndrome. ADHD or something like that.
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• United States
13 Jul 08
These people do is to make everyone feel bad. Which is ridiculous because when my brother passed away, after he passed away, the last thing I needed was for them to show off, what I wanted was for them to talk to me, but they never do. When they need me to be there for them in their time of need, I will not be there because they were not there for me.
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
that's really awful of them. but, although i understand you're feeling of somehow letting them taste what they had done to you, i think it would not be wise to do the same thing to them. i mean, they would feel a lot more guilty if you would be there for them if they needed you. they'd reflect on what have they done to you and they would feel ashamed of themselves. i think that's the best way of getting even. ^__~
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
29 May 08
I know what you mean,I hate people who feel that they have to show off all the time,and there are parts of my moms side of the family that feel that they have to show off every time we have a family get together.
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• United States
29 May 08
I am noticing that it is the mom's side of many families that like to flaunt what they have.
• United States
29 May 08
Yeah I have noticed that too,and I wonder why it is so, I wonder what makes the mothers side of the family want to show off,I hope you have a nice day,good luck with all the goals you set for yourself,and Happy Posting.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
28 May 08
yes we do have such family members who wud just go on and on...u know wt i love to do to them...i give a cold shoulder and care to hoots attitude with a simple Good For u I M Not Intrested attitude...that puts most of them in place and they know no nonsense here...it does not bother me really...At my cousins wedding reception one of my uncles commented "my dinner parties are grander than and better than this"...belive me it was a grt reception party...i just told him tht is not true bcoz u did not book such a big banquet, u did not have live band and dJ, and the food was not this amazing either and the lightings were very ordinary..so how can ur party b better..he does not spk to me till date doesnt bother me though...hehe...b mean with mean people
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• United States
28 May 08
I like that, ignore them, and they will not care anymore. Yes, my cousin invited me to her graduation party, but after the way she and her mother treated me, I am choosing not to go to her party. I just do not care. My cousin and I were close, like sisters, but then she and her mother developed an ego and she was saying things about me that were not true, so that ended that friendship. My family wants me to make nice with them because they "allegedly" have money, but my mother wanted me to do this with my step-father as well, and I say to Hell with people who have money. Just because you have money and your handing it out does not mean that I have to be nice to you or that I have to be friendly with you. People who have money, or who allegedly have money, are so full of it. Money really does make people stupid.
@nupats (3564)
• India
28 May 08
i fully agree with u my friend...
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
i can just relay on this topic. i have a lot of relatives who are like that. and whats painful is they only invite us on a gathering just to show off. so sometimes i rather stay home than to deal and hear them boasting about something. one of my cosuin just celebrated her 18th birthday. here in our country celebrating a lady's 18th birthday is something special. it is like the 16th birthday of the ladies in your country. so my cousin celebrated her 18th birthday at a 5 star hotel and we are not invited. when i saw him in a mall he said the reason why we are not invited is he does not want us to be bothered to rent a suit for the occassion. i just hate relatives who do that.
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• United States
26 Aug 08
My cousin was being a real "show off" for her college graduation according to my mother, and she said that it was a great thing that I did not show up or I would have told the whole family off if I did. Throughout my whole life all they ever did was show off their children and compare their children to everyone elses. I swore never to do that to my children. I will let them be their own people and I will ask nothing of them. Then again, it will be amazing to me if I can actually have any children. For my community college graduation, I just spent time with my boyfriend and his family. They always make me feel welcomed, and they never compare me to anyone.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
29 May 08
my eldest brother was the one who loves to show off in our family. he thinks that he knows all the things and he also loves being bossy and i hate it. he never respects his siblings but he wants to get respect from us lol he's really crazy and i mean it. i also hate the way he treats us
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• United States
29 May 08
Your brother will get off that cloud real fast if he has not already.
• United States
28 May 08
yea there's a branch of my mom's family that are all like that-snots.the one was crying to us she lost her second house in one of the florida storms. i was having a hard time giving her sympathy,when we're still paying off a first house.
• United States
28 May 08
Same here, I own my home, but we still have to pay space rent, and it is not cheap. Do not give those cousins of yours any sympathy at all.