I did it, i really did it. Poor girl!

@Sissygrl (10915)
Canada
May 28, 2008 11:16am CST
Today i took my daughter for her first needles, she's just over two months. Some of you may know she was born tongue-tied. Well i decided i was being selfish to prolong it any longer, so today she got needles and her tongue clipped at the sae time! She is sleepy, but not too cranky.. Have any of you haad to make a decision like this with your kids or yourself ? To cutt or not to cut! please share!
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@TerryZ (22085)
• United States
28 May 08
Hey Sissy I think that wonderful you did that for her. If it was me I would have done the same thing. Your a good mommy.
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
28 May 08
Thanks Terryz, guess my thoughts where it would be not likely she would remember now, but she would later!
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
28 May 08
I would have gotten both of them done at the same time as well. No sense in making her go through it at separate times. I think it was a good thing for you to get it done. Especially now before her tongue interferes with her trying to talk.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
28 May 08
I have a similar issue with my youngest...only in a different area. He has a condition involving his foreskin and urethra. Right now it doesn't cause any complications but it might after puberty and during adulthood. The surgery to correct it is on average at least 90 minutes and under general anesthesia. Usually they want to do it when they're around 18 months, which he is already, but I haven't even taken him to see the specialist yet. I know there are fewer complications when this surgery is done at a young age compared to if he has it done as an adult...but then again he may not have any complications at all ever by not fixing it. I am so uncomfortable with the general anesthesia and the amount of pain meds he'll be on post surgery, plus the catheter for at least a week and a huge amount of stitches required for such a small area...the procedure itself would turn almost anyone's stomach so I'll at least spare you those details. I don't want to put him through that but then I worry if he'll be mad that I didn't once he's an adult and wishes he looked normal down there...not that he looks abnormal, he just looks like he had half of a botched circumcision. (for those who do want to understand better what he has and what the surgery involves, just do a search on hypospadias)
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@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
28 May 08
I know someone who had this surgery as an adult and you would be doing your son a favour to have it done now. (As a mother I realize the desicion is a difficult one.)
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
30 May 08
wow foxy, i looked it up. i dunno what i would do either in your situation. . but i felt it would be selfish of me to wait till it did cause a problem if i could fix it now . . but hers was just a snip in the office not a full surgery type thing.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
30 May 08
It is hard. I know that it's more difficult to do it as an adult but maybe the procedure will be better in 15-20 years. If he does it then he'll be fully aware of what's going on but now he won't understand anything but the pain and discomfort. I don't know...I feel selfish for not having it done now since it might cause him problems later but I also feel selfish considering to do it now because he's the one that's going to have to go through it. Ugh...a mom's job is never easy! I'm glad your daughter's procedure was easier! I was like the other responder that thought "tongue tied" was just an expression. I didn't realize what it really was.
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
29 May 08
What am I missing? To cut what?
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
her tongue tie, little peice of skin under tongue.
• United States
5 Jun 08
Oh I never knew about it. I hope she is doing well. You made the right decision in that case. She will be fine as she grows up. :)
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@mummymo (23709)
28 May 08
I hadn't realised that your poor little ~Angel had this condition and I know it must have been difficult for you to have this procedure done! I think it was great to get both done at the same time as she will never remember the pain and it is all over and done with! I bet it was very emotional for you but I am very proud of you! xxxx
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
30 May 08
Thanks mummy, she seems to be feeling better tonight and i am glad!
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@mummymo (23709)
30 May 08
I am very glad too honey! I know it is really awful when they are so small and suffering but the bonus is that they bounce back so quickly! Give her a huge hug from me - please! xxx
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• United States
29 May 08
What is tongue-tied? I've never heard of this? I've always had my kids immunized. We have the ability to keep them safe, why take risks? Just my thought on it.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
19 Aug 08
my kids have had all their shots as well, tongue tied is when there is a small peice of skin under the tongue connecting the tongue to the bottom of the mouth. it can go right to the tip of the tongue causing a restriction of movement. sorry i didn't get back to you before!@
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
29 May 08
That is a hard decision. Well if medically it supports that cutting will help her health and development later on, go For it! it will be painful but she is young and she will appreciate your courage later. Two months sure is young. By the way what kind of painkiller did they give her? just curious?
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
19 Aug 08
they gave her nothing. but i gave her infant drops about 45 mins before to help ease the pain. . they dont freeze it or anything!!
• United States
28 May 08
Sweetheart, not like yours. Circumcision was the only clipping we had to do. You did the right thing Sunshine. It would have been harder for her the longer you waited. She will probably be sore and maybe find it hard to nurse, but babies heal fast and bounce back faster than you can blink. I am proud of you sweets... Love you and miss you lots.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
30 May 08
Thank you for your love and support angel :) *hugs*
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
28 May 08
I've never had to face this desicion, but I think you did the right thing. My baby had his two month needles on Monday, and that was hard enough (for me LOL). It would have taken a lot of courage to have the cutting done too. One question if you don't mind my curiosity. Did her being tongue-tied make it hard to breatfeed? Someone told me that it can really interfere with the latch.
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@lishiwei (1553)
• China
29 May 08
COngratulations!I'm very happy to hear that!Good luck with you and your daughter.You are really a good mother.
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• United States
29 May 08
that is really a choice that I did not have to make and I am so sorry that you had to make it,I pray your daughter is feeling better this morning and every thing is ok God Bless
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
29 May 08
Only for circumcision for my son....and while they did it I could hear him cry and my mother had to hold me back as I wanted to beat up the doctor! lOL
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@salonga (27996)
• Philippines
29 May 08
My dear Sissy before i started this post, I offered some prayers for your girl so that the Lord will help her all through the whole process till she gets fully recovered and be able to be speak like other normal kids. I'm blessed to have not encountered yet such a tough situation. But with you, I imagine your feelings as I being a mother myself. We will always do the best for our child at any expense. Sometimes it is really very difficult but by the grace of God we can always reach the best decision for our children. May God bless you for being such a loving mother and may God bless your child and give her the gift you so desire for her.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
29 May 08
No, thanks God till now its not like that. its good that you took this chance and at last she is well. whatever decision you took is absolutely ok. she has to live her life healthy. you have to make her normal.
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@Hatley (164747)
• Garden Grove, California
29 May 08
sissygirl more power to you. it hasto be done, and she will thank you in later yearsshe will be able to talk and be normal. thats wonderful for her and for you too. i think we all have had to make decisions similar to that.i fell two years ago and literally ' crushed my shoulder bones so I had to have surgerya and the smashed bones replaced with plastic and steel parts. it was necessary so I could use my left arm again.
@elemental69 (1562)
• Ireland
29 May 08
Well done. I know it took a lot for you to do that for her, but you know it was the right thing to do... the older she gets the more she would feel it, and you would too. Your a good mother who didnt want to put your daughter through any pain...:-)
• United States
28 May 08
Wow, sissygrl, you learn something new eveeryday. I have heard tounguetied before but did not know it was an actual condition. I just thought it meant you couldn't get your words out. Thanks for teaching me something new today. I hope your baby is doing great. I know its a hard decision for us parents to make sometimes when we have to give permission for our children to have surgery or not. Good luck to you and God bless.