How do you say NO to a friend who's in love with you and still keep him?

Philippines
May 28, 2008 1:29pm CST
My friendliness overwhelmed one of my friends i guess. I got too close maybe. But he is still my friend and i want to keep it that way. Then one fine day, he just blurted out with "i wish i could love you more than a friend but i know it would be unrequited love". And now i feel so bad for him just saying that, but what can i do?I'm just not in love with him. And i want to keep him as a friend. --Any advice?--(^^,)
5 responses
@Allie_xoxo (1064)
• Canada
29 May 08
Always remember to be honest and open. Everyone knows that unrequited love sucks so just handle him with care. If your friendship really is something special he isnt going anywhere.
• Philippines
29 May 08
Unrequited love does suck cause i've experienced it before. All the more reasons why it's hard for me to say no to him cause i've been there before. Thanks for the response(^^,)
• United States
28 May 08
I've never had that happen to me, but I understand it. Some friendships can be so understanding and caring and you wish there was more to it. But, I don't think I'd ever cross that line. Simple because I don't want any awkwardness that might come along with making that transition from friends to something more. Personally, I'd avoid it, but more power to relationships that have been made stronger because of this. So, the best thing to do is just keep him as a friend, if you're not interested. And treat him no differently after he made his confession.
• Philippines
29 May 08
That could work too. Really?You'd never cross that line? You could control your feelings or rather, you can tell your heart that you should not love this person cause she is just a friend. I wish my friend could do the same. Thanks for the response(^^,)
@isegor (118)
• Portugal
28 May 08
when people are very close and share almost every conversation and are at ease with one another for a long time sooner or later such may happen. it's natural between people. just say what you feel. I rather keep an honest friendship than live a lie. ;)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Yeah i guess it's kinda natural. I have to tell him what i feel. thanks for the advice(^^,)
• Belgium
28 May 08
i think the best way to solve this is just to come straight forward with it. Just be honest and explain him your feelings, talk with him.. i'm sure if you explain it carefully, he'll understand and you guys should be able to keep your friendship.. it would be a shame to ruine your friendship for this. Probably you're scared that this will change everything, that's normal, so make sure you don't start to avoid eachother after you told him.. keep being normal and friendly with him and everything will be allright :)
• Philippines
29 May 08
Great advice!I guess i am kinda scared about telling him and losing our friendship. Thanks so much for the response(^^,)
@adjhoice (434)
• United States
28 May 08
Just follow your heart. I think you should just tell him how you feel, be honest with your feelins. Im sure he'll understand you. Or maybe give your self a time to think, maybe you'll realize that your love him:D
• Philippines
28 May 08
I doubt that i could love him more than a friend, but you'll never know what could happen. Thanks for the response!(^^,)