My brother has stolen from me for the last time!!

@nixxi76 (3192)
Canada
May 28, 2008 5:33pm CST
My brother has stolen from me for the last time! I've had it! Everytime my hubby and I have to store something in my mom's garage, my brother thinks it's his property and has every right to take it, and sell it for parts or to help his drug problem. It's not fair and my mom backs him up 100%. She will often cover him by saying that we shouldn't have stored our stuff in her garage. My brother is 30 yrs old already and has a drug problem and I think it's time he needs to grow up. I have so much on him and I'm ready to let it fly! How this all started was when we moved out into the country I asked my mom if I could store my dishwasher in her garage. She said yes so I did. A month or so ago we were over there in the garage and my brother was standing there and we asked him where our dishwasher was? He said it was under this pile of stuff that was almost as high as the ceiling. There were enough spaces to see through the junk pile and we did not see our dishwasher! We tested him a week later asking him to get it out from under the pile as we were coming the following day to pick it up. He said yeah no problem he would have it ready. We showed up a week later and it's no where to be seen. I'm so upset. I work my butt off for things and then this a-hole of a family member rips me off!!!! I'm debating whether or not to tell my mom he's married now because she has no clue about it and he's got a curfew from the authorities where he has to be at her house by 10pm every night or he gets arrested. What would you do if you were in this situation?
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@nupats (3564)
• India
29 May 08
i feel really very sorry for u...we buy things with grt difficulty and such a thing to happen tht too by ones own family member is very sad..i have a bro and cant imagine such a thing..in this case as u said ur mom supports him...u must tell ur mom abt this...and i would make my bro pay up not for the money part but even to make him realise how difficult it is to earn money..good luck to u
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
29 May 08
I have told my mom and she doesn't care or at least she sounded as if she didn't. She will just change the subject about it. Yeah my mom ticks me right off when she makes excuses for my brother's sorry *ss. I've already confronted him and he's still saying that our dishwasher is in the garage and he's so lying! What he will do if I tell him to pay me back is start a huge fighting battle and hurt me and my family really badly. He's very vendictive to the point where he will cost me my job. He's nasty. I think I"m going to call his probation officer and talk to him about it. Thanks for your comment
@nupats (3564)
• India
29 May 08
i m sorry to hear that it is so sad...anyway i m sure which is the best way to handle it...i hope u recovr ur dishwasher or atleast ur money...good luck..take care
• United States
28 May 08
Well I would be mad too and he does need to grow up already. Wow this is just a really difficult situation. I would tell you to just not be around him. All he is going to do is get you into trouble and keep taking stuff from you. You do work hard and it's not fair that someone else is going to be taking stuff from you that you worked hard to earn or buy. Keep away from him and don't tell your mother anything. The time will come when she figures it out herself. Karma is going to come back and bite him in the butt so don't you worry and don't put anymore of your stuff there.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
29 May 08
Yeah I don't plan on keeping anything more at her place. My hubby lost a lot of things from my brother about 4 years ago when him and I stayed at my mom's after moving from a large city. We needed to get our feet back on the ground and my brother was staying there as well. My hubby had everything in her garage and my brother went through it like it was his own. My hubby lost a welding helmet that was $600.00 and the whole time my brother kept saying it was at his buddies place because they needed to borrow it. A whole lot of tools that costed about $1000.00 or more. All in all the total that my hubby lost was $3500.00 in things. I'm suprised my hubby hasn't killed my brother yet either. Not long after that my hubby and I were driving to work and seen my brother in a car ahead of us and he flipped us the bird! Holy crap we were mad! I'm starting to get ticked off now so I"m going to stop talking about him. Anyhow.. thanks for your advice
• United States
29 May 08
The nerve of him! I just hope that everything gets better. That is a lot of money that your husband lost because of your brother. That is unbeliavable and I am really disgusted at that.
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@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
28 May 08
That is just awful. It is just terrible to be betrayed in this way. First I would try to find another place to store my stuff. It can't be more expensive than having your stuff stolen. He is probably selling it to pocket the money. If he already has a curfew, maybe someone may be able to catch him taking your stuff, then report him. He's married?And family doesn't know? Wow.I may let that one slip if I were you.
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• United States
29 May 08
lol...I agree ersmommy, I would probably be so irate, i'd just have to let that one slip too! At least hold it over his head a bit! Your mom is enabling his irresponsible life style thats for sure. Maybe if she knew about the little woman, things would be different.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
29 May 08
wowww... that is really annoying... and to think that your mum actually defends him... i can't understand why... what is he doing is totally wrong and your mum should be wise enough to know who is right and who is wrong... anyway, you might want to tell her about his curfew and marriage to your mum and see her reactions... take care and have a nice day...
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@spalladino (17927)
• United States
29 May 08
Frankly, I would file a police report and let them investigate it. Your mother isn't helping your brother by covering for him, and I'm sure his addiction and other problems are hard on her, but she agreed to let you store things in her garage so she has no right to now say that you shouldn't have. An addict will do whatever it takes to feed his habit so, if your mom has anything of sentimental importance to her that's worth more than a dollar, she should lock it up.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
29 May 08
See that's the thing, she's so sick of having to hide her valueables and just wishes she didn't have to do that anymore. Years ago she got a safety deposit box where she puts things in to keep them safe and God help her if my brother gets ahold of that! I think I will file a police report and see if that helps me at all. I would also like to know if my brother is keeping it at his wife's house. We drove down her street one day to try to find her house but no luck. My hubby and I were not exactly sure which house it was but we know what kind of vehical she has, so we just searched for that. We wanted to just pop in and make it look like we were visiting and just check and see if our dishwasher was actually there. If it were then I would've taken it and I wouldn't care what she would've said. Thanks for your advice
• United States
29 May 08
i would kick my brother's butt if that were me. i probably wouldn't call his P.O.,it'd most likely cause a huge family fight,but the marriage i might.. i sure wouldn't leave anything there anymore.it sucks having family that does that.
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@Elixiress (3893)
29 May 08
The first thing that I would do is stop storing stuff in the place that it is getting stolen from, because then you are just asking for it to be stolen. I don't think you will achieve anything by telling your Mam about his marriage and I don't think it is in any way related to him stealing your stuff.