how many REAL friends do you have?
By angepange
@angepange (123)
Australia
May 28, 2008 11:50pm CST
the reason i ask, is that there seems to be a way of thinking that the more friends a person has, the better a person they must be.
i have trouble believing that. anyone can have alot of friends, but not all of those friends are REAL friends.
i have 2 REAL friends (nita and danis) - those are people that i really would be there for and i know they'd really be there for me, and they are.
having a good friendship means making the effort and putting yourself out for them. thats what makes you close and its what makes a good friend.
if i had 10 or more REAL friends i'd have no friends cause i'd put all of my self into all of them and that wouldnt be enough to make REAL friendships, you'd be too busy and couldnt be there for all of them when they needed you.
i know im getting off track, but sometimes i feel as though im judged because i dont have a thousand mates, but thats not the point to me. its quality not quantity.
what about you? and do you agree with me or not?
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7 responses
@vicneedscoffee (1259)
• United States
29 May 08
I'm a bit of a loner. I like my solitude. That being said I do have two real friends and two family members I can count on for anything, anytime. I also take off running if they need help. It's a two way street. The one is rather like me, a loner, so we don't talk all the time, but when we do we pick up right where we left off. I consider myself lucky to have those friends and family, too. Nowadays real friends are hard to come by. I do agree with quality over quantity, I used to have a ton of "friends," but none who showed up when I was in trouble. It does take work to be a good friend.
@angepange (123)
• Australia
29 May 08
thank god im not the only one who feels that way :-) - that part about having a ton of friends but knowone showed up when you were in trouble, thats so true. its the tester for sure!
@excellence7 (3647)
• Mauritius
29 May 08
I have four real best friends, and im very happy with them :)
@skygal (146)
• Malaysia
30 May 08
I would agree with you, it doesn't matter how many friends you have, what matters is do you have a true friend whom you willing to share your secrets and feelings with. I guess you are lucky because you know who are your real friends. I'm still clueless whether any of my friends fall into the real friends category because one moment there seem to be lots of promises from them that they will be there for you and the next moment they don't even reply your message and hardly calls. I've thought that the problem is me and not my friends but my hearts says its not me. Recently, I made new friends in a camp and they are so much more understanding even though we only knew each other for a month compared to friends I known for four years. Anyway, there is no give up in this because I'm sure I will have true friends as long as I'm ready to be one
@Gmdem13 (156)
• United States
31 May 08
I deffinately understand this subject! I have 5 true friends, one of which being my boyfriend, and 1 family member. All of my friends, i have known ever since i moved to CT, and i dont know what i would do without them. and then my father. It's like in highschool, you always have the little "cliques" for one, the POPULAR kids. there the ones with "millions of friends". Truthfully, i dont think i could have alot more true friends than i do. I think that if i was to think of all of my friends as my true friends, i would be more lonely. so many people think of having more friends as being cooler, or just having more friends, but if you put your all into all of those friends.... you dont actually KNOW these people, and you dont know that you can count on them... in the end, having more friends would probably make me feel more lonely in the sense that i dont know who my real friends are, and i dont know who i can actually count on.
@jyoti_medha (567)
• Mauritius
29 May 08
a bit difficult to say as i have many friends and sometimes who appear to be real friends to some extent they are not. not so sure about it.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
29 May 08
hmmm... come to think of it. i have one close friend back in highschool & she is still my best friend right now. i also have a best friend in college. i also have a close friend at work. & i still have three of my childhood friends around whom i consider as my brothers.
