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@nannacroc (4049)
May 29, 2008 5:24am CST
Would you be offended if someone described you as opinionated? Would it depend on who said it and how it was said? Is there a description of your personality that you would be offended by even if you knew the description was accurate?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
29 May 08
I think that it depends entirely on how it was said and who it was said by Nanna. If you said it to me then I would be entirely happy with it. You'd probably be right. But if someone that I didn't know said it, then I might well ask for clarification. I am quite sure that if someone that you knew said it about you it was meant entirely good naturedly, and that person would be horrified to think that they might have upset you. But you might make them squirm for a bit. But still talk to them. Make them think before saying such things again. I have got used to being told the truth about myself - I'd like to say that it doesn't ever hurt, but sometimes it does.
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@nannacroc (4049)
29 May 08
I use the word to describe myself so I would not be upset by anyone else using it to describe me. It's good to make people squirm, but not for long. If forgiveness had been necessary it would have been freely given. However it isn't, because no-one was upset. It made a good question though.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
29 May 08
I'm pleased that no one was upset. I thought that they might have been.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
31 Aug 08
Thank you for the BR Nanna. You're what Sunday evening is for!!
• Denmark
29 May 08
No i wouldn't be offended at all because its also true. I don't like people who get offended by the fact that they are described correctly and it doesn't actually matter who is doing that. I am opinionated and im not afraid to admit it either LOL
@nannacroc (4049)
29 May 08
That's my view too, it is an accurate description. They say the truth hurts but that's no reason to be offended by it.
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@pumpkinjam (5774)
• United Kingdom
29 May 08
I am opinionated, why should I be offended? I suppose it would depend on the situation and the person though because sometimes the word "opinionated" can be meant offensively depending on the context. If someone says you are opinionated and they mean it in the sense that you have strong opinions which you are not afraid to share then there was probably no offence meant but if it was said in a way that meant you are opinionated and will not accept other people's opinions then I would be offended. I can't think of anything which would offend me if the description was accurate, provided that it was fair and meant in an appropriate manner.
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@nannacroc (4049)
29 May 08
It was said in the way the first was meant and I wasn't offended. I do have strong opinions and, unless someone can give me a good arguement against them, I am unlikely to change them.
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
29 May 08
Yes, I think I probably would be offended if somebody called me opinionated. I think you're right on though with it depending on who said it, and the context in which it was said. Everybody has an opinion, yet some of them don't voice it out loud, but they're still opinionated even in their silence. When I think of somebody being opinionated, I tend to think of those people who have an opinion on everything, and voice every one of them (and are unbendable in their opinion.) I can't think of any description of my personality that I would be offended with, even if accurate. I'd rather hear an honest opinion and then deal with it, than to have somebody voice their opinion of me (negatively) behind my back. If we don't know others view something as wrong thinking or actions, then how could we even try to improve that aspect of ourselves?! There's much truth to the phrase "truth often hurts," but it's what you do with that truth that counts.
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