Does age matter to you?

Philippines
May 29, 2008 11:59pm CST
I have a boyfriend now who is 3 years younger than me. We've been together for more than a year now, and everything is smooth-sailing. A couple of weeks back, my boyfriend's mother shared me the story of how she was approached by the mother of my boyfriend's classmate, hoping to surprise her with the fact that her son is going out with someone who is years older than him. What she didn't know is that we are very much close that she already treats me as a daughter. So to me, obviously, age doesn't matter. But I have talked to some people who have said they won't go out (even for a date) with someone who is older than them. What about you?
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• India
30 May 08
my dear friend. what you are doing is absolutely right.Age really doesn't matter unless you really love him.My gf is the same age of mine.Even our relationship is goin on for one year and its smooth sailing. People will tell whatever they wanna say.Theres many such type of people who don't like others success.I really hate those people when they just bitc*s around not even knowing anything. Just enjoy your relationship.may god bless you both always and make you relationship more successful.tc
@ambkeb (782)
• United States
30 May 08
Age doesnt matter to much to me either. Of course I would be one to say that LOL My husband is 10 years older then I am. I love him with everything I have. We have 2 children together. People look at me sometimes and go.."He's HOW much older" with a shocked look on their face...oh well...
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@isegor (118)
• Portugal
30 May 08
only the people involved are able to say if it is a huge gap or the gap doesn't even exist. people usually only look at the age of the person and they have no way to measure the psychological age of the people involved. although an age gap may exist 2 people may think alike, like the same things and enjoy their time together. I always liked older women, at the age of 18 I dated a 26 year old and we broke up because of her mother not accepting the age gap. I can't see myself dating an 18 year old girl now, as I am 26, but as I said, I always liked older women. Other people like younger people better, it's in their personality. the biggest problem is probably the fact that people can't sit down and talk about things the best way, specially at a very young age when we shout more than we talk in a discussion. it's easy to understand the fact that parents are trying to avoid teenagers to do things that they don't want them doing, but they could try to talk to them, inform them properly of all the consequences of their actions and just remember what they used to want to do when they were the age of their kids. Who hasn't heard a guy that tries to date all women saying "my daughter won't be like them, I will keep her on a leech" or something stupid like this. (I am a man so it's easier for me to get a stupid point from a male but I am sure some women may have similar ways of thinking)
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• Mauritius
30 May 08
I think the most important thing is that the love and trust that both share.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
30 May 08
How ironic that you start this discussion because it is recently a very big issue in my home. I do think the age gap closes as you get older. I have been dealing with my 14yr old who thinks she is in love with a kid who is almost 18 and he feels the same. He is basically a really good kid but I put my foot down. It is only 4 years but at that age it is a huge gap. His parents have also said absolutely NO!! My daughter in her argument, pointed out to me that I often date men quite a bit younger than me. It is different as you get older. I am 52 and most of the men I date are younger, some as much as 10 years. It really is a tough question. I've really been battling with myself and my daughter over the past week. Next year she will be in the highschool and will be seeing him everyday. He will be a senior. I am hoping I'll feel differently by then or she will. For now, 4 years seems huge.
• Philippines
30 May 08
It's odd, isn't it? A 10-year gap doesn't matter if you're in your 30's, but a 3-5 year gap seems a huge deal if you're younger.
• China
1 Jun 08
Actually,my boyfrieng is 2 years younger than me,and we are close and happy.Sometinmes i even he is older than me.Also i had the thinking like yours,but now the reality prroves that wy choice are right.If we love eath other,the age is not a problem which affects our love and our choice.So,to be brave and select what you want really.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
31 May 08
I'm five years older than my boyfriend and we don't even consider the age difference.
@sissy15 (5525)
• United States
31 May 08
It does matter a little too me, They can't be old enough to be my father, it's a mind set thing, I don't care that other people date older or younger, and I have no problem with it. For me it's just a little odd. I will go older before I will go younger, I wouldn't go more than 4 yrs younger, and even that's a bit odd for me, but that's just me. I have a sister who is 21 and married a guy who is in his 40's, and one of my mothers ex husbands was probably 14 yrs older than her. I have never had an issue with it, but it's just something I wont do. It all has to do with the person, I know some people who find it wrong, and would go as far as losing a friend over it. However I see nothing wrong with it for other people, just not for myself.
@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
30 May 08
I don't think that 3 years difference is bad. My hubby is a little older than me. Only about a year and some months. I dated a guy that was 3 years younger than me. I don't think his mom liked it since he was grounded the entire time we dated but, she didn't know anything about me. She should have been afraid for me as I was the innocent one in the relationship that might have been corrupted by him. LOL! I wasn't but, the possibility was there. LOL! There are some age differences that sort of gross me out. I think a decade different is about all I can imagine. Any more than that and it falls into the potential for the "Ick Factor". LOL!
@ak2008 (63)
• India
30 May 08
Why some people will go thru the whole bio-data of someone they tend to love or befriend? Love and frienship are not based upon such petty things like age, financial status etc. If it is based on such things it is a commercial relation. I believe age is just NOTHING when it comes to love. Love just happens without your knowing about the age or other such things. It is probably our social complexities that have instilled such feelings that for marriage, a girl should go for someone older than her, etc etc. If someone plans LOVE, it is NOT LOVE. Love has to be spontaneous, although one may take some time to declare it.
@Mike_yy (28)
• China
30 May 08
what a happiness you are enjoying. i have the same point of view with you. i think an older GF will better to me and everything will go smoothly because she maybe know more about male and no mickey of young lady's.
• Philippines
30 May 08
Everything matters in being involved in a certain relationship, including age or what we call "Age Gap". The bigger it is, the more difficult the relationship could be. But of course, the age of the mind is greater than chronological age. A young person who is very much mature has a greater chance than an older man who's immature. (^^,)
@Hanz08 (47)
• Malaysia
30 May 08
For me age is really matter.....
@lishiwei (1553)
• China
30 May 08
I'm care of it before because I was too young.But now I also don't care of it.I think we shouldn't think of age if you love each other.Yeah,my girlfriend also elder than me but we still very close and we love each other very much.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
30 May 08
you are right, if you really love someone then age shouldn't matter. it is the relationship that counts not the age. Cheers!