Have you ever been turned down for a friend request on MyLot?

United States
May 30, 2008 11:58am CST
Would you be terribly offended if another member turned down your friendship request? I don't think that I would. Well, maybe I would! I can't be sure. If I knew the person on Mylot and had asked them to be my friend or sent a friendship request, and I really liked them, well of course, I'd have my feelings hurt. But, I would understand. Some people are very selective about granting requests. It's not a personal reflection on me. And, that's OK. Have you ever been turned down for a friend request on MyLot? Did you still talk to that person on MyLot?
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@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
30 May 08
since I am new to mylot, I don;t remember if if was turned down by someone I requested to be on of my friends. Well, people have their own preference, if they don't accept my invitation, it's fine. Of course I would feel sad or maybe wondering why but we can not force anybody to like us. I would like to say thanks to everyone who accepted my invitations and those also who requested my as a friend. I will be glad to have friends all over the world because I know friends could help us in many ways.
@tdemex (3547)
• United States
30 May 08
When I first started I asked everyone to be my friend. LOL about 4 people did't respond for 3 or 4 days. I just deleted the requests. Know that I'm a little more savy, I probably should've waited. I see some of the friends I asked after awhile I really don't have anything in common with,so I've turned off thier notify reports. So the answer to your question is "I don't know" Thanks tdemex
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30 May 08
I haven't been turned down yet, but then I haven't sent many request either. If I was turned down, I wouldn't be offended. I would just take it that the person in question had had a look through some of my posts and discussions, and decided that we didn't have enough in common to make it worthwhile. No worries.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
30 May 08
I have never been turned down as yet when I have requested someones friendship, but there will no doubt come a time when it happens to me!! I think that yes, I would be a bit miffed about it, but I would not let it bother me too much as it is their choice at the end of the day!! I would still answer the persons discussions though, I would not go all snotty with them!!
@gemini_rose (16193)
15 Jun 08
Thanx xx
• United States
31 May 08
I have excepted all that have asked me to be their friend and approved it for I believe everyone deserves a chance. I will check to see which ones continue to be active or not. There has only been 1 that I have removed from my friends list for they never were posting or responding to discussions ever there post number stayed the same from the first week I started til a few days ago and I have been on here for a month now. I like all the friends I have on here and enjoy reading and responding to their posts. I personally don't go to people requesting to be their friend I useally let them ask me and I will approve them but that's just me every one is different.
@nupats (3564)
• India
31 May 08
i havnt been turned down so far but i dont think i wud mind if anyone did it...it is a personal choice..infact i have been removed by my refree frm their friends list bcoz we did not get along in our views and thought process..so that is also fine...it does not really matter to me...to those whom i have sent a friend request have always accepted me...and i am always open to new friends and new thought process...have a nice day
@Elixiress (3893)
31 May 08
I never request friendships on Mylot, so I wouldn't be offended as I don't make them and I talk to everyone on Mylot without making them. As I am not likely to make a great budding friendship with them then I don't really see the point. I only accept people if I can remember posting on a discussion they wrote or something, I don't accept random people.
@salonga (28016)
• Philippines
31 May 08
I have not experienced that! As for me all request of friends are granted without second thought. I never turn down anyone because the more friends I have here, the merrier and the healthier. However, I respect those who are selective of their friends... they are entitled to that and maybe they have good reasons.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
31 May 08
I don't think it's ever happened to me. If it has, then I didn't notice yet so it's okay. Also, I respect other people's privacy. Sometimes, members shy away from adding others whom they don't know or have never met in order to protect their privacy. I also hesitate before accepting a friend request myself. Most of the time, I check the person's page to find out more about him or her. Generally, I tend to invite those who comment or respond to my posts to become my friends.
@ZephyrSun (7385)
• United States
31 May 08
I haven't turned anyone down nor have I requested to be anyone's friend. Although, my husband has a mylot account and thought he was on his and apparently he denied all of my requests. So if anyone requested to be my friend I am sorry you were denied, my husband can't read lol.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
30 May 08
A few times. Like if they have been in here for a good while and didn't have any posts. Other then that I have accepeted almost everyone. Now the friend requests that I have sent I have never really gotten to upset. If they accept me that is great if not that is fine to.
@paid2write (5202)
30 May 08
I don't think I have ever been refused but I have some new referrals, and new members automatically get a request sent from the person who referred them. Only one has accepted me and become an active member. My others referrals have not become active and did not accept me as a friend when they joined. I don't know if you get an email informing you that your request was rejected or if you only get one when you are accepted. I would feel a little hurt if I got a rejection but if they don't send out emails I probably would forget I had made the request. It would not stop me from responding to a person's discussions if they had not accepted me as a friend.