Do you favor one of your kids over he others?
By sntrgbsn2
@sntrgbsn2 (32)
United States
May 30, 2008 8:55pm CST
I have two beautiful boys and just had a baby girl 9 months ago, and sometimes I find myself doing more for her then I do for them. I know that she is still a baby and I have to do more for her than the two oldest but I find myself sometime doing more like when it comes to shopping I am always in the girls and then I will go to the boys but can never find anyhing and then I just come home with something for the girl. Is there something wrong with me??? I do love all my kids but it just something about this little girl I try not to let them see that I do more for her but I think that it is starting to show.
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@thegyfted1 (55)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I have four kids, 21, 18, 11 and 9. My eldest, a girl, thinks that I favor her brothers over her. I really don't think I do and if I do, Lord knows I'm not trying to. I was the middle of three girls. My mom did favor my two sisters over me. How do I know...she co-signed for both my sisters' cars and my youngest sister even had an apartment that I know my mom helped her get. My older sister has passed, but my mom still hangs out with my younger sister more. I'm cool though cause I have my four kids to keep me company and a wonderful boyfriend. Because my daughter is the only girl, my family wanted to "spoil" her, but I wouldn't allow it. My daughter is so independent that I think she thinks I do more for her younger brothers. NOT.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
31 May 08
I think that it is natural since she is the youngest that you do more for her. As she gets older things will probably change. If you think you are showing favoritism, than YOU need to change it if you think the boys will notice or it will make a difference in the way things will go at home with them or anyone else who is involved in your lives. Obviously YOU think that it is a problem so maybe you should look at it and see if it is causing problems and change what you are doing to make it so lopsided. If it is not fair, make it fair. If you can't find anything for the boys and feel that it is not fair, don't get what you found for the girl.
@tshamilton (42)
• United States
31 May 08
I have two little boys. One is 4 weeks, the other is 19 months. I don't think I "favor" the youngest, but I do have to do more for him because he needs me more. And I don't think you favor your daughter more, I'm sure you love them all the same. But you do have more in common with another female. I think that having a daughter is just like that. You feel the need to baby them more and treat them quite a bit different than boys, just because boys are so carefree and well, just little boys. I wouldn't worry about it. I'm sure you'll find that the father will act like that more towards the boys than the girl.
