Opening up to strangers

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Philippines
May 31, 2008 1:06am CST
There are instances when we find it difficult to open up to our family. We would rather open up to some friends than any member of our family. But there are also times when we cannot open up to our friends either. When this happens, do we open up to strangers? Do you find that easier? I think that we easily open up to strangers because anonymity makes it easier for us to open up. Personally, I fear opening up to people whom I do not really know. If I can't tell anyone in my family nor to my friends, I would rather keep it to myself.
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
31 May 08
I do not have a good friend that I can talk with. I don't usually open up to strangers either unless it's like this. It's easy here, you get to know people by what they write and the discussions. I also know that if I meet anyone on the street they would not know me and I would not be embarrassed by anything I write or ask. This does not mean that I will write discremantly. There are just things and times I would not talk to or say certain things to a stranger.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 08
While there are things that we can easily tell some strangers, there are also things that we just keep to ourselves. Same things we can't tell our friends or families.. Thanks for sharing moondancer!
• United States
1 Jun 08
I do agree. I am pretty much an open book about myself.
• United States
29 Jul 08
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@Velina (11)
• United States
1 Jun 08
That's hard but I think you are being too hard on yourself. You sound very honest and straight forward. You obviously love your family and friends so much that you don't want to hurt them or disappoint them. If any member of your family had some bad news to tell you and told you....you'd be disappointed....maybe angry but you would not stop loving them. Its called unconditional love. Surviving the first blow is going to happen to everyone involved but the world doesn't end. Life goes on, every day. And somehow all the survivors do too. Then suddenly 10 years have passed and the survivors look back. Many with regret or not....depending on how each person took the bad news. When it happens its done.....but the love is still there. Telling your family and your friends of yourself only means you're human..... prone to messing up, far fetched dreams, desires or something they might think is stupid. It would also open a two way street for them. They can in turn tell you of their mistakes, far-fetched dreams and desires. Especially if you keep the communication open and tell them you still love them even after the discussion. Allow yourself room to react and recover and makeup. That's what will prepare you for the future. The strangers you allow in your life will become your mate, their family, their friends and your future friends. Don't tell a passing stranger your deepest problems weighing on your heart. They don't know you. Let those you allowed in your life and heart help guide and direct you through thick and thin. That will help protect you and guide you through the strangers you will meet in life. Strangers come and go, they are easy to find, just walk outside your home and they are there. Don't do that, if you keep it to yourself that's fine too but don't beat yourself and judge yourself about it. Keep it, stow it, forget it.
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
Well said... I hope that people who open up to strangers more than to their friends and families will be able to read your post for some enlightenment.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
31 May 08
I do not find it easy to open up to anyone anymore, actually. I cannot trust anyone these days and they usually do not believe anything I say or care about it either. I just keep my words to myself. It is hard and my life is very lonesome but I have no friends or anyone who cares to hear what I have to say.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 08
It is important to be very careful as it is not really easy to trust people nowadays. Do not think that you do not have any friends... I consider you a friend of mine. Take care!
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
31 May 08
Hi dolce_vita! I really find it difficult to open up to anyone, may it be friends, family or strangers. Everytime, I started to plan to tell a close friend of mine what is bothering me, I just changed my mind even before I start to open my mouth. What is ironic about this is that many people talk to me, family friends and even strangers just tells me what is in their heart, their problems and their pain. I am amazed why they can pour out to me everything that they feel but I can't pour out mine. However, it is easier for me here in mylot, somehow, I can open up little by little. Take Care and God Bless! Keep smiling!
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
Yeah, it's nice to have myLot around. I have seen a lot of people who open up with the myLot community.
@paid2write (5202)
31 May 08
I don't find it easy to open up to anyone and there are personal things I never talk about. I have been through some very bad times in my life and have had to face some difficulties, but I am a very private person and I just don't like discussing my problems. I will find my own solutions and do things my way rather than ask for help.
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• Philippines
1 Jun 08
Thanks for sharing!
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
1 Jun 08
I will rather open up to strangers than my frenz.. BEcause at least i wun get a biased opinion as strangers dunno me weel enough to give unfair jugdement.. PLus, if we tell our frenz and family members, naturally they will want the best for us and if they hear wat they dun like, they will even scold us, even though we are opening up to them.. In a way, it will turn me off by opening up to them, as i'm already sad and troubled enough, i dun want another scolding when i'm opening up to tell my problems.. I will just want someone to be there listening quietly..
• Pakistan
31 May 08
i am agree with you.but if other person also open then its more easier to open yourself with strangers
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@p_vadla (1687)
• India
31 May 08
Yes, me too. I'm not that anxious to pour everything on a stranger as soon as we find them.
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
31 May 08
well, i agree with you... sometimes it is better to open up to stranger when we can't talk with our family members or friends... i had done many times... they treat us better and without any prejudice... so it is really good... while if you talk to a friend or family member, their opinions might be very subjective depending on your relationship with them... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
Yup! I also think that one of the reasons why some people prefer to talk to strangers regarding certain concerns is because of our fear regarding how our friends and family would react and think about what we tell them...
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
27 Jun 08
There are times I have that fear of opening up to strangers. Well really, opening up period can cause a lock up. It depends on subject, time, mood. I really don't know which is easier, but if I was to say, opening up to friends is somewhat easier than family, and definitely easier than opening up to strangers. There is a trust factor that goes into all of this though.
@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
7 Jun 08
I have a terrible habit of opening up to strangers. Like, I often get asked what made me move to the place where I'm living so I tell people the circumstances that brought me here. I realise after a while that they don't really care that much but I figure that it doesn't make sense to only half explain.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I don't do that, not unless here in mylot..LOL, since we don;t know each other so oftentimes, i am comfortable asking and venting out! but, not in person with someone I do not know!Like you, I will rather keep it with me, write it and throw after and pray or meditate to release whatever bad energies I have!
• United States
31 May 08
I accually think it would be better to open up to just anyone. Anyone who will just sit and listen. I wouldn't want them to say anything after words. Just so i could get what i was feeling out into the open and off of my mind.
@sun2day (1063)
• Virgin Islands (U.S.)
31 May 08
I dont like the idea of opening up to people whom I dont know well enough. I tend to keep stuffs to myself, and when it's overwhelming I choose a close friend. I find it easier to talk with male friends. I think matters over several times or sometimes I pray to God about the situation. Situations/problems are not lasting and that is what I tell myself.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
31 May 08
I think God puts many different people in our lives that meet many different needs in our lives. There are things I can talk to my mom about and no one else. There are things I can share with my daughter or husband and no one else. Even with my mother-in-law. There are things that only she will be able to relate too. And yes, I may be going through something that only the lady standing infront of me in the grocery store can help me with. Fortunately I don't have those situation come up much in my life.