The closer people get the more they argue?

New Zealand
May 31, 2008 10:31am CST
"The closer the people gets, the more they argue just because they care for each other."(Emperor Huangfu; Romantic Princess) Is this true? What can you say about this? Did this ever happen to you? Please share your views...
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@zer0charly (5618)
• Philippines
2 Jul 08
I don't think so.. how about those who have a Long distance Relationship?.. they aren't close but why they relationship never work out?I guess, it really depends on the both of you. and of course, the closer the two person are, the more they get to know each other, and the more they will care for each other. and of course, I believe that communication is important to a relationship.
• New Zealand
2 Jul 08
yes I agree... communication is indeed very important...
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Yes I think that's true. Arguing, though very exhausting and draining, actually releases all the negative feelings and thoughts one has on another or on each other. It is an outlet of, usually, pent up emotions. When two people are able to take these out on an argument, what actually results is a sense of relief and release. But it should be noted that after an argument a peaceful talk should come after. This would result to a better relationship. But this is only true if the foundation of the relationship is strong; arguments cannot shake the relationship. But if it's weak, then things will go the other way. I can say these because I've gone through this with my partner. We have argued about serious and small things in the years we've been together. At first I thought that it would tear us apart. But little did I know that some arguments actually pull people closer together; it makes one person know the other better and will eventually make you realize what will make the relationship work. But again, serious talk must come after the argument. And the arguing I talk about here is not the senseless one but the sensible type.
• New Zealand
3 Jun 08
I understand... and that's one thing my past relationship lacked... two-way communication... I let her know how I feel and frequently asked her how she does... how she truly feels... but she barely talks...
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
2 Jun 08
Stephen Hawking in his book; Theory of Big Bang, described about the surface behavior of a platform such as earth. From the far you would see earth is a beautiful perfect round shape, but once you get closer to the surface, it's getting many rough/noise you would see on the surface; mountain, ocean, etc.
• New Zealand
2 Jun 08
I see your point... thanks it was very enlightening and I like that you used a quotation to answer my discussion...
• Philippines
31 May 08
Closeness is expressed to the people you care about. Once you care so much for someone, you tend to focus on what he is doing wrong and make it right. It is amazing and quite contraindicating to realize that the more you know a person,the more you can influence him, say anything to him, offend him and at the same time care for him so much. Simple things become an issue, which then leads to an argument. The best part is the ending, where no matter how bad the argument goes, you find a way to end it, forgive each other and start anew.
• New Zealand
1 Jun 08
Impressive thinking...
@Babymycah (166)
• Philippines
31 May 08
I think not. arguments are a result of misunderstanding. If you really love the person, whether as a friend, a lover, or a family member, you will take time to understand what the other person is saying. I will be a hypocrite if I say that I don't get hurt by what my love ones say or do but the thing is, I always try to understand the reason behind the deed or what was said. If I'm wrong then I apologize, If I'm right then I shut up and wait until I can reason with the person.
• New Zealand
1 Jun 08
Your patience is quite admirable... thanks for the response...
• United States
31 May 08
I think this is something highly variable. It depends completely on the dynamics of the relationship and the people in it. I have a passionate, loving, extremely close relationship to my guy, but we don't argue. We'll disagree and sit down and hash things out, reason it out, and discuss it, but we don't argue or fight, in the traditional sense. I don't do well with fighting or heated arguments, so the times that I've argued with someone, the only thing I've wanted to do is get away from them and stay away. Now, I have met people who'll have knockdown, dragout fights with each other and will be the biggest buds after everyone cools down.
• New Zealand
1 Jun 08
Yeah I think it's best to talk things out but not let a day pas without ending the disagreements...
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
31 May 08
Yes the closer you get with someone the more you will argue. Remember that there are difference in personalities and when you spent alot of time then you will get to know each other more. Sometimes the one you love hurt you and then you tried to forget that hurt and it just make you angry. The more angry you becomes is the more you argue. That is the reason the experts say that it is a must to compromise when you are in a relationship.
• New Zealand
1 Jun 08
that's some good advice... thanks for the response...
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
31 May 08
I think it is true. Though I don't think the arguing is serious arguing. Just small dissagrements that you know you can get away with because you are so close to someone. It is easier to disagree with someone you are close to.
• New Zealand
1 Jun 08
Yeah that's true... thanks for the response...