My child is an angel yeah right

Australia
May 31, 2008 10:55am CST
Why can some people always see things with rose coloured classes. I have met people that cant belive that their child can do anything wrong when in fact they cant be more wrong. I know a lady that her 16 year old has had to change 7 schools in 2 years and all she sais is its not his fault the schools dont like him. well ok if it was 1 or 2 but 7? He was in the local news paper on his bike recorded on the security camera throwing news paper set on fire in a school after hours and she sais no it was not him. Who are you keeding lady wake up before its too late. And its not just her there is so many parents out there doing the same. They are not helping their kids by pretending there is no problem.
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@jerzgirl (7892)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
31 May 08
I don't know - it's definitely frustrating. For some reason, they believe that to not believe what their child tells them (I didn't do it, Mom, honest!) is tantamount to not having faith in their child and that would simply destroy that child's self-image. I had one woman tell me to my face after her daughter poked my son in the eye with a fork and I saw it happen and caught her that she would ALWAYS take her daughter's word over another persons, even if they were an adult, because she knew her daughter would NEVER lie to her. Right. I'm 53 and I STILL lie to my mother when I feel I need to. I'm not saying you should never trust your kids or that you should disown them or anything. They're your kids and you do need to do what you can for them - but sometimes, what you need to do is have them held accountable! They'll never learn anything of value if you don't. I called the police on my son when he assaulted me and when he kicked in the side of my car. He was out of control and I didn't know what else to do. He had no respect whatsoever for authority. He ended up in foster care for almost a year. He's 27 now and even he says that it was the best thing that could have happened to him. Being removed from my home (through my doing) woke him up in a way that being arrested never did. I wish none of it had happened, but it made a huge difference! My daughter, on the other hand, while argumentative, has been far more responsible than her brother by a mile! She has worked since she was 17 and shared an apartment with her brother while finishing high school on her own, and now is an office manager. Like night and day, the difference in them. But, parents who refuse to see the potential for bad behavior in their children are only fooling themselves. And, the kids will continue to act out because the parent appears to not care what they do. Instead of raising responsible adults, they are creating a generation of hellions.
• Australia
31 May 08
That is so right. I know lots of people that say my child will never lie to me but I was a child not so long ago (I am 28 now) and I know that kids lie all the time. And yes its not all about beating your child or doing drastic things but finding a way to teach them right from wrong. It takes a big person to do what you did but I am sure you saved your sons life with what you did. People that ignore things that are out of control not only not preventing it but with their action they tell them that its ok to do it.
@jerzgirl (7892)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
31 May 08
Well, it was definitely not something I'd wish anyone else to have to consider because the state, by design, has to prove the parent is in the wrong, even if the parent has taken every step possible to get the child help. Thank GOD, my son's counselor backed me when they approached him for evidence against me!! He told them how much I had done to try to help him. The really bad thing is that many I went to for help just blew it off as me overreacting and that it wasn't too much to worry about. Until it got so extreme that I had to force the issue - then suddenly, they were saying I was wrong?!? But, still, it had to be done. Nothing else worked. I still feel bad, but am glad that he was placed with people who were really well-respected by both the state and the kids who stayed with them. He learned a lot there.
• Australia
1 Jun 08
And the thing in such situation as yours is that you are not the first nor the last person. The system and the gov. all over the world are failing millions of parents and kids.
@selby70 (283)
31 May 08
I was always saying it has got to be mine that is doing wrong, as I never thought any of mine were angels, and do you now when this persons child ends up in prison they will say how did that happen, I know so so many people like that but they were always good at saying I was wrong not to let mine run riot. Like you said may be 1 or 2 schools can be wrong not 7.
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• Australia
31 May 08
Apsolutly right many people after their kids end up bad say it was their fault and maybe they are right. Maybe we are wrong for always thinking our kids are not angels but we know that we cant ignore when kids are wrong and I am not saying that we should be always on their backs and all that but its our duty to show them what is right or wrong.
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
31 May 08
Well I know my kids aint angels so im not guilty of this lol. It is sad when parents dont get their kids the help they need. This is the reason we have so many problems in our world. Too many people just look the other way.
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• Australia
31 May 08
mine is not one of them as well, when the teachers at school say we have to talk I asume he bashed someone up or something like that (ok so he is only 5). Its not just seeking help the first thing they ignore the problem so how can they get help or make the child realise what he is doing when mummy sais " you did nothing bad baby let mum fix this for you" or and by the way when he is 18 he is on his own mum cant argue with the law or take fresh baked pie to jail.
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• Canada
31 May 08
The people with the rose coloured glasses drive me absolutely crazy!!!! I don't have any time whatsoever for people like that. These are the same people who let their kids run around in cafes, and don't do anything about it.
• Australia
31 May 08
When you think about it they are doing harm to their kids and mine and yours as well because lets face it they can be our kids friends and thats how good kids end up bad