Is wedding really necessary for getting married?

United States
May 31, 2008 7:49pm CST
I really want to know people's opinion about wedding. When I was small, I did think about what my wedding would be. However I don't really feel like having a big ceremony to celebrate my new stage of life. Maybe I am getting lazy now. I don't really want to spend a lot time, money and energy to plan a party that is (what I would say) "mainly" for my family. Well! Maybe my thought hasn't gone to the right direction, but I am really tired for pleasing many people around me. Anyway, I really hope anyone of you can help me with that. Please give me some suggestion and advices.
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@jonesy123 (3950)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Weddings have grown out of proportion with people spending the equivalent of a downpayment of a house or more on it. It's one day in your life that you should enjoy. However, many brides and grooms feel exhausted after organizing everything. Big weddings are really for the guests to enjoy, lol. I always dreamed of being the bride in white in a church and such and had my wedding like that. But we kept it small and within a small budget. Still, afterwards we thought we may have enjoyed it more if we just would have eloped. It's a special day for the bride and groom and should be held as such. There is no need to invite the entire world, lol, not even the closest family. If people get upset, they'll eventually get over it. If you don't feel like having a big party, don't have it. You'll just be miserable. Keep things small, and if it just your new spouse and you;)
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• Philippines
4 Jun 08
i don't think so. may today has been marrying without big weddings. this weddings are really traditional. for me, even if without wedding it'll be fine as long as you are legally married, in law and in the eyes of god. practically, because of the economy we should just celebrate weddings in simple ways, and save the money for the future. anyway, its the marriage and love thats more important. wedding is just a celebration. the matrimony is more important.
• Canada
2 Jun 08
Only if you want to. I think it's fine just getting married without a big celebration of party if you don't want to have one.
• Uruguay
1 Jun 08
If all you want is to get married you don't need a wedding. But anyway, it is fun to celebrate, so you may go for a beach/park picnic informal reception, it fits your budget and it's an informal and cozy way of celebrating.
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I had a wedding when I got married it was small (compared to some) 100 people. It was very nice--a garden wedding. And I loved it. That said you should do what you want. My parents were married by the Justice of the peace and they have been married 30 years. In fact, my mother encourage me to elope because of the money and time issue as did my grandmother. But my sweet father wanted to walk his daughter down the isle and I wanted a wedding--so a wedding we had. So really its up to you.
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
1 Jun 08
Hello, I also at one time wanted a wedding with all the trimmings. Just is not possible and too much money for the time being. I dont wanna keep waiting and putting it off because of money, but sometimes there is no choice. Each girl should have a magical day and I dont think it has to cost much if you do something you love. I would like to do a beach weddding package which would only be around $500 . The only thing is i would miss loved ones being there. I think you should do what you want and what will make you happy . You can plan something , short , sweet, and simple . Just gotta keep your eus open.
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
1 Jun 08
In my opinion you dont have to have a big wedding when you want to get married,for example me and my fiance are planning our wedding,and we want to have a kind of small wedding,with just our family and close friends there.
• United States
1 Jun 08
Eloping. Seriously, there's lots of great websites out there helping couples that would rather have a small, private ceremony. It costs a LOT less than a normal wedding, and you can just bring your two witnesses or have your immediate family or whatever. If you still want to include your family, but not in the ceremony, have a small reception, like a cookout or something, and have pictures of the ceremony and everything there. Honestly, I've thought about this for when I get married. It'd be so nice rather than having to drag everyone else into something that's really about the two of you anyways.
• India
1 Jun 08
its all a persoal opinion...where i come from if u dont get married ...u dont have a place in society.
• Canada
1 Jun 08
A wedding is only necessary if it's what the couple getting married WANTS!! If they feel like just getting married without any major deal, they can just elope, and get married in a court room, only making it final legally.