The use of my refigerator
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
May 31, 2008 9:09pm CST
Ny sister-in-law moved from her fiance's sister' house. She came over with a bag full of groceries. So my husband told her it was okay to put it in our freezer because we had room for it.. My husband did not mention this to me. So when I went into my freezer, I saw the food there, I was so angry. I was mad because, my husband did not bother to let me know that he was going to allow my sister-in-law's food to stay in the freezer. I am tied of my husband letting his folks just come into my house and leave things over without asking me. It makes me feel that I don't mean anything. I want to be shown respect.. Am I over reacting? I just want his family to understand that I have a say so when it comes to my home.. Tomorrow, I plan to do some grocery shopping, so I hope that this gets resolved. My sister-in-law used to pack up her parents freezer with food, and that is why I am very self-conscious about what she may try to do at my house. That is why I have the attitude that I have. I just don't want his family to think that they can make a habit of this. It is alright the first time, but the next it will not be..
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7 responses
@ambkeb (782)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I responded to your other comment, and i am going to stand by that comment and say it again..."EAT THE FOOD" lol Its in YOUR freezer you have every right to. you need to talk toyour husband about the situation. Make it known that you are not happy. Do not let them walk all over you anymore...Its time to put your foot down. LOL
@luvstochat (6907)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I don't think you are being unreasonable. It is your house too and you need to be asked too. I would be really mad if my husband just let his sister store things in my home without asking!
I think I would tell him you are going grocery shopping and you expect the food to be out by the time you get home.
@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
1 Jun 08
Had it been in our house we must seek for opinion of those who are concerned with this, like my Mom, or my sister. But here I see in your house, it is being used like a public service utility where anybody may come, keep stuff for storage, or do whatever they wish to do. Just a 'go free' atmosphere! Your husband and his sisters are using your house like a dormitory. Am I wrong in saying so? You would better let everybody who matters the most that there are certain areas in your house, like kitchen, or home appliances - where you need absolute authority.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I don't think you are being unreasonable. It is your house, you run it and make it work and when things like this happen all your plans are set askew. What if you'd come home with a lot of things for the freezer?
You obviously need to talk with your husband. Don't criticize his actions but tell him that you'd like to be consulted about his trying to accommodate his relatives. Your MIL and SIL have no right to invade your household without your permission. You and your husband have to work together, not separately. Yours is a partnership, not a competition or separate living arrangement.
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
1 Jun 08
You have to talk to your hubby about it. Just tell him that you need to be included in decisions in your house. It isn't just his so, when someone asks if they can leave something at your house, no matter what it is, you each need to confirm with one another whether the request is acceptable or not.
So, sit down with him and chat about boundaries. My hubby and I know that all decisions are talked about before they are made. If one of us gets asked to get together with another couple, we don't just automatically accept the invitation. We ask the other person if we will be available. If we are going to have company, we make sure we are in agreement about it. Your hubby just needs to have some boundaries drawn.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Jun 08
cream it is your home as well as your hubbys so
tell him just what you have told us, be blunt
and say I must not mean much to you if you cannot
ask me if I mind my sister in law doing this..Why
cannot sis in law take her darned groceries to whereever
she is now staying?
@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I can understand you feeling like his family is direspecting you. However you need to calmly and rationally talk to them. They may be unaware that it upsets you when they ask him but not you. Some people are blissfully ignorant of their own rudenes till someone enlightens them, at any rate it will continue until you confront them about it.
