Please help anyone with kids!!!
June 2, 2008 8:17am CST
I've been in a relationship for going on two years. My significant other has a child from a previous relationship (and the mother of his daughter knows we're living together in a relationship) They live about 500 miles from each other, and my boyfriend is going across the state to celebrate his daughters birthday and bring her back to stay with us for a while. Which I'm excited for, but when I asked to tag along and watch her celebrate her second birthday he told me no he doesn't want me there or feel like I need to be there. (And she has stayed with us before so it's not like this will be the first time I've met his daughter) Should I be offended or worried that he doesn't want me to be around to celebrate her birthday?
2 Jun 08
hi. Maybe after two years of being together, you are at least allowed to ask why. And whatever he says, you should accept it because you asked for it. Anyway, there are a lot of maybes that we can think of but are not really sure what the exact answer would be. Maybe, he wants to respect his ex wife and daughter, anyway, that is her day. She might have requested her dad not to bring you along because she would have to explain to friends so and so..So could assume many things and anything that comes to your mind might just hurt you. So, what better to do is, let it pass and don't get offended or worried. The day will come when you can spend every birthdays of your future step daughter when all is settled between them. But if you still wanna know why, go for it and ask..in a nice and calm way...
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2 Jun 08
Thats just it, I have asked why and all he can say is I don't want you to go. I would rather hear it's because of her family disagreeing to it. The daughter is only two years old so it wouldn't be about her explaining who I am, and if their relationship is over it shouldn't be hard for the mother to explain that I'm the girlfriend...they aren't together and everyone knows that. The thing that scares me the most is that if I am the Mrs. he still might not want me to go, and thats an issue I don't believe I could agree to disagree on.