Irresponsible parenting

Philippines
June 2, 2008 9:15am CST
I have seen on the news in our country, that a 4 year old boy was treated unfairly by his parents. A neighbor was troubled hearing sounds of torture and beatings inside the family's house everyday, so he reported to the police, trying to help the poor little boy. When the police came to rescue the child, he was tied with rope on both feet, lying on the floor, covered with blankets and a half sack of rice. When they removed these covers, the boy looked miserable, with bruises and cuts all over his body from head to toe, even a burned spot on the right thigh. You can imagine how he was treated so badly, while his mother is out for gambling and his two other sisters are also out playing with other children. Even when asked who did this to him, he said "Mama". It's very disturbing. Only the mother was charged of child abuse. The father's excuse is that he didn't know how it happened, since he leaves the house everyday to go to work. I don't believe the father, how could he miss to see those cuts/bruises all over his child's body? It's not that I want the father to be charged too, who else will take care of them if the mother is in the prison, but I know he was lying. I even cried looking at the boy on TV. I am a mother and I also discipline my children, but I can't imagine how the mother of this child could afford to beat her own child to the extent of treating him like not a human being. I'm just expressing my sorrow for this poor little boy. I feel pity for him.
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18 responses
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Just cannot even imagine how the parents has a heart to do like this..I'm also a mother of a todller..I try to discipline my child in a different way..I know he would never listen..So I go in his own way - playful way..But in this case, I don't think the boy has been punished for discplining..It is amazing how the parents can do such a harm to their own kids. It would be better if the boy grows in a social welfare organisation itself - atleast for the sake of the welfare of the boy..He should not be given ack to his father - such an irresponsible parents..
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
It was really sad to know about this. Specially for parents like us. No one ever taught us how to be a good parent but it is in our heart when we conceived of children. These parents don't have a heart. How come these parents do such to this boy?
@smilyn (2964)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I don't think these parents would have loved this son even at the time of concieving..Cannot tolerate their activities..I could not concentrate on my works after reading your post..I think they are the worst parents I ever knew..
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Yeah, me too. It keeps on coming back to my memory. That's why I just have to put this on writing to release my feelings, and share views with people like you and the rest who sympathize this little boy.
@katsmeow1213 (28589)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Yes, stories like this make my stomach turn. It's so sad. I'm glad the neighbor called the police and I'm glad it was caught in time. Now the little boy can go on and have a happier life.
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
The wife is now in prison, and the father is left with the 2 other children, and the boy is the care of the social welfare, because he has been diagnosed with severe malnutrition. It was very dramatic when the father and the boy part ways leaving the latter in the children's home for extra care before he will be given back to his father.
• United States
2 Jun 08
I don't think he should be given back to his father. Like you said, it's impossible for the father not to know this was going on. He allowed it to happen so is as guilty as the mother. The other children should be taken away as well, and the father should be charged.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Yeah, I really don't know how the police believed the father, but I really think the father has participated in any way by tolerating it. I don't know, but that's the decision of the police and the social welfare.
@Samanthavv (1395)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I don't see how a parent can do this. I can see how they'd get stressed and act in sudden violence, but not something planned out and premeditated like this woman! It's terrible. It's a good thing that she dosen't have that little boy anymore.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
She's really disgusting and not worth to be called "mother".
@iamnes (325)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
i was eating my dinner when i saw this news and i completely lost my appetite. how could such parents let something like that happen to their own blood? i think that a parent usually asks and reacts when she/he see a scratch or a bruise in her/his kid. how come the father never reacted with it? obviously he neglected his kid. he should have been made responsible also for that kid's misfortune because the kid is his responsibility. the sister also admitted that she was hurting his brother because he was so stubborn. i personally think that a 12-year old girl wouldn't hurt anyone especially her sibling if she hasn't experienced the same fate or maybe she saw the same act somewhere. a child usually tries to follow whatever she/he had witnessed, so a parent's guidance is really important. i wish that this won't happen to any child ever again. and that we all be vigilant against abuse and report it to the proper authorities just what their neighbor did. i hope also that these kids will grow up well and that they will overcome the trauma they have encountered with this event and with their irresponsible parents.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I was taken aback from my work at the time it was on the news. I lost focus and just kept on crying. Even my husband cried with me. I hope the boy will find a better life after all these.
@coffeeshot (3786)
• Australia
3 Jun 08
This is horrible. Just thank goodness that the neighbour didn't ignore the boy's cries and called the authorities. This child's mother has a mental illness. There's no other way to describe it. No normal mother could do that to their own child. As for the father, I agree with you that he is lying. He must have wondered what was going on when he came over every day to find his son covered in bruises and burns. I hope this mother never has the pleasure of seeing her son again and that the poor little boy is fostered or adopted by a new loving family.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
The neighbor absolutely did the right thing, or he will be haunted by his conscience if it was too late and something worst than that happened to the boy.
@KrauseHome (31752)
• United States
3 Jun 08
Well, being a Survivor myself who came from a very abusive Childhood, what I have learned happens is that it might not be that they do not know about it, it is that they tend to block out the situations around home or be afraid to report it. Hey you never know, he could be involved in some way as well, and just has not come out also. Whatever the case may be, hopefully they are able to save the child without not a lot of major trauma and damage, and hopefully justice at least for one child can be served.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that you have been through something like this. Yes, there may be some reasons for the father to be in denial, even before the authorities saved the boy. In that case, he's been thinking about himself and his wife only and not their son's welfare. He must have sought for help to stop the cruelty. In any way, he's been covering up for his wife. Anyways, we can do nothing about it, it's in the hands of the authorities and just hope for the boy's recovery and regain his ideal childhood.
@Hatley (146178)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Jun 08
Discipline is teaching not beating and not spanking. these are just adult aggression and often lead just where this 'sick monstrous woman went, to extremes. of course that' father had to know, the markson the child were there. whats not to know. I am sorry for the child also and sorry he had such vicious ignorant parents.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
You're very much right. Thanks for your comment.
3 Jun 08
shame on them! they are under the power of satan (irresponsible parents)! hell is there for them!
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Yes, aside from this earth's authorities, there is the One mighty authority Who will punish them.
• United States
2 Jun 08
If the father really did not notice that his child was beat up, that is incredibly pathetic. I really doubt he didn't know. How do you miss that many bruises and cuts when you hold your children? The father should be held accountable too.I wonder if the older children were treated this way too, when they were small. Some people should not ever be parents. Children are a gift. We as the adults are supposed to protect and guide them, not abuse them.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I really think the father is part of it.
@tuyetmai (30)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Oh no this is terrible. Some parents don't realize that being a parents is a blessing. They should not do anything to harm their childrens for any reasons. Me too! I don't believe that his father could do that to him. We do live in a cruer society won't you think?
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Yes I agree. Thanks for the comment.
@clix2bux (97)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Stories of abused, battered childern are making headlines across the nation and everytime I read one my heart goes out to that child that never knew what true discipline is just beatings and such... Stories like this just make me sad.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
It's really really very sad.
@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
2 Jun 08
Sories like this break my heart.Children are suppose to have a happy childhood with love.I pray the boy will find peace and a loving family. I feel nothing for the parents and wouldnt care if they were wipped of the face of the earth. Rot in jail !
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I really don't understand what happened in their home. The boy was abused while his older and younger sisters are not touched, happily playing with other children in the neighborhood. The three of them should be playing together.
@fluffysue (1415)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I never understood how people can treat their own children like that. And how could the father not know? Stories like this just make me so sad.
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I agree, he should know what's happening in his house everytime he comes home. He should have done something the first time he saw the boy with bruises and take care of him. Maybe the mother lied to him and he believed his wife. I don't think he also knew about his wife's gambling activities when he's not around.
• United States
2 Jun 08
This is awful. I cannot imagine how somebody could do this to a child. I wonder if the boy will be left with his father or placed elsewhere while they investigate further.
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
The boy is left with the social welfare for further care, while his father is left with the other 2 children. The mother is already in prison.
@Insung001 (740)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
I always thought these kinds of parents as irresponsible if not crazy. I really believe the police and authorities should interfere with family matters when the situation is already this serious. The parents should be charged. Both of them. The poor child doesn't deserve such cruelty. This is a very sad sad but true stories we often see. I hope people, parents particularly, learn to treat the child in the way they should be treated. I just can't find any excuse or reason for doing such horrible acts on children.
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
I agree. I think the mother is not in her right mind.
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
That's really cruel, how she possibly did this to her own child...? Hope the child overcome the trauma..
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Yes, the child is now in the process of recovery in the care of social welfare. In time, he will be with his father.
@subha12 (18463)
• India
4 Jun 08
it is not very uncommon case. in my country also, we have seen several similar cases like this.In that case all those abusive parents said they had no other way. i just can';t think how parents acn be so cruel.
3 Jun 08
sham on them! hell is there for them! they are underthe power of satan!