You know the " bride-price"???
By zhpshql
@zhpshql (693)
China
June 3, 2008 3:21am CST
Well, in my country, it's likea custom,,and I hate it.
Recently,one of my friend is going to get married, but he is now concern about money, because he has to give the thing known as the" bride-price'' How can people treat the bride as goods, oh, when I heard about that, I felt so bad.
So what do you think?
damn the bride-price!!
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7 responses
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
3 Jun 08
well.. am i glad to learn that in ur country u pay a price for bride? i think i am to some extend..here in my country india..a bride has to pay in lakhs for groom..."groom-price" for example if the boy is a doctor the price goes as high as 45-50 lakhs so the population of females are reducing on dialy basis...poor parents fear the fate of thier girl child and leads to many cases of foeticide.I cant understand why the price TAG...why cant people go get married and live happily instead of trying to make a fortune out of the "price" uve been paid for
@oriyadoctor (259)
• India
3 Jun 08
you are absolutely right.
But female feticide is something thats roots are way more deep than simply dowry.
Because its main fundamental is lack of equality in our society.
In Indian society it is still unheard of (equality on monetary terms).
Reservation in parliament was done in a day, that is lasting 60 years now.
But reservation in parliament for women is not allowed.
Many ancient royal families in India(both Hindu and Mughal) had this practice of female feticide.
So the basic that is lacking and leading to female feticide is just not because of poverty and dowry , but lack of respect and equality.
Ancient Hindu laws are divided on inheritance. This also plays a role.
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
4 Jun 08
you r right..its the lack of respec for women in our indian society that really counts
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
3 Jun 08
There's no such a thing, actually it's the other way round. Traditionally, when a woman and a man get married usually the brides brings money and some necessities like linen,and this kind of things, it is called dowry.
I have never hear of bride-price. I think that alhought it is probably thought of as a replacement for the daughter the family has given away, and in that sense a loss, I really doubt that this kind a lost can be replaced with money...specially because it is not a real loss considering the fact that the girl is alive and probably happily married.
But the traitions are something most of the people still respect so we have to do it too.
@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
3 Jun 08
No I have never heard of a Bride Price, but here in India, the bride family usually have to pay a sum of money as dowry. Although it is considered as a social evil, it is still practiced and people follow this BS.
bourne
@saverio (402)
• India
4 Jun 08
Here in india its quite opposite.Here the bride's side pays money or other material goods to the groom.And there is nothing to be shocked about it.Here in india its called dowry.Add guess what..one of the highest crime in india is dowry related crimes.Brides are tortured,slaved and even murdered if proper dowry is not paid.Its really pathetic.It's actually banned by the laws of this country,but bride's parents are forced to pay in order to get their daughter's married.
@oriyadoctor (259)
• India
3 Jun 08
Wow , in my country namely India this thing occurs the other way around.
The bride-price is otherwise called MEHR in Muslim countries.
Meher is money to be paid as the dowry to bride.
In Hindu religion dowry is to the son or the couple.
Now in India Muslims also have this Mehr.
But due to dowry custom's prevalence dowry is also taken by the groom.
So dowry is taken and Mehr is given in India in Muslim marriages.
My intention is to tell that be it bride or groom , they are treated as goods everywhere.
