will you scold your children

@megaplaza (1438)
Nigeria
June 3, 2008 8:15am CST
when you have children, will you give them the kind of punishment that your parents gave you when you were young, i think these days the punishment parents give to their children is becoming mildier everyday.
7 responses
3 Jun 08
i would scold my kids if they ll do something..n i hope they ll understnd when parents scold children tht means they love them n they dont want their kids to do somthing wrong.. if they wont scold them by wrong things...tht means they dont care abt them they would let them do anything they want..even though they knw its not good for example i scold my kid when he jumps on the bed..why i scold him ,m i crazy or mad NO coz i luv him i knw if he ll jump he ll fall down n can get hurt..i dont think parent scold children without any reason they always hav a fine true reason
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
7 Jun 08
you know kids always hate it when yuou scolf them alot, it is only later in life that they will realise that you really care about them all these while when you where scolding them.
13 Jun 08
well i dont care they like it or not they r kids they should knw tht parents has a right to scold them on wrong thing they rnt boss to parents .. v ver also scolded by our parents v never said a word to our parents and v knew it tht if v ll do it next next v ll b punished
• India
4 Jun 08
As it should be. Children mostly learn from their parents. So if you need to scold your children then you need to correct yourself. It is a pity that children get punished for the fault of their teachers(parents, acquaintances, relatives, school-teachers et al.)
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
7 Jun 08
nope, i think i disagree with you on that children tends to learn alot of things that they do from their friends. I can remember when we are small i learnt lots of things from my friend but i was afraid to do them, cos how my mum will smack me.
@mychattime (1013)
3 Jun 08
I agree the punishment has become milder mainly because over here in UK you can't smack your child, you can't do this, can't do that and children know their rights and feel they are invincible! Well I must be honest, I send my son to the naughty stair and occassionally smack his hand, not enough to really hurt him just shock him. I also take things of him i.e TV, toys, treats etc. Children don't have a lot of respect for their parents ar adults now, I know a teenager who talks to her parents like they are dirt, the child will swear and ahout etc at them. I am determined my son will not be like that to me although he already has an attitude but he is young enough to sort out (he's 5). Anyway I must just say what a great discussion, hope you get loads of responses!
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
7 Jun 08
thanks for your comment, i wish your son will have lots of respect not just for you, but for his elders.
@Babymycah (166)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
I have 2 children both of them are boys, a 5 year old and a 7 year old. I do scold them when they do something that is so wrong like talking back to an adult, initiate fighting with his brother or other kids or anything that will hurt or involve others apart from themselves. I try to teach my kids how to deal with people and how to show good manners to others. But if they committed something like spill water on the carpet, broke the tv or computer, burn or cut their finger accidentally, put a big hole in the sofa... no I don't give them scolding for doing these things... I try to make it a learning experience for them. If they broke something they should try fix it. If they can't then we talk about how sad it is not to be able to use those things anymore and how hard it is to get it fix. I don't believe in discipline by beating the child.. As parents we can discipline our child by being firm with our decision and not spoiling them too much. My children knows that I love them very much and that I will provide for their needs. They know too that if they ever want something and I can give it to them I will.
@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
4 Jun 08
it will depend on the situation. however as much as i can, i will avoid to scold my children later on. i don't believe about phisical punishment cause honestly, phisical punishment that my parents ever did to me still remains in my mind and i just hate it. i will try my best way to teach and manage their naughtiness without hard phisical punishment or scolding
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
3 Jun 08
If I become a parent the punishment that I receive as a child I will certainly give it back to them. But there are laws now that say that to beat a child is child abuse. Growing up these punishment work for me. I have become a adult that as respect for others. These children who do not get punishment they are disrespectful and so rude that there are times I am afraid to even walk near them.
@kezabelle (2985)
3 Jun 08
You can smack your child in the Uk what you cant do is belt them so hard it leaves a mark, although mark or not doesnt make it right but sometimes a sharp tap works better than yelling and screaming! If my children do something they shouldnt they are punished be that a smack or removal of a favourite toy or time out for a few minutes. What I prefer not to do is scream at my kids in anger that gets no one anywhere, I tend to give them time out and then scold them calmly its much more affective that way, I personally feel you should never scold your child in anger. And I dont think its abouyt punishment becoming milder but that the examples set by the parents arent always that good, children will copy any behaviour they see so setting good examples is the first step, punishing un-desirable behaviour is then the second