Would you share a spoon or fork with your boyfriend? Or, use your own?

United States
June 3, 2008 1:51pm CST
Does your spouse or boyfriend lick off his spoon before sharing food with you? Or, offer to let you use his spoon? Isn't that kind of gross or distasteful? I'd rather use my own spoon, thanks! What do you think? Share a spoon or use your own, when you're splitting a dish with someone else? This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Sometimes when I ask my spouse for a bit of his food at a resteraunt, he will gladly agree. Then he licks off his spoon to clean everything off and dishes some up for me. And, then I have to remind him that I have utensils of my own. It's very funny.
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@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
3 Jun 08
It doesn't bother me to share eating utensils with my husband or my son. That's about the extent of who I will share with, though. I figure I'm getting any and all germs they carry anyway by kissing them, so sharing a spoon, fork, or straw with them won't be any worse.
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• United States
4 Jun 08
I think it's the spoon licking part that kind of sets off my stomach. Then again, I get queezy over everything.
• United States
3 Jun 08
I don't see it as that big of a deal. Yeah when you sit back and think about it it can seem nasty but that is the same person you kiss isn't? Or do other things with! :) Now licking the spoon and then sharing it is kinda extreme but just giving a bit of food off of your spoon isn't that bad.
• United States
4 Jun 08
I wasn't trying to judge anyone. I've just got a very queezy stomach. So, it's a personal quirk. I get sick over everything. Even if the food smells bad or weird, I can't eat. It's just me. Thanks for posting that last part about your sister. Looks like there's only two of us in the world that don't like sharing spoons. Tee hee!
• United States
3 Jun 08
I meant to add more before I posted this. lol But yeah I'll share my spoon with my girlfriend and she share her's with me. We don't do it all the time but if she got somethin I want I am more than happy to eat off her spoon. My sister is like that though she won't let nobody eat after her or drink after her. She has been like that since I can remember.
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@miryam (6505)
• Italy
3 Jun 08
normal that i use my and he his, but if necessety i bot hane a problem......and he not have a probl4em but 2 are be4eter the 1 ahahah bye myryam
• Costa Rica
5 Jun 08
Thanks you take it funny! My wife and I share our meals frecuently, but this costume is just between us. Ti include others in this practice could be result on innecesary virus interchange...
@miryam (6505)
• Italy
5 Jun 08
costume?? ok me too Myryam
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
4 Jun 08
My husband would never do such a thing and neither would I. It is unsanitary. It is a wonder why you did not get a cold. Besides I have my own knife, fork, and spoon and if we were eating in the restaurant, I would take the food off his own plate rather than waiting for him to hand it over to me.
@tessah (6617)
• United States
4 Jun 08
"my husband would never do such a thing and neither would I. It is unsanitary." how is it "unsanitary" ? dont you kiss the man? how is sharing a fork any more unsaitary than having their tongue in yer mouth?
3 Jun 08
i dont have a problem with sharing a fork or spoon but i would so draw the line at toothbrush that makes me heave.
• United States
4 Jun 08
Toothbrush sharing? *Cringe!!!*
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
There is nothing sweeter than sharing things with someone you love and that matter most to you. If someone uses my stuff, I feel like I am being loved. Like he doesn't care if I was sick, or if it is dirty, or and so on.. It's just a matter of knowing that he cares and loves you.
• United States
4 Jun 08
What a sweet sentiment!
• United States
14 Jun 08
sometimes we eat off the same spoon but mot of the time we have our own
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I am very picky about germs and stuff so no, I wouldn't share a spoon or fork with Hubby or with anyone else. About the only exception I would make is if there were only one utensil and then I'd wipe it off really good. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I don't have a spouse or boyfriend but it wouldn't bother me if he licked his fork or spoon before giving me food from his plate. I would use his fork or spoon, too. If you are French kissing this man it is much the same, or even more saliva sharing, than using the same utensil, so what difference does it make?
@anawar (2404)
• United States
3 Jun 08
beautyqueen_ If I kiss him, I might as well share his utensils. The mental picture of him licking off his spoon before offering it to me is kinda' gross though.
• United States
4 Jun 08
Yeah, that was the part I wanted to emphasize. Using his spoon is not so gross as the recent "cleaning" of his spoon. Yuck.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
3 Jun 08
I don't see it as being a problem. I mean we kiss and well... you know what happens when you kiss, you're swapping spit basically. So what's the big deal? The only time it's ever really grossed me out was this once he took a sip of my soda after he'd been eating mac and cheese, and left cheese all over the rim of my soda, that was gross, lol.
@togram (10)
4 Jun 08
i agree!:))
@Anne18 (11029)
3 Jun 08
I have no problem with using my spouse's spoon/fork or any of my children's. We are all from the same family and if we do have any germs etc then we are going to have the same germs. I do teach the children that is only ok within the six of us and that they shouldn't do it with anyone else, as it is only accepted within the family.
• United States
4 Jun 08
I don't think it's a germ thing for me, mostly a habit thing. I'm just not in the habit. I suppose if I used his fork more often, then it would be OK or something that I would think was normal. As far as the little girl's untensils, she's picky too and makes me wash everything off. I think that I'm just picking up her habits! LOL! She dictates most of what I do anyway.
@dmcollie (217)
• United States
27 Jun 08
OK Germs no way, if he is your husband you swap germs with him in bed. So why not go ahead and use his fork or spoon. I love it when I ask my husband for a bite of his desert or even his food. He takes his fork or spoon and feeds me the food which I love. once he fed me ramen noddles with his chopsticks. Very amusing, So do I mind using his spoon or fork. We share a bed so we might as well share everything else. or as I like to say "What is his is mine and What is mine is mine." LOL
@moorange (319)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
i don't see any problem with that, me and my wife use to do it sometimes and it's a sweet thing to do...
• United States
8 Jun 08
Call me unromantic but I would never use the same fork or spoon my boyfriend is using. In fact I would never ask for anything from his plate.I have my own food and he has his own.In fact, unless he likes everything plain , I wouldn't want anything off his plate.I like having my own food because I don't like too much sauce or spices on my food. and besides I prefer a pizza and even then there is the plate the pizza is on and the plates we have but we don't share utensils.
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
We share utensils.We don't mind unless one of us is sick.
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
6 Jun 08
I usually eat from my own utensils. LOL!! but if I ask for a bite of something my So has and he spears it with a fork I wonder why bother. I see you have an issue with this but I have to ask you this. You do kiss him right. French probably sometimes right? Well your still exchanging saliva so what does it matter that he ate of the same utensil that he is offering to you? I know it seems gross but then agian there are things we do and don't even think of. LOL!!!
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
Normally I use my own utensil but on occasion I have shared one with my hubby. Or if there is something on his plate that I want to eat, I will use his fork. Or the same with me, he has used mine occasionally too. I don't think it is a big deal to use the same one since we do kiss and share our germs that way so what is the difference.
@tonibabe (189)
6 Jun 08
no i have no problem sharing any utensils my partner has used it saves washing 2 up lol it really doesnt bother me and i dont usually even think about it!
• India
5 Jun 08
Its Too Bad and Funny.Every Individual have there taste to express there love& affection in different ways ,but this is rediculous.Even Water in our Family we drink without touching to lips,that is from up .