My Stubborn Son....!!

@nupats (3564)
India
June 4, 2008 12:42am CST
every time we go to the market my son wants everything he wants chips, juice, chocolate and toys...sometimes it becomes very embarassing bcoz it is not possible to fulfill all him whims and fancies...he stamps his feet and cries out loudly, his face turns blue and all start staring at us and giving those looks..i dont know how to handle it and it is actually getting worse so i cannot ignore it any longer ..pls tell me wt shud i do? does ur child also behave this way?
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
5 Jun 08
u r not alone my dear my son do so mostly he get what he want, but then i ask my wife to say "NO " to him so he should learn that he cant be refused as well kids are same dear, just need to counsil them gently and slowly
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@nupats (3564)
• India
5 Jun 08
thank u so much i ned to work on this..i am too mild on him i think i need to b little strict with him..thanx for ur views..
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
5 Jun 08
U r welcome but dont be strict, be polite and make him understand that he had this thing already, and eating choclate is not good, and distract him, the best way, as he will be intrested in other things and stop insisting Take care
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
5 Jun 08
i had a daughter that acted like that. Do not give in to him...don' t do it. i used to just leave the store when she started acting up or wherever we were at. It was a pain but never ever did she get her way for bad behavior. she tried for years but I refused to give in to her. Today she is a beautiful young lady of 22.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
5 Jun 08
tht wonderful..i think i also must pull his strings tight bcoz he is giving me a tough time all throgh in various things..i shud take charge of him so tht even i can make a better person out of him in future..
@jashley1 (746)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I would definately cut off this habit immediately or it will turn into a big ugly thing later on. My children do not behave that way - sometimes they ask me for things. This is what we do though - before we go anywhere I talk to my kids and let them know what we are going to the store for and how I expect them to behave. Example - we went to the grocery store today just to get a few items - cereal, milk, fruit. I told my two older girls (3 & 4 1/2) "Mommy needs to go to the store for cereal, milk, and fruit. We are not getting anything else here. We are just going to go in and once we find these items we are going to check out. I expect you to behave and mind your manners. Listen to mommy's instructions" and they did just that. But I have three small children so I have to do this everytime we go out - it helps though! I never got in the habit of buying them something everytime we went out though. Sometimes if I want to get them a treat I'll get them one, but they don't ever expect it. You should definately not ignore that behavior though because kids are smart and your son will learn that if he acts like that in the store then mommy will get him what he wants. I hope everything works out :-)
@nupats (3564)
• India
5 Jun 08
thank u so much..i really appriciate your views..i think if u cud teach three children high time i take charge of my one brat atleast..thank u so much
@Rintis (646)
• India
4 Jun 08
I would say be firm, say no and stick to it. Let him throw all kinds of tantrums, there is nothing to be embarrased about. Also you can give him healthy options like you can say that he can choose the cereal he wants, the fruits and the veggies he likes, choose the flavour of the yogurt, etc.
@nupats (3564)
• India
5 Jun 08
that a grt idea i think i will try tht out though he is not a big foodie his intrest is TOYS..thank u all the same..