Holding Hands while driving..

@cream97 (29175)
United States
June 4, 2008 10:28am CST
My husband likes to hold my hands while driving.. My mother-in-law was in the back seat and I could feel her staring at us. I believe that she is envious of my husband holding hands with me. Why would she even be jealous of something like this?
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Maybe she is scared that your husband can't concentrate anymore in his driving!LOL!Just assure her, that we will be fine MOM! Cheers!
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
No, she is beyond being scared, how about being scared jealous..
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• United States
7 Jun 08
checapricorn I agree with you. Judging by all the comments I do not think cream likes her mother in law very much.
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• United States
8 Jun 08
I have the feeling too! Maybe both of them doesn't like with each other! LOL! Is it cream?
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• United States
4 Jun 08
Perhaps she just finds it inappropriate. Sometimes older people are just that way.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Well then that is why she does not need to be in the car riding with us, if she is going to have this issue. To be honest with you, I hardly ever ride in the car with her anymore... Having her around is the pitts..
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• Philippines
4 Jun 08
i think your mother-in-law has been very jealous of you for so many times. with the reasons that i can't really understand. based on the discussions you post about your mother-in-law. maybe she still jealous because she thinks you took away her son. or she may be jealous of you coz she never had the chance to experience with her husband the kind of treatment from your husband. i can't just figure her out at all.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Tell me about it! I am still trying to figure her out.. For what? Eight years now..????
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• United States
4 Jun 08
Because she probably never had that from her husband, and she's wondering how her son could be so opposite of her husband. She's also aware that you are the one he wants to be close to and she's not ready to let go, sons and mothers have a strange relationship, he's your husband, make him feel like your the only woman in his life. Mom's have to let go, its not healthy to hold on too long.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
No, it is not.. You are right.. After a while, it will be her that will be thinking that she is me..
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
4 Jun 08
strange isn't it? my mother in law tends to be the same way. she always is trying to get my husband to come do things for them but never invites me and his 3 kids. i feel like its always me against her for my husband attention. they always are asking him to do things for them when his 20 year old brother still lives at home and could be doing it. she seems to get weird around me when we are happy. but i swear if we argue in front of her she looks happy about it. and if i'm not being overly paranoid, i'd almost swear she has done stuff to cause a fight between us. others have told me they think it seems like that too.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
4 Jun 08
It sounds to me that we are dealing with the same wicked and evil mother-in-law!
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• United States
4 Jun 08
Maybe she's not jealous; maybe she just has nothing better to look at. Maybe she was contemplating how much her son likes you or something not unpleasant. You could always ask. :)
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
4 Jun 08
To ask my mother-in-law is to be told a flat out lie. She would never tell me the truth, even if it will cost her, her own life. It is sad, but this is how she is..
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
4 Jun 08
My fiance and I hold hands all the time while driving. He loves to actually and is usually the first one to do so. He also like to pull me close to him and have his arm around my neck. Those times are for when we first see eachother from being apart for several months. I honestly couldn't tell you why your mother in law is jealous of this. I think it might be that he is showing affection and maybe her husband never did this.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
4 Jun 08
No, her husband never holds her hand while driving.. He hardly shows her any kind of affection at all. Not unless he wants to unexpectedly climb on top of her, to do the nasty..
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@thedaddym (1737)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Perhaps it upsets her that she does not have someone to hold hands with like that. You didn't say weather or not she was married or in a relationship. Maybe it just makes her think about what she is missing.
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Yes she is married.. And she is missing a lot when it comes to her marriage..
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@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
4 Jun 08
It is so common a gesture in today's world that I'm surprised to know that your mother-in-law takes note of this trivial matter even at this time. I think she is reacting a little too much in your entirely private matters.
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@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Me and my soon to be hubby will hold hands when he drives and has a free moment or it is not too busy. Oh my cream I have no idea why she would be jealous , she should be happy for you two. I suppose it is hard when you don't have it herself. Might be a little bitter , I hope that is okay to say .
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes she should be happy.. And yes she is bitter..
• United States
5 Jun 08
my gosh . the stress she must cause.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes, and so much stress she causes..
@snakequeen (1300)
• India
5 Jun 08
I think this question can be better answered and understood,when we see our son doing the same thing with our daughter-in-law!
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes you will have to see for yourself..
• India
5 Jun 08
I said, we!
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Calm down.. Why the attitude???? Of course we... But I don't sweat that.. I would only love my son in a mother's way. I would not have that problem of being jealous..
• United States
20 Jun 08
My husband and I also hold hand when he is driving. We cuddle and kiss a lot as well. I think my MIL might have had just a little jealousy as well at first. I think it is because that is their baby and it is hard for some mothers to share their children. I mean they loved them first and through out their whole lives. The moms where their for everything the child needed as they grew up. When the kids need something mom is usually the one they went to. It has to be hard to become second in someones life. When a child get married the mom usually becomes second and that maybe where the jealousy comes from.
• United States
20 Jun 08
Yes you are right the love between a husband and wife is different from the love of a mother. Some mothers just have a hard time sharing their kids even though the love is different. I don't know that i can explain it very good. I hope that I am not that kind of MIL when my kids reach that age. But the only example I can give may not work. When my kids were little I was their hole world. They would look at me like I had the power of the universe. I loved the look they gave me in their little baby eyes. I felt loved and important. Then when they got older they realized that it was grandma that made the world go round. They gave grandma that look and many times told me I want to go live with my grandma. That broke my heart and made me a little jealous. It took me a little while to move past that and realize that they still love me and didn't mean to hurt me. I think with the mom it is she just don't realize that her son still loves her just as much as ever and that she should be happy that he has someone to share his life with. I still don't think my story explained it the way I wanted it to. I just know from experience that some moms have a hard time letting go. If she feels that you are jealous of her she may also be reacting to that as well. I had a hard time sharing my husband with his family at first and I know that once I got over that we became closer. But anyway I hope that you guys can work through it and things get better for you all.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Yes, what you said makes a whole lot of sense! I am not even jealous of my mil and her love for her son, I can never change that. I have a son of my own, and I would not ever try to stop him from loving his wife if he was to ever become married. I just wished that my mil was not so cruel. I wish I could let you see into all the mean things that this woman has said to me over the years.. And my answer is that, she did all of this just because she was so jealous of what her son and I had. Her own husband would hardly pay any attention to her. He would hardly be home, and he would be gone most of the time. It was very sad.. So, I guess she compared her relationship to mines, and she became jealous..
• United States
20 Jun 08
You bring up a very good point. She may be jealous of the love you two share because she don't have it in her life from her husband. So I think you are very right about that being the reason she is jealous.
• United States
7 Jun 08
Maybe she was just shocked that he did not have both hands on the wheel. That could be just as dangerous as using one hand to hold a cell phone.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Shocked while sitting there quietly... I care to disagree on this one..
• United States
7 Jun 08
Do you not know that people in shock are usually silent!!
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Yeah, and sitting there eye balled glued and all. My mil was staring a whole through us. She was not scared, trust me. She was more concerned with us two then what accident could occur .
@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Jun 08
She may be staring in horror because of the hands free driving.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Ha, ha, ha very funny... It was no where of being hands free. If I am not mistaken, he did have one hand on the wheel..
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@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Jun 08
Yeah I know that a single hand is capable of doing so many things.(whichever hand it may be)
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes you are right..
@cortjo73 (6503)
• United States
4 Jun 08
Probably because he used to hold her hand and now, he isn't momma's little boy anymore. He is another woman's man and, some mothers don't handle that well. They never handle letting go of their little boys well. Not all...just some. And, I think your MIL is one of those mommas.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes, she is classified as being a jealous momma.. But she has to understand, I am the one that has the right to make love to her son. She can't do this.. It would be incest which is sick..
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@cortjo73 (6503)
• United States
5 Jun 08
LOL! Ewwww!
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
23 Jun 08
What would make you feel that she is envious of you and your husband?? Did she say something to you about it, or is it simply because you saw her looking at you? ..just curious. Have a great day!
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
7 Jul 08
Just looking, and staring a hole through us both..
@djmarion (4905)
• Philippines
20 Jun 08
are you sure she look envious, I'm just thinking you are her grandchildren for the mother so why would she feel that way. isn't she happy for the both of you? I'm thinking that perhaps you only misinterpret her look, but if she's really envy i guess that will be because her husband did not do that thing to her back on their time.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Yes, she is envious.. Do you want me to write a book on all the things that my mil has said to me? After reading it, you will be convinced that she is indeed jealous of me.. She says that she is not.. But by the way that she looks at me, and all the nasty things that she has said to me, will make her appear jealous. If she is not jealous then she needs to stop acting like she is..
@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
7 Jun 08
Because she doesn't have it with her husband. She isn't jealous of you having your hubby, she is jealous of WHAT you have with your hubby. Maybe it has been a while since she felt loved. Maybe she feels like she is not given the kind of attention you are.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
8 Jun 08
Of course not! She is just jealous of what I have vs what she does not have..
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
5 Jun 08
From safety point of view, it is not a good practice. Though there are many ways of expressing love and affection, much safer methods can be adopted. When one is driving in a highway, it is quite natural and it is alright, because traffic can be easily handled in one hand.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Okay, and your point is?????
• China
5 Jun 08
when we go out my boyfriend always put his hands around my waist,and i will hold his arms.i think that when your husband didn't marry ,he is the only son of his monther,even if he didn't show feeling to her mother.But when he has you ,the mum thinks that he will never be his only son ,he is your housband,you share his son with her.Especially when you show love to each other,she can not stand and show envy!
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Yes, his relationship with her, is totally different from what we share.. She needs to start to learn this..