Arranged marriage or love marriage

@senjacob (124)
June 5, 2008 9:15am CST
My friend very much struggle to take a decision which one is best? He loves one of his friends for the past five years,but now a days he felt that he has a lot of fights between them.. so he decided to avoid his girl friend and going to marry by arranged marriage... why he is suddenly change his mind after five years? Is it good for him?
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10 responses
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
Arranged marriages almost always end up as broken marriages. Better if he fix his problems with his friend whom he loves instead of marrying somebody that other people set up or arranged for him.
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
Hi michel, Many couples lives happily done arranged marriage. how did you say alwaya end up as broken marriage do you love anybody? Love marriage also gone to break in many couples.. Love marriage or arranged is doesnt matter, the way of understanding or the way of love is matter...
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
I just think that when marriage is arranged, it is somewhat forced into them. Of course there are some cases when it does work. All I'm saying is that if there's a choice between marrying someone you love and marrying someone arranged for you, it is always better to choose the one you love.
• India
10 Jun 08
If you've been unlucky in love, you have the option of obtaining an arranged marriage. Keep in mind that while arranged marriages are common in places like the Middle East and in India, you don't have to be from either of these backgrounds to obtain an arranged marriage. Indeed, arranged marriages don't have to have anything to do with parents or other family members. A third party, such as a matchmaker, is usually all that's needed
@senjacob (124)
13 Jun 08
Arranged marriages are common in middle east countries. but i felt th at it is the best one. Love marriage always end up in failure. It is beettter to choose arranged marriage.
@Antianara (608)
• Australia
10 Jun 08
personally I would never marry unless it was for love and I think your friend is just using it as an excuse to run away from his problems.
@senjacob (124)
13 Jun 08
Yes,but in my friend side ,he was getting upset from his girlfriend.so he is trying a new girl..
9 Jun 08
Being in a marraige invovled with love is much better than being with someone you couldn't care about. Love conquers all, and arranged marriages are what their called,arrangements. This marriage will make you more unhappy.
@senjacob (124)
13 Jun 08
not like that,before marriage,if they close together,it will have a chance to end up the marriage.bur after marriage,love is necesary,they can do it.
@ryshawneo (405)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
Of course, i prefer love marriage. It's so cruel to have a marriage arranged for you. :) how can you be happy with that? We dreamed of having a happy family and marriage, so it should be love and not by force :)
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
Everyone tells love marraige is the best..bu tnot like that.. Arranged marriages are to be succesful ..
• India
5 Jun 08
There are no hard and fast rules about it. For some, love marriages work fine. For others, arranged marriages work better. If your friend's relationship is not working out and if he feels the best way out is to have an arranged marriage, then let him go ahead. I am surprised that it took him five years to find out that his relationship is not working. It is funny that a relationship that was fine for four years suddenly turns sour. But, I guess all sorts of things happen in the world. Cheers and happy mylotting
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
Welcome Mr positive, Thanks for your information.. In all intersts areas you are present always.. i am very happy about your all responses.. I wish Your Positive thihnking is always grown up..
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I don't believe in arranged marriages first off. And if your friend thinks that being married that way is going to cut down on the fights he is very wrong. All marriages have fights but it's the love that lies beneath that makes them worth it and helps the couple to move past them. I think he is making a big mistake walking away from 5 years of love and will probably regret it later.
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
Yes freedomg, Everyone can telling like this,but he refuse to accept that.. Five years is too long ,it is difficult to take another girl . But he is going to realize after mariage only..
@beybes08 (125)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
that's stupid. Sorry, but fights are actually positive. Okay, maybe not all the time. But it's a sign that they should think of if they can live without each other. Leaving his gf for an arranged marriage is so not the answer.
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
How can you say that is stupid..Even fights are positive,it is something limited.. They can live without each other i think so.. Because lot of misunderstanding between them... Anyway thanks for yor advice
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
5 Jun 08
It is good to have an arranged marriage with lots of love put in it.
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
Yes absolutely .. Love the guy after marriage
@Mirenia (199)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Honestly, I do NOT believe in an arranged marriage. How can you marry someone you dont even know? Dont even love? It just doesnt make sense to me. I would never do something like that. I would much rather be with someone that I know and that I truly love and want to marry rather than have someone that I just met marry me. I dont really think that its good for your friend but if he truly feels that its what is best for him then he should go for it. But like I said, I dont believe in doing that.. I believe in finding true love with someone that you've gotten to know over time not basically being forced to love someone that you dont know.
@senjacob (124)
6 Jun 08
hi mirenia, Thanks for your information.. But i do not agree about you some points... Last few decades,arranged marriage only happened for our parents..No need to marry someone after knows about him/her. Love is one of the ways to do marriage.. But saying without knowing i cannot marry anybody is not advisable..