Guys: What type of woman do you respect? Girls: What type of man do you respect?

@anawar (2406)
United States
June 5, 2008 1:10pm CST
A guys perspecitve: Spill all your secrets guys. What do you look for in a woman? What type of woman do you respect? A girls perspective: What do you want a man to respect about you? Or, what kind of man do you respect?
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
6 Jun 08
I only want a simple woman who can cook and lokos after the family well.. It's ok to me that if they dun dress up well, wat matters most is they are true to me and i will respect that alot.. Simple is beauty, too much of expectations will turn reality into fantasies.. By that time, the person standing in front of me, will not be the same person i used to respect or loved ^_^
@anawar (2406)
• United States
6 Jun 08
kun_ I'm always impressed by your answers. You convey so much wisdom for the rest of us to learn from. Your thoughts on expectations are the same as mine. But I liked the way you wrote it out_ starting with_ Simple is_ Would it be okay if your wife worked, or would you prefer her to stay at home? It sounds like you want someone at home to greet you with love and have a meal prepared for you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with everyone on mylot.
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
7 Jun 08
Thanks for your compliment ^_^ hehe.. I guess it will be okay for mmy wife to work if she wants to, after all, she has got a choice, and i dun wanna restrict her freedom by making her stay at home ^_^ BUt if we have got kids, i will definitely let her choose, because i wun want her to become too stress by things ^_^
@anawar (2406)
• United States
8 Jun 08
It's difficult for a womsn to make a choice. We (some of us) want to stay at home, but ecomomics can take away our choices. I didn't send my kids to daycare when they were young. When they got older, I wanted to work and it felt like the right thing to do at the time. Keep up with your open mind. You'll win a lot of hearts that way.
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Anawar,I respect a man that will accept me for who I am, and not try to change me.A man that is honest and one that I can trust.Someone that I can talk to about anything, and he will not judge me, or put me down because he has a differant opinion than I do.Someone that has a good sence of humor, that I can laugh with and can joke around with.A man that has things in common with me.Someone that would love to take me places and do things with me.I want a man to respct that I am a strong woman,but I do not want them to take my kindness for weekness.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
6 Jun 08
sunkissed_ That's interesting. I have a strong personality for a woman and it does take a different kind of man to handle it. I'm sitting here thinking about your last sentence. Will or does someone mistake kindness for weakness? I suppose some really scuzzy guy would. gosh, I hope I've learned enough to see that kind of guy coming my way!
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@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
6 Jun 08
anawar, I am a very kind person, I will give someone the shirt off my back. But there are some men that will use this against you, they will try to see how far they can push you, or try to borrow money,They make mistakes, and ask you to forgive them,saying they will never do it again, but they do.. befor you know they will walk all over you.But I do not need a man, to keep me, I can do bad by myself, everything I have I got by myself..
@anawar (2406)
• United States
6 Jun 08
sunkissed_ we are too much alike. I wonder if either one of us will ever find a man to love?
@littleowl (7157)
5 Jun 08
Hi anawar-personally I respect a man who is honest and sees my character and personality for whom I am as a human being-the last thing I hate is being hit upon for one reason and that only-that is the worst-your friend littleowl
@anawar (2406)
• United States
5 Jun 08
Hi my friend littleowl. It was challenging for me to answer my own question, that's why I asked it. I like your ideas and you express yourself well. I'll remember your words. You decided single was best for right now, correct?
@littleowl (7157)
5 Jun 08
Hi anawar-for now that is the best for me but do have a long distance relationship with someone I have known for roughly 12yrs-he lived not far from me so we saw a lot of each other but his heart has alsays been with horses and he bought a yard in a racing village 2hrs away-we both are very independent the trust and communication is aways there we also see each other as much as possible-he is very honest,kind,he respects me for whom I am my personality and character,he is polite and in every way of the word a 'gentleman' I consider myself to be very fortunate to have such a lovely caring man in my life and as we are both independant and have our own lives we both have each others interests at heart as too of which we both can enjoy too-your friend littleowl
@anawar (2406)
• United States
6 Jun 08
littleowl_ I'm so pleased you told me about your relationship. I know nothing is perfect, but your love for each other is beautiful and inspiring. Long distance relations can work! I always wondered about that. I can't go off topic here, but I wish I knew what your partner does with his horses! Does he race them, or ride them, or something else? You can pm me if you feel like telling me. It's up to you. anawar out. little owl.
@dragon54u (31352)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I don't want any more men, ever. But if I did, I would want him to be honest and not think anyone owes him anything just because he's on earth. I would want someone intelligent and able to hold an interesting conversation, one with an open mind but not so open his brains fall out. I would want a man that respects others and is secure in his masculinity so he doesn't have to keep proving it with dumb stunts and stupid attitudes. One that's spiritual and always does the right thing even if it costs him. I wouldn't care what a man looks like, he can be bald or "ugly" or short or fat or thin--as long as he met the above qualifications.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
5 Jun 08
dragon_ Ouch, it sounds like you've experienced one too many bad relationships. I love your description of having an open mind but not enough for his brains to fall out! I like your qualifications. Would you respect a man who had been married three times?
@dragon54u (31352)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I would respect him for trying but suspect he didn't have much sense. I probably wouldn't consider him marriage material, as he obviously has unresolved problems that he hasn't faced and solved.
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
8 Jun 08
Someone pure (or more accurately very decent). Someone who is real but decent inside and out. Someone that honestly loves me, period end of story. Someone that doesn't mind alone time moments here and there or time with friends and/or family. Someone who can actually live up to what they say and believe (i.e. real equality/fairness and actual investment in the relationship). And of course it would be great to be respected by my partner instead of being shortchanged in that regard.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
9 Jun 08
theprogamer_ All of your suggestions are right on target. My daughter is married to an older man who keeps her from our family. I like independent guys who are secure enough to give me alone time.
@ibcandy2 (40)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Me personally, I respect a man who knows what he wants in life and is trying to get what he wants. I respect a man who is sure of himself but not cockey or arrogant. I respect a man with a sense of humor but can handle business when it is time to do so. I respect a man who respects and charishes family living. I respect a man who doesnt smoke and drinks socially. I respect a man who lets me be me and that I can have good conversations with. I respect a man who always is trying to better himself. It is these characteristics that I respect and that I would want in a man myself.
@92iqbal (121)
• India
11 Jul 08
in general all women(girls)are respectable.they must be respected. they are you and you are from them. if a woman is woman, i mean to say she does what is her duty in the walk of life and is sincere and candid then i would say , i like such a woman more.
• China
6 Jun 08
i want to choose a man who can take good care of me, and help me when i have some difficult !